Daddy's Little Girl: Second Edition

[Angedesoleil]

thank you all for your posts and pm conversations to help me figure myself out. I'm clearly not cut out for ddlg, i just needed help talking things out, learning more, and being asked hard questions. Thank you litsters.

* thumbs up* you'll find your niche. Nods.

 

[barefootgirl69]

I'm scared and I'm hurting, excuse the tears

Question - does anyone else ever worry, ponder that they could do more for their Daddy?

Cos they do a lot for you and you think do you do enough for them?

Just wondered if this was just me or if anyone else has this sometimes.

Especially this week.
We have agreed that I'll be his virtual assistant, but I wish there was more I could do... like actually be there with him holding his hand because he's scared. I'm scared for him...and, selfishly, scared for what this might mean in our relationship.

I'm also praying for a Daddy friend who is dealing with something terrible today. He's just mind boggled at how this happened, WHY it's happened. Questioning himself, feeling like he missed something that might have changed things so that today he wouldn't be 'punching the coffin' of a friend.

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Lilli, it was beautiful what you wrote.

 

[lillianaZ]

Especially this week.
We have agreed that I'll be his virtual assistant, but I wish there was more I could do... like actually be there with him holding his hand because he's scared. I'm scared for him...and, selfishly, scared for what this might mean in our relationship.

I'm also praying for a Daddy friend who is dealing with something terrible today. He's just mind boggled at how this happened, WHY it's happened. Questioning himself, feeling like he missed something that might have changed things so that today he wouldn't be 'punching the coffin' of a friend.

Tons of hugs! Thinking about you and your Daddy friends.

 

[SubTulip]

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[cookiecat]

Especially this week.
We have agreed that I'll be his virtual assistant, but I wish there was more I could do... like actually be there with him holding his hand because he's scared. I'm scared for him...and, selfishly, scared for what this might mean in our relationship.

I'm also praying for a Daddy friend who is dealing with something terrible today. He's just mind boggled at how this happened, WHY it's happened. Questioning himself, feeling like he missed something that might have changed things so that today he wouldn't be 'punching the coffin' of a friend.

•••

Lilli, it was beautiful what you wrote.

Blessings for both you and Daddy.

 

[cascadiabound]

Tons of hugs! Thinking about you and your Daddy friends.

Blessings for both you and Daddy.

Adding my blessings, hugs and good thoughts and prayers for both you and your daddy and his friends, bfg.
We never know how much people are struggling behind these screens.
*pushes a box of tissues across the coffee table, puts on a pot of tea.
Hugs and back rubs as you need.
Grace and love.

 

[ExiledWelshman]

Sorry if my post earlier was shitty and if it rubbed anyone the wrong way it wasn't meant to.

Today has been THE WORST and my head has been a mess.

Won't be around for a little while.

Behave while I'm gone.

 

[LostGirlTink]

*hugs to everyone having a bad week*
I've had some really awful bad week stuff myself too.
I've tried to temper it with some really amazing good week stuff too.

Tea?

 

[cascadiabound]

*hugs to everyone having a bad week*
I've had some really awful bad week stuff myself too.
I've tried to temper it with some really amazing good week stuff too.

Tea?

Will your magical tea cure what the MD so far can't fix?
Sign me up.

 

[Angedesoleil]

I hope everything gets better for him and his friend. I'm sure he is glad that you make his world even a little or a lot better.

 

[LostGirlTink]

Will your magical tea cure what the MD so far can't fix?
Sign me up.

No but glitter might. *throws some*

 

[Nzerxx]

