Daddy's Little Girl: Second Edition

[angelofthenorth]

just popping in to say hello

 

[barefootgirl69]

Enjoy the rest of your mini vacation and have a wonderful day!

LOL it hasn't started yet!

just popping in to say hello

Hello, Angel! Good to see you

 

[angelofthenorth]

LOL it hasn't started yet!



Hello, Angel! Good to see you

thank you, just thought i'd stick my nose in before i go find something for tea

 

[ExiledWelshman]

just popping in to say hello

Hello pud

 

[angelofthenorth]

Hello pud

hello Jelly Baby

 

[cookiecat]

Yes, this... so much.

Littles CAN be protective of their CG. We aren't stepping out of our submissive place, at least I don't feel like I am, to care and nurture, too.

Thank you, cb!!!

Remember your D/CG is also looking at you for HIS soft place to land when he fails. They are often very hard on themselves, so it’s just as important for his sub to support him, love him, treasure him, reassure him as it is that he does all this for her.

It’s a relationship, support each other.

<snip> But, I think it's important that the clear and concise communication flows both ways. That the lg doesn't have to guess what the DD means. And the DD doesn't have to guess what the lg feels.

BFG, you asked (earlier - a few pages back) why people think DD/lg is so strange because it's just a relationship. Agreed! Regardless of the label, a great relationship has clear expectations and connected communication.

That being said, I think outsiders might see a very one sided relationship where the little is uber needy. At times, I feel that. I get frustrated - I want to make a thread where no one cries, where the times we propped Daddy up are celebrated, or even times we stood on our own are happy times. A joyful littles thread! I am little, hear me roar!! I dunno. Maybe this:

https://i.imgur.com/qYFSoWSl.jpg

BadAmy made a post in BDSM that resonated - how having a safe place to just be, find peace, support, acceptance is so important. And it is.

I hope I'm not offending anyone. Instead, this is more my struggle at figuring out where I'm going to land. I was so certain I knew what I wanted and needed and I found it. Now it's gone.

I want no more tears, no more needy, no more hurt. But I don't want to be all walled up and hard-ass, either. I know lots of littles are insanely strong, bad-ass women!

I think this is going off an a ramble. Might be why I can't sleep.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

BFG, you asked (earlier - a few pages back) why people think DD/lg is so strange because it's just a relationship. Agreed! Regardless of the label, a great relationship has clear expectations and connected communication.

That being said, I think outsiders might see a very one sided relationship where the little is uber needy. At times, I feel that. I get frustrated - I want to make a thread where no one cries, where the times we propped Daddy up are celebrated, or even times we stood on our own are happy times. A joyful littles thread! I am little, hear me roar!! I dunno. Maybe this:

https://i.imgur.com/qYFSoWSl.jpg

BadAmy made a post in BDSM that resonated - how having a safe place to just be, find peace, support, acceptance is so important. And it is.

I hope I'm not offending anyone. Instead, this is more my struggle at figuring out where I'm going to land. I was so certain I knew what I wanted and needed and I found it. Now it's gone.

I want no more tears, no more needy, no more hurt. But I don't want to be all walled up and hard-ass, either. I know lots of littles are insanely strong, bad-ass women!

I think this is going off an a ramble. Might be why I can't sleep.

cookie

I don't have words right now, but

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

All this talk of strong women...

I don't feel strong. I feel weak, I feel needy, I feel vulnerable, I feel overwhelmed, i feel entirely unequal to the task. But I know that the buck stops with me in so many ways, and that people are counting on me, and that I don't have the option to give up. As flawed as my efforts are, i have to keep trying.

I don't feel strong, but I am stubborn. That'll have to do for now.

 

[cookiecat]

All this talk of strong women...

I don't feel strong. I feel weak, I feel needy, I feel vulnerable, I feel overwhelmed, i feel entirely unequal to the task. But I know that the buck stops with me in so many ways, and that people are counting on me, and that I don't have the option to give up. As flawed as my efforts are, i have to keep trying.

I don't feel strong, but I am stubborn. That'll have to do for now.

I get that. 1000%.

When I had Daddy, husband, partner - I felt super strong. I felt sexy, pretty, smart, funny. All the things. He validated all of that, because he picked me.

Without him, who am I??? Am I any of those things?

I don't feel it. Aren't I all those things without him??

Standing on your own is a scary place to be. Hence, the fort. Yes??

I like how you say it Honey - that stubborn will have to do.

