What makes a woman act different depending on the man?

[betamale30]

Ive wondered how does a woman decide how fast she will be sexual with a man she knows? Is It how the guy acts or is It something they decide prior to going out with the man?

When i started dating my gf It took me weeks of talking to her and numerous dates to get her to have oral sex with me? In comparison a guy she cheated on me with knew her for 5 days and she ended up blowing him on their first date. Thats made me wonder was It something this guy did that i didnt do or was this something that she decided going into the dates.

Or am i just over thinking It all lol

 

[Justfantasies]

Ive wondered how does a woman decide how fast she will be sexual with a man she knows? Is It how the guy acts or is It something they decide prior to going out with the man?

When i started dating my gf It took me weeks of talking to her and numerous dates to get her to have oral sex with me? In comparison a guy she cheated on me with knew her for 5 days and she ended up blowing him on their first date. Thats made me wonder was It something this guy did that i didnt do or was this something that she decided going into the dates.

Or am i just over thinking It all lol

1His sexual self confidence matters and his ability to seduce

2. How she is feeling at any given time

 

[Jada59]

I am picky. I need to have that certain spark there or nothing will happen. It might also depend on whether or not I think it might be a one night thing or not.

For instance, I once had two guys fighting over me at a party. It was New Year's Eve and when midnight struck, I kissed the guy sitting next to me. A very chaste kiss. I won't get into all of the details after that but he apparently assumed that I wanted more and wasn't going to let up until he got more. He was a friend of a friend and only here for the holidays. This in and of itself would have prevented him from getting anything more from me but his icky attitude really put me off.

The fight was almost old timey with everyone clearing the dance floor. Party was in a huge house, and it was like a commune. A guy that lived there was my knight in shining armor. He put his arm around me and led me upstairs to what he said was a quiet place. Turns out that it was his room. I'm not even sure that he had sex on his mind. He just seemed like a very nice guy.

His room was small and his bed was only a twin size that was set in a bay window. I just started kissing him, then gently pushed him back on the bed, undid his fly and began sucking him off. He was sort of stammering and asking me what I wanted in return. I just kind of chuckled and told him that I wanted him to stop talking and let me suck him off.

After he came in my mouth, I kissed him and hopped up from the bed. He wouldn't let me out of the room before getting my phone number, which I gave to him.

I walked downstairs, met up with the three friends I had come with, and I drove them home. I was the designated driver. My friends were like... What happened after the fight? We saw you go upstairs with that guy! I told them that I gave him a blow job. Hehehehe.

I didn't really even know any of the other people who lived in that house. Had only met one guy once. He was a friend of a friend. But then I kept running into other people from that party and they always brought up the incident.

So, in that case, doing what I did just felt right at the time. He did try to contact me later but my roommate (this was many years ago) was pissed at me because she found out that her BF had been hitting on me, so she didn't tell me that he had called for me several times. I finally asked her about it but several weeks had gone by and I found out from someone else that he had moved out of the area.

In another case, the guy was a friend. He was bi and we frequently discussed sex. He had a very high sex drive and at work (we worked together), he was considered to be a male slut. For that reason, I was very hesitant to hook up with him as any more than a friend. But then when it did happen, again it was sort of spur of the moment. But I looked him right in the eye and told him that neither of us was going to speak about it at work. We didn't and AFAIK, nobody ever found out. I still get together with a lot of people from that job and they keep bringing him up and all the people he slept with. They never mentioned me and even asked me if he had ever tried to have sex with me. I just said that he didn't. Perhaps wasn't interested in me in that way. Hehehe. Sadly he moved to another part of the state after I moved away. I am back here now and if he were near here, I'm sure we would hook up. But it wouldn't be a romance. Strictly friends with benefits.

Other times there was no sex at all because if there was any spark at all it was only a glimmer of one but other things set off alarm bells. For instance, one guy was very polite, generous and wealthy but seemed very controlling and wouldn't let me be me. He also pushed for marriage on our first date. Only reason I went out with him more than once was that it was easier to just go out with him than to avoid him. He began stalking me and my friends. Thankfully my friends have my back so they helped me to get rid of him.

 

[Jenny17]

Ive wondered how does a woman decide how fast she will be sexual with a man she knows? Is It how the guy acts or is It something they decide prior to going out with the man?

