My BF wants to watch me with another man

[holly111111]

This is his number one long time fantasy. I’m open to the idea but want to hear from some of you who have done it in real life how it went, what you wish you had thought of or known ahead of time, etc. I’m not even sure where to start.

 

[davenjenn]

This is his number one long time fantasy. I’m open to the idea but want to hear from some of you who have done it in real life how it went, what you wish you had thought of or known ahead of time, etc. I’m not even sure where to start.

My relationships have been somewhat open and my guys have usually liked what your bf wants. But you need to think it through first. Above all do you really want to do this? If you are doing it as a present to him, fine -- but are you going be OK with it after. Emotions can be funny things.

Similar questions for your BF. Is he going to be able to control any jealousy he may have?

 

[Katieb_38]

Fantasy is one thing and reality can be something different. I have been in a marriage where we met other people either together or apart and we were happy with the situation. I was a lot more experienced than him. We talked about fantasies that we had and he said he would like to watch me with a guy. I decided it would be better with another couple rather than just a guy. That way he got to have sex with her as well and wasn't just stood watching me getting a pounding.

He admitted after that it probably was a better way to do it and he felt ok with watching me have sex with another guy. We are no longer together but that's nothing to do with our sex live. That actually kept us together a little longer.

I hope it works out for you both and you all enjoy the experience.

 

[Joeknoxville]

Fantasy is one thing and reality can be something different. I have been in a marriage where we met other people either together or apart and we were happy with the situation. I was a lot more experienced than him. We talked about fantasies that we had and he said he would like to watch me with a guy. I decided it would be better with another couple rather than just a guy. That way he got to have sex with her as well and wasn't just stood watching me getting a pounding.

He admitted after that it probably was a better way to do it and he felt ok with watching me have sex with another guy. We are no longer together but that's nothing to do with our sex live. That actually kept us together a little longer.

I hope it works out for you both and you all enjoy the experience.

I’d love to watch you getting a pounding!

 

[LENTINUS]

You’ll have to ask yourselves the following questions:

-Do YOU really want to do this, or is it just for him?
- Will you be able to look at him in the same way after doing this?
- Has he thought about the reality of it beyond the fantasy?
- What will happen if the other guy has a bigger dick, makes you moan louder than him, etc.?
- Will he get jealous or be able to handle it?
- In case things don’t go as planned, will you be able to have an open conversation and be honest with one another, or will he hold you accountable for the problems?
- Will he expect you to let him fuck another woman at some point in the future?

 

[Lost_Yonder]

Main thing is - be honest with your feelings and desires and always be willing to communicate them, as should he! Make sure it is something you want and not just his fantasy that you feel compelled to fulfill. When selecting a guy, if it goes that far, make sure you are both comfortable with him and that he understands the situation and not a complete douche. I've heard enough stories of bad experiences with guys who are overly aggressive or just kind of assholes. Though, there are plenty around who fully respect your relationship and love the idea of being with a woman in a committed relationship.

Enjoy yourselves!

 

[liqueur]

Here's what not to do:

When my wife found herself strongly attracted to another man she asked me if I would be okay with it (we had talked about this often, but never concerning a specific and real person). I said "Yes, if you can promise me you won't leave me after."

She made that promise, went off to be with him, and within a week had left me for him.

There's a lot more to the story, but not relevant here. My point, honed down, is simply this: "Know thyself." Be sure you are very clear in your head about what you want and need from the situation, and if any of it is at odds with what your BF wants and needs, be very clear in your communications with him.

 

[bluesbreaker_69]

This is his number one long time fantasy. I’m open to the idea but want to hear from some of you who have done it in real life how it went, what you wish you had thought of or known ahead of time, etc. I’m not even sure where to start.

Be mindful of what you wish for

 

[Suburbia]

I started by pointing out someone cute but not too hot to my husband. Someone he wouldn't feel threatened by. "Wow, he has really nice eyes, I wonder what his dick looks like?" ( a silly example but you get the point )

and then later the second time you bring it up ... during sex. You really want to watch me fuck someone? (use that word, he'll love it) wow.... I guess you do, your dick just got so hard.

Wow your dick is really hard and big in me right now this idea must really turn you on.

You have now planted the seed that it is his idea, he is turned on by it and he wants it. That is now the way it is.

Time three. point out a hot guy you actually want to fuck... "I wonder if he fucks good?"

Go from his reaction from there.

 

[Suburbia]

We don't really swing anymore. We just talk about it. But neither of us regret when we did fuck around.

 

[hornyguy888]

I would love to watch/share my wife with another guy! To see her lay back let loose and just enjoy and be pleasured.

 

[pplwatching]

We are no longer together but that's nothing to do with our sex live.

I always wonder how people can say this with any certainty. How do you know that your experience had nothing to do with the relationship ending, when you don't know how the relationship might have gone if you hadn't brought others into your bed?

 

[pplwatching]

This is his number one long time fantasy. I’m open to the idea but want to hear from some of you who have done it in real life how it went, what you wish you had thought of or known ahead of time, etc. I’m not even sure where to start.

When my wife and I were dating and threesomes were 'cool' around campus, she offered me a threesome for a birthday present. My answer at that time was that if we were going to have a serious relationship with the potential for marriage and eventually a family, then our focus needed to be on each other without the distractions and drama that other people bring with them.