I am not a little!
*stamps foot, clutches my stuffie to my chest and sticks out bottom lip*
In fact, I may not even be a sub…technically.
Actually, factually, I don’t like labels. I don’t really see any reason to use them to define myself.
But I have a Person.
Daddy doesn’t really fit for me, even if that is what he is.
He’s not my Dom. Although I (sometimes) let him be.
He is my Person. He gets to see all of me. All of my insecurities, all of my fears, all of my ‘litteness.’
All of my everything and all of my world. I’ve held nothing back.
He is my voice of reason. The one I turn to when I don’t know what to do. The one who keeps me company when I’m alone and scared. The one who gently nudges me to do the daily life stuff I don’t want to do. The voice I hear encouraging me when I don’t think I can do keep going. He is the one I lean on when I’m not strong enough. He is the one who is there during the nights when I cannot breathe. He is the only person that I lean on…at all. I’ve not felt comfortable sharing myself with anyone else at the level that I’ve shared with him.
When I’m overwhelmed, I imagine leaning into him and his arms around my waist. When I have nightmares, it’s always him I curl into.
He is the protector of my breath. It’s these and a thousand other little things that get me through the toughest days and the longest nights.
But I’m only HIS little and only HIS sub. I would do anything in my power for him and only HIM.
I don’t know that I will ever be what I am for HIM with anyone else. Ever. He is the the only person I have ever let get that close. I’ve never been as open or as trusting with anyone, and honestly, with some things that have happened recently in my life, I’m not sure I ever will be again.
So, in my mind he is my Dominant, even if I’m not really his sub.
That isn’t something that is dependent on his relationship status. I want him to meet someone in real life. I want to see him happy and content.
I respect whatever he wishes and whatever he desires. I will listen silently or give advice. I will do whatever he wishes if it is within my power. He is the only person in the entire world that I am willing to obey. He has my respect, my loyalty and my gratitude and I will do anything that is within my power for HIM.
At times, I’ve tried to shut him out. Close it down. I don’t need him.
But I do “need” him.
When I did shut him out I was sad.
And it hurt.
And I literally grieved.
And I got depressed.
And I didn’t want to get out of bed.
And I felt physically ill.
And I cried.
*I do NOT fucking cry* Fucking ever.
In return for what he brings into my life, I give him everything I can.
All the support, all the encouragement.
Anything he wants.
Anything he asks. (Mostly…because I’m mostly good.)
Stuff he doesn’t ask.
It’s not a very fair exchange.
As far as rules…well…Nope! If the rule is “because I said so”….FUCKING NO! I’ll so do the complete opposite because, well, fuck that noise.
But yes, if the rules make sense then I’m willing to follow them.
If the rules are to protect me…
Then yes.
If they make sense…
Then yes.
If they are to help me…
Then yes.
When I ask his advice, it’s because I really want to know what he thinks. If he offers his opinion, I’m going to consider it carefully. I may not agree, but I will listen and consider it. I will listen if it makes sense to me. If it doesn’t make sense, I’ll ask for clarification.

Uhmmmm…so I’ve totally derailed the thread but…Yeah, this was on my mind tonight.
Oh, and hugs. Yes, absolutely hugs mean different things and you can tell a lot from a hug! I go to yoga because there are hugs. If it wasn’t for yoga class, nobody would physically touch me. Hugs are essential to life, I think. IMHO.
Now I’ll shut up, stop writing a bloody novel, and go back to my usual random posting.
(love you all!)
Lilli

Hi Lilli

I just want to say that was the most beautiful thing I have read in ages! Basically describes me Cept I am little sometimes I think

My Sir (LDR) is the best hugger for me he is never not touching me We laugh and he is The best part of my day EVERY day

 

[HeavyBalls]

Hi folks,

I know I've promised a lecture, and I still intend to deliver. Just I've been in a very dark place for the last few days. I promise I'm OK.

 

[SubTulip]

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[barefootgirl69]

Hi folks,

I know I've promised a lecture, and I still intend to deliver. Just I've been in a very dark place for the last few days. I promise I'm OK.

Listen to Tulip, she has good advice.
I'm glad to know you're okay.

 

[barefootgirl69]

Peter Rabbit on Netflix.

I told the kids they had to watch it so I could use them as an excuse!

 

[SubTulip]

Peter Rabbit on Netflix.

I told the kids they had to watch it so I could use them as an excuse!

Lol! Was it good?

 

[HeavyBalls]

Hi folks,

I know I've promised a lecture, and I still intend to deliver. Just I've been in a very dark place for the last few days. I promise I'm OK.

Lecture has been posted in the castle.

 

[barefootgirl69]

Lol! Was it good?

It was pretty cute.

 

[lillianaZ]

It was pretty cute.

I haven't seen it yet. I loved reading the books to my son when he was little though!