Attitude. Appearance. Chivalry. Sense of humor. The way he looks at woman. His desire. Education. Physical appearance. Spark that he ignites. Should I go on?

 

[davenjenn]

A lot depends on what I am looking for. I have always liked casual sex and there have been times when I have had sex with an almost a stranger at a party because he turns me on. Longer term relationships could be on the third or fourth date . . .

 

[KimGordon67]

Ive wondered how does a woman decide how fast she will be sexual with a man she knows? Is It how the guy acts or is It something they decide prior to going out with the man?

When i started dating my gf It took me weeks of talking to her and numerous dates to get her to have oral sex with me? In comparison a guy she cheated on me with knew her for 5 days and she ended up blowing him on their first date. Thats made me wonder was It something this guy did that i didnt do or was this something that she decided going into the dates.

Or am i just over thinking It all lol

It's based on whatever factors we individually decide are relevant at the precise moment we make the decision. In much the same way as a guy will decide whether or not he has sex with someone who's clearly interested. We're just women ... not an alien species.

 

[psiberzerker]

Same thing as makes men act differently around different women. Or men around men, instead of women. Or women around women with out men. Or gay men around stright men, straight women around bisexual girls, or alone, or you get the idea. Different people, and situations are, for lack of a better word, different. So, we act accordingly.

It's really too complex (Too many possible combinations to even list, much less detail) so the simple answer from the FAQ in the OP is different women are more or less attracted to different men, differently. This doesn't mean that particular man is more, or less attractive. it means he's more, or less attractive To Her.

Ask her. Nobody else knows what she likes better than her. Some like older men, some like younger men. Some like girls. Just like any other human being. Women aren't any more mysterious than men, once you talk to them. Not talking to them, and listening to their answers is the problem. If people (Men, and women) can get past the stranger stage, then the mystery is fairly quickly solved.

 

[screwher]

My wife

Its been my experience that it also depends on where the woman is in her life. When my wife first dating her first boyfriend she fell into bed with him right away. She was curious about sex and wanted that life experience. That relationship didn't last long and I started dating her right away. But it was a good month or so before we had sex.

It took two years for us to have anal sex. We're a hotwife couple now where my wife is having sex with other men with my approval. We've discussed the subject of her having anal sex with a lover. It's looking like her current is going to be the lucky guy. And it's only been a few months for them. Who knows - as we get deeper into our lifestyle one night stands may come into the picture. Then I can see my wife getting fucked in the ass in some motel room by a guy she just met!

 

[twister947]

A woman who sees a man with long term possibilities may err on the side of caution. Society is far more accepting of "nice girls".

 

[psiberzerker]

Oh, yeah. There's some more factors that might be involved. Is she single, married, in a committed relationship? Still getting over an intense intimate relationship, that's a good one. Good or bad, if it's still fresh in her head, the potential rebound guy is going to be compared to the one she was just with. Whether he was "The one," and broke her heart, or an abusive asshole that treated her like shit, and she finally realized he's only getting worse. (Just like a guy who's reminded of that one psycho ex that threw heavy things at his head, screaming.) You don't know, ask her.

A guy that can listen, understand, and even try to help her through the problems in her life (Without Obviously trying to get in her pants. I mean, we're talking about mating habits here, but if you don't Just want to get laid, and you care about making her feel better) that's generally a lot better received than a good looking guy that hits on her, cuts her off with "Forget that Zeroe,' then moves onto the next hottest chick when she says she's not ready yet.

Again, it depends on 3 things: Him, her, and Them. Together, if there's no Them in the equation, there probably never will be.

Which isn't to say there aren't rebound guys, or revenge fucks, or she won't break up to him to get some strange, and then be back with him the next day. That's just random, it happens, but you can't plan for it.

 

[Dribble]

Alpha. Beta. And your profile name is?

Why ask us? Not like we really know. Only person that knows is her.

 

[psiberzerker]

And your profile name is?

Yeah, I have to assume that anyone who identifies as Betamale, as a handle bought into this whole heirarchy of men. (Guess who they hear that from.) However, this is one who Is asking. Based on the assumption that women go to bed faster with some men than others. However, he was willing to ask.

The answer is, they don't decide "This one looks like a 1 night stand, but I think I'll keep that one for emotional support until his balls explode." Same source as the #Friendzone. Guys that don't want you talking to their girlfriend. So, they don't tell him how to talk to girls, he tells them that they're just not man enough to get a 10, like me.