Almost 24 years later, my opinion having lurked around enough marriage, relationship, and sex boards is still that if you feel that your relationship is something valuable then treat it like your prized possession and protect it. In terms of risk/reward, if you are willing to take risks with your relationship, then ask yourself what the reward is and how having sex with other people will improve your relationship. If the answer is "he wants it, and it could be fun" and you are willing to risk your relationship to fulfill his fantasy, then go ahead.

 

[819Lucky]

I always wonder how people can say this with any certainty. How do you know that your experience had nothing to do with the relationship ending, when you don't know how the relationship might have gone if you hadn't brought others into your bed?

Perhaps if their relationship was rocky before they started messing around with others and it brought them closer! It seems to me sex is the most popular reason for people to split up but that doesn't mean that is always the case and maybe if they would have communicated about their thoughts or desires it would have helped them before it was too late.

 

[HoneyUndone]

If YOU want to do it, do it. If you are only doing it because he wants you to, then don't. You have to be ok with it.

 

[819Lucky]

If YOU want to do it, do it. If you are only doing it because he wants you to, then don't. You have to be ok with it.

Exactly! It must be mutual, which is why communication is so important in all aspects of a relationship! Talking things out, honesty and compromise are so important!

 

[pplwatching]

Perhaps if their relationship was rocky before they started messing around with others and it brought them closer! It seems to me sex is the most popular reason for people to split up but that doesn't mean that is always the case and maybe if they would have communicated about their thoughts or desires it would have helped them before it was too late.

My point is, how can anyone say with any confidence that things wouldn't have gone differently if they had chosen another path? Maybe they would have each made choices or worked harder to keep the relationship going, maybe they wouldn't have. It just seems like there's no way to know.

 

[819Lucky]

My point is, how can anyone say with any confidence that things wouldn't have gone differently if they had chosen another path? Maybe they would have each made choices or worked harder to keep the relationship going, maybe they wouldn't have. It just seems like there's no way to know.

Unless they were already going to split up or had prior to realizing they were into this. And maybe it was something like location to live that seperated them. I've seen that be the case multiple times. Or wanting children.
I'm also not saying a poor relationship is the only reason to involve other people in a relationship. Some people separate feelings of emotion from sex and take it as enjoyment and an experience! Or they enjoy the emotions of it together.
I'm not saying you don't have a point just that there are all kinds of people out there. And without knowing the whole story you can't say "what if?" have to go based on what is.

 

[pplwatching]

If YOU want to do it, do it. If you are only doing it because he wants you to, then don't. You have to be ok with it.

IMHO you should be more than just ok with it. The experience has to be worth more than the relationship itself, because if all of the posts littering the Internet are any indication then there's a very real chance it will weaken or destroy the relationship. People think communication is a silver bullet and ignore the fact that emotions are wildcards that can't be reasoned with.

 

[roc23]

I never would want my s/o to fuck another guy. I’m sure about that.
But if she loved sucking cock,I would have no problem with her sucking a different one once in awhile. As long as she was honest about it and told me all the details.

And only do it if you want to do it. If it really turns you on.

 

[pplwatching]

Unless they were already going to split up or had prior to realizing they were into this. And maybe it was something like location to live that seperated them. I've seen that be the case multiple times. Or wanting children.

My point is not about why they tried it in the first place. It just seems unreasonable to say with certainty that things wouldn't have gone differently if they had chosen differently. There isn't a crystal ball that says where that path might have taken them.

 

[819Lucky]

My point is not about why they tried it in the first place. It just seems unreasonable to say with certainty that things wouldn't have gone differently if they had chosen differently. There isn't a crystal ball that says where that path might have taken them.

Indeed and I know there are people out there who say if they would have had a more open relationship they would still be together! And there is not a crystal ball so what's the point in speculation of someone else's life? Seems like all life choices have at least two sides and the same can be said either way a person lives it.

 

[pplwatching]

Indeed and I know there are people out there who say if they would have had a more open relationship they would still be together! And there is not a crystal ball so what's the point in speculation of someone else's life? Seems like all life choices have at least two sides and the same can be said either way a person lives it.

Exactly. Make the choices that you want to make, and accept where they take you without rationalizing or second guessing where a different choice might have taken you. The best we can do is try to make choices that take us in the direction that we want to go. Choices that clearly have the potential to go in some other direction require a lot of thought and consideration.

 

[819Lucky]

Exactly. Make the choices that you want to make, and accept where they take you without rationalizing or second guessing where a different choice might have taken you. The best we can do is try to make choices that take us in the direction that we want to go. Choices that clearly have the potential to go in some other direction require a lot of thought and consideration.

Very true and well put but I'm just saying if there's a specific reason of something like that happening you take that as the reason, not that maybe if something different had happened ten years ago today might have gone differently. If you pop a tire on a nail you dropped in the driveway you say it happened cause you dropped a nail, not if I would've bought a different first car I would've bought a different house and never would've even been using nails! I don't disagree with your big picture logic, I'm just saying there are reasons to the choices people make and you go with that decision as certainty to general in the long run.
I think we got off topic and a but abstract lol

 

[Bigwhoyle]

Wanna watch

I really wanna watch a big dick black man fuck the shit out of my wife. I fantasized about it I even would cum when I jerked off. And when we role played. Oh yeah super hard. After being with the same partner for years it spices up the life. So go on and just tell him to sit back and enjoy a show you're about to give. Or suck his cock while he watches you get fucked nice and deep.