 

[barefootgirl69]

I can't sleep. I'm waiting though I know I won't talk to him again until I wake. You'd think that would be incentive, right?

I have 4 stuffies in bed, too. Piglet, Christopher Bear (no relation to Pooh), and 2 racoons - Bandit, that I got from Daddy for Christmas; and Rocco, he replaced Bandit when I left him in Albuquerque. I took Bandit back to my brother's funeral, and he was left as we traveled home. They finally found him five days later after a bad review on TripAdvisor - so now I have 2.

*sighs*

 

[formertroll]

I miss you all.

Can i still lurk?

 

[RustyIron]

I can't sleep. I'm waiting though I know I won't talk to him again until I wake. You'd think that would be incentive, right?

I have 4 stuffies in bed, too. Piglet, Christopher Bear (no relation to Pooh), and 2 racoons - Bandit, that I got from Daddy for Christmas; and Rocco, he replaced Bandit when I left him in Albuquerque. I took Bandit back to my brother's funeral, and he was left as we traveled home. They finally found him five days later after a bad review on TripAdvisor - so now I have 2.

*sighs*

Hoping your ok BFG, look after the critters. Hope they don't bite.

 

[ExiledWelshman]

I miss you all.

Can i still lurk?

Why lurk? Why not contribute?

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I can't sleep. I'm waiting though I know I won't talk to him again until I wake. You'd think that would be incentive, right? <snip>

*sighs*

Still up? I hope not. {blows a quiet kiss x}

I was up late doing laundry for the kids, got busy writing for one of my threads, and then time zones being what they are, had a middle of the night visit from a close friend. It was a very good visit, but now I'm awake thinking about that, and then the puppies needed food and water, my tooth is bothering me... And here I am, still up at nearly 5am.

Some of you may know I'm a switch. Sub-heavy, but I'll switch it up for someone I want to spend time with who isn't feeling the Dom vibe. Or another switch! So I've been doing a bit of that lately, and the timing has been great.

I'd really been struggling with how needy I feel when I'm in little space, how much of a burden I feel I am to my partner, and it's been a relief to not be dealing with that particular issue for the time being. It's also given me the distance needed to allow me to think about how married i am to the DD/lg dynamic.

Do I love being little? Do I love being Daddy's good girl? You betcha! But I'm coming to understand that - for me - there are things more important, more necessary, to my relationships than being in a full-time DD/lg situation.

I never thought I would say that! But then, I never thought I would ever not feel little, and yet I went through a period of several months during which that seemed to have been taken from me, and I didn't know if it would ever return. It did (Oooo, I've just remembered that i still owe a post on that subject!), as more of a want than a need, which has given me a freedom to explore outside that dynamic that I hadn't felt before.

Gosh, this is getting wordy! Where was I going with this... ?

We've had a few posters here who have commented that they can identify with some characteristics of a Daddy or a little, but they don't feel the label really fits them. And then someone else who did some talking and thinking and decided that they definitely weren't a Daddy. LOL!! I say good for him, to have been open-minded enough to consider the possibility and seek out others with experience in this area to help him get it sorted.

I think what I want to say is that I'd like to encourage people to think of labels as a way to connect with others with whom you have something in common that is characteristic of the label. But for Pete's sake, don't get so hung up on the darn things that they hinder you from stepping outside the perceived boundaries of the label, or thst they hinder someone else from joing in the conversation. Ya know?

Dang it, there was something else, but my tooth hurts and I can't remember. Anyway...

I have a person 'round these parts who's pretty special to me. When we were new, we started out talking labels and who should do what, and somewhere along the line we got so busy enjoying one another's company that we forgot to care. *shrug*
So now we do whatever we want, and whip out a label or two when it makes it easier to talk about a particular aspect of our relationship. Recently we had this conversation:

Him: What's on your mind?
Me: Will you dom me this week, please? I need a break.
Him: Anything for you. ( hehe )

And that was that!

Relationships are so much more... nuanced than Tumblr or Pornhub or K&P at Fetlife would lead us to think. Don't let anyone tell you how to do your relationship, just enjoy figuring it out for yourselves, together.

Yeah?