 

[PuckIt]

BFG, you asked (earlier - a few pages back) why people think DD/lg is so strange because it's just a relationship. Agreed! Regardless of the label, a great relationship has clear expectations and connected communication.

That being said, I think outsiders might see a very one sided relationship where the little is uber needy. At times, I feel that. I get frustrated - I want to make a thread where no one cries, where the times we propped Daddy up are celebrated, or even times we stood on our own are happy times. A joyful littles thread! I am little, hear me roar!! I dunno. Maybe this:

https://i.imgur.com/qYFSoWSl.jpg

BadAmy made a post in BDSM that resonated - how having a safe place to just be, find peace, support, acceptance is so important. And it is.

I hope I'm not offending anyone. Instead, this is more my struggle at figuring out where I'm going to land. I was so certain I knew what I wanted and needed and I found it. Now it's gone.

I want no more tears, no more needy, no more hurt. But I don't want to be all walled up and hard-ass, either. I know lots of littles are insanely strong, bad-ass women!

I think this is going off an a ramble. Might be why I can't sleep.

Have I mentioned lately that you are one tough and very sharp cookie and I appreciate and admire the hell out of you?

I don't know. I readily admit that one of the reasons I, myself, was so resistant to the notion that Love and I might have been in a DD/lg dynamic back... uh... last March, I think? Anyway, my thought process was that it was a relationship. And she supported me just as much as I supported her.

Erm.. although, in the spirit of complete honesty, more often than not "supporting me" actually ended up meaning "holding my leash." And, okay, reminding me that I really should eat and sleep more than once every thirty-six to forty-two hours. And, as I've already admitted elsewhere here in this very thread, just making me feel like I was loved, that my existence mattered.


I don't know. I'm probably not saying this very well. And I probably should have just left it alone.


I guess what I'm trying to say is that whether he is a DD and she is an lg or whether they aren't really... So long as the relationship exists, even if it is a e-friendship, then I for one do readily acknowledge just how very much I feel I get more than I can give. And, if I sometimes seem to dwell more on what I do for her, it's because I, for one, feel like I'm playing catch-up and trying to be worth the love and support she gives to me. *shrug*


As far as communication... um... yeah. I might have gone a tad bit overboard talking about communication elsewhere just a few minutes ago...

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I get that. 1000%.

When I had Daddy, husband, partner - I felt super strong. I felt sexy, pretty, smart, funny. All the things. He validated all of that, because he picked me.

Without him, who am I??? Am I any of those things?

I don't feel it. Aren't I all those things without him??

Standing on your own is a scary place to be. Hence, the fort. Yes??

I like how you say it Honey - that stubborn will have to do.

All of this.

 

[DarkSimian]

All this talk of strong women...

I don't feel strong. I feel weak, I feel needy, I feel vulnerable, I feel overwhelmed, i feel entirely unequal to the task. But I know that the buck stops with me in so many ways, and that people are counting on me, and that I don't have the option to give up. As flawed as my efforts are, i have to keep trying.

I don't feel strong, but I am stubborn. That'll have to do for now.

I get that. 1000%.

When I had Daddy, husband, partner - I felt super strong. I felt sexy, pretty, smart, funny. All the things. He validated all of that, because he picked me.

Without him, who am I??? Am I any of those things?

I don't feel it. Aren't I all those things without him??

Standing on your own is a scary place to be. Hence, the fort. Yes??

I like how you say it Honey - that stubborn will have to do.

Not that anyone asked, but I think you both are all of that AND strong, being who you are. Never doubt that there are people (like me) that admire the hell out of you both!

 

[LostGirlTink]

Needy, and crying, and questioning, and all of those things don't ever negate the strength you have.

Just an important reminder there.
You can be all of those things, sometimes even at once.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Not that anyone asked, but I think you both are all of that AND strong, being who you are. Never doubt that there are people (like me) that admire the hell out of you both!

Thank you. btw, your woman is amazeballs and I'm enormously grateful to be able to count her as a friend.

 

[DarkSimian]

Thank you. btw, your woman is amazeballs and I'm enormously grateful to be able to count her as a friend.

You're welcome

Yes she is, and I am eternally grateful to have her in my life.
And to have you as a friend too

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Needy, and crying, and questioning, and all of those things don't ever negate the strength you have.

Just an important reminder there.
You can be all of those things, sometimes even at once.