Don't take relationship advice from Power Assertive Malignant Narcissists. The Alpha Male theory was debunked by pee review, when it was discovered that lions, and wolves are Matriarchal. The lion's job is to service the "Bitches" when they're in estrus. That's it, he doesn't protect them, they go out there, and team up to bring down Rhinos, while he stays home, and watches his cubs. He's a housewife. Bitches did stay at home dads. Or maybe, we're human beings, with thought, and goals beyond the instinct to get your dick wet. That's why they call them Power assertive Malignant Narcissists (Holmes&Holmes pathotypes of sexually motivated serial criminals.)

The answer is, most women don't make up their minds until they're ready to have sex with someone.

 

[JadeNYC]

It's based on whatever factors we individually decide are relevant at the precise moment we make the decision. In much the same way as a guy will decide whether or not he has sex with someone who's clearly interested. We're just women ... not an alien species.

This strikes me as the most concise and inclusive answer on this post thus far. Props to you, KimGordon.

 

[KimGordon67]

This strikes me as the most concise and inclusive answer on this post thus far. Props to you, KimGordon.

Ha ... thanks. I'm just always bemused when men ask questions that basically are looking to answer 'the puzzle that is woman'.

 

[psiberzerker]

Ha ... thanks. I'm just always bemused when men ask questions that basically are looking to answer 'the puzzle that is woman'.

The other question here is "What makes real men superior?" Of course, the answer is nothing. They talk, and listen.

 

[nowisthetime]

I see quite a few of these types of "ask a woman" questions on here.

It is based on the woman.


Woman are pretty complex creatures and we are all different.


What sparks me may turn off another woman or vice versa. It has nothing to do with Beta vs. Alpha for me.

 

[FL30]

Ive wondered how does a woman decide how fast she will be sexual with a man she knows? Is It how the guy acts or is It something they decide prior to going out with the man?

When i started dating my gf It took me weeks of talking to her and numerous dates to get her to have oral sex with me? In comparison a guy she cheated on me with knew her for 5 days and she ended up blowing him on their first date. Thats made me wonder was It something this guy did that i didnt do or was this something that she decided going into the dates.

Or am i just over thinking It all lol

You just need to turn this around and think about what makes you want to be with a certain woman. Or to have sex with her. Or to date her (short term vs long term)

Just as you have different feelings / attractions, to different women, then they do, too, to different men.

Just think about it, we're all different and we feel different things at different times.

 

[psiberzerker]

You just need to turn this around and think about what makes you want to be with a certain woman. Or to have sex with her. Or to date her (short term vs long term)

Mostly superficial things like looks, and how annoying her laugh is. Because you know, girls is shallow.

What most affects how women treat men is how they treat women.

 

[Dribble]

The answer is, most women don't make up their minds until they're ready to have sex with someone.

And it will be different for different women. This was my point to the OP...if he wants to know why she did what she did...he should be asking her. Sure there are risks associated w knowing or asking...and maybe she won't feel comfortable enough to share.

Or he can just let it be...choice is his.

 

[psiberzerker]

Also, women can know a man, their entire lives, without fucking him. In fact, the most common time frame for women knowing men before they have sex is "Never." On average, mean, median, and mode.

 

[13Fantasies]

I see quite a few of these types of "ask a woman" questions on here.

It is based on the woman.


Woman are pretty complex creatures and we are all different.


What sparks me may turn off another woman or vice versa. It has nothing to do with Beta vs. Alpha for me.

Damn. Not sparking you. -Sigh-

 

[psiberzerker]

Damn. Not sparking you. -Sigh-

Charges up electrodes, "I'm going to hurt you, really, really, bad."

 

[Jada59]

Charges up electrodes, "I'm going to hurt you, really, really, bad."

I wanna see a pic!

 

[psiberzerker]

I wanna see a pic!

If a picture is a kiloword, what kind of bargain is video?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qpcOiCJqOz8

"If you have to explain the joke, THERE IS NO JOKE!"

 

[Jada59]

If a picture is a kiloword, what kind of bargain is video?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qpcOiCJqOz8

"If you have to explain the joke, THERE IS NO JOKE!"

Ahhh... That works!