Food for thought! ❤

Something I maybe don't say often enough, especially to my partners: I don't need a Daddy to rescue me, I want to do this fucking hard shit myself. I need a Daddy to be... my blanket fort with skin on. A safe place to rest and recover, before going back out there to kick some more fucking ass. I want his feedback on my struggles, I value his friendship, and I crave his companionship.

I don't even need to hear that I can do it, directly anyway. Somewhere deep inside, I know I can, and I know he knows it, too. But I need to hear all of the things that cookie said, as unrelated as they might seem. I need to hear that he thinks I'm pretty! And smart, and sexy, and funny, and clever and creative. And that the work I do is needed and important.

And that I make his life better. That's a big one.

 

[LostGirlTink]

Food for thought! ❤

Something I maybe don't say often enough, especially to my partners: I don't need a Daddy to rescue me, I want to do this fucking hard shit myself. I need a Daddy to be... my blanket fort with skin on. A safe place to rest and recover, before going back out there to kick some more fucking ass. I want his feedback on my struggles, I value his friendship, and I crave his companionship.

I don't even need to hear that I can do it, directly anyway. Somewhere deep inside, I know I can, and I know he knows it, too. But I need to hear all of the things that cookie said, as unrelated as they might seem. I need to hear that he thinks I'm pretty! And smart, and sexy, and funny, and clever and creative. And that the work I do is needed and important.

And that I make his life better. That's a big one.

Hey. Yeah. That. Exactly that.
I said something yesterday (during a really hard day) about how I needed to go hide in my blanket fort and he said he wants to BE my blanket fort and yeah. That's exactly it.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Hey. Yeah. That. Exactly that.
I said something yesterday (during a really hard day) about how I needed to go hide in my blanket fort and he said he wants to BE my blanket fort and yeah. That's exactly it.

UGH.

That's so amazing that he gets it.

You guys.

 

[Angedesoleil]

I tell Daddy I want to live in his pocket. Lol. It's one of those forever concepts I've always had.

Hey silly question.. that I'm not even sure I'm comfy voicing... anyone find that they way they hug someone they are in a relationship with is ... indicative? No. I'm not elaborating until one person says YEAH I totally get that question! **hides**

Sorry I went radio silent in was cocooned in important deep soul barring conversations... emerging exhausted but incredibly happy.

That said... cookie ... big deep reply coming tomorrow. Tonight. Hugs.


Wanders off to read Pucks communication post

 

[LostGirlTink]

UGH.

That's so amazing that he gets it.

You guys.

We're cute right? *giggles thinking about all the cute references several pages back*

 

[tolyk]

We're cute right? *giggles thinking about all the cute references several pages back*

I know you're cute

 

[Angedesoleil]

You're adorable;Tink. You always make me smile. ♡♡

Hugs tightly.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

We're cute right? *giggles thinking about all the cute references several pages back*

Yes, yes you are.

Just don't go all Chatty Cathy and Smotherman on us, that shit's annoying af.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I know you're cute

Ahhh

Speak of the devil.

 

[cascadiabound]

Food for thought! ❤

Something I maybe don't say often enough, especially to my partners: I don't need a Daddy to rescue me, I want to do this fucking hard shit myself. I need a Daddy to be... my blanket fort with skin on. A safe place to rest and recover, before going back out there to kick some more fucking ass. I want his feedback on my struggles, I value his friendship, and I crave his companionship.

I don't even need to hear that I can do it, directly anyway. Somewhere deep inside, I know I can, and I know he knows it, too. But I need to hear all of the things that cookie said, as unrelated as they might seem. I need to hear that he thinks I'm pretty! And smart, and sexy, and funny, and clever and creative. And that the work I do is needed and important.

And that I make his life better. That's a big one.

Thanks for putting all this out there Honey.
I do not want a rescuer or a knight in shining armor. I am a big girl (grown ass woman) and I want to fight my own damn battles. But I do want a partner at my side and to back me up. To remind me just how badass I am when I falter a little or when it feels hard. I want his friendship and I want a sounding board. I do not need to be fixed.

I do need to hear that he thinks I am beautiful and smart and sexy and tough and that I am doing the right stuff and that I am contributing in a meaningful way. I need to know that he *sees* me. I need him to love me for me.

I want to be a safe place for him and for him to be a safe place for me. Yea... I can kinda relate to the wanting to be "in his pocket". That he carries me in his heart all of the time. And simultaneously I carry him in my heart too. Friends first before anything else - companions and partners.