Want vs Need

[sweetsouthernsa]

Hey y'all. I haven't been on here much lately...had a lot going on.
Anyhow, I was talking to my best friend the other day and the subject of dating came up. She asked me how things were going and I told her about the same, which means I'm at home a LOT. She's introduced me to some of her husbands single friends but nothing came of it, neither has online dating. I've met some really nice guys...some not so nice.
I don't NEED a man in my life, but I want one and not just for sex. I love it and I miss it but there's more to me than what's at the Y.
Plus, I don't want a relationship...I want a partnership and I want it with someone who'll work at keeping it together just like I will.
I realize this isn't exactly a dating site but who knows?
Maybe my Redneck Romeo is just shy or something.
Hey...a girl can dream, right???

 

[Tooshytosct]

Y'all... The South has to represent!

Southerner here too. Where "y'all" is a real word and whether you're meeting an old friend or the president, the standard greeting is "hey". I wish you the best of luck in your search. There are good guys out there. I'm one *blushes*. Are southern gentlemen a thing anymore? I hope not.

 

[KrazieKat69]

Best of luck in your search!!! I hope ya can find him!!!

 

[starider07]

I understand

There is more to it than the heat of the moment and some of your passionate needs met. It sucks to be in a crowd of people and feel as alone as if in Solitary confinement. No matter if in a relationship or not. Not from the South, but a small farming community in the Midwest. I was born and raised country and I am not speaking the type of music. I lived in GA for years and clearly understand that "Hey" is a universal "Hello, or Hi" to all as true formalities fall away. Where when you ask for a "Coke", it could be a Sprite, Dr Pepper, or even a Pepsi. Where hospitality exists, as well as the true meaning of "chillin" is practiced consistently. Yes they have the "Gentlemen" spoken of too as well as the Southern Belle" Wallflowers.
But by no means should you believe there are no Gentlemen around. True Gentlemen are not isolated to the South. It may be difficult to find the man you want but believe me they are around, and maybe just steps away from you. I doubt that is the issue. It's finding him with the matching wants, needs, desires, and ways of your own.
The Gentlemen from other geographic locations may, or may not speak using generic terms like "Hey, or Coke" They may be more direct and decisive about what they are saying. But hospitality and a Gentlemanly nature is not something unique to the South. This great nation has them in every walk of life. Whether they wear a Cowboy hat or a 3 piece suit, or a host of other styles in between.
As individuals it gets frustrating at times, trying to find that one person. The one that likes the same as you do in life, love, and behind closed doors. Bringing it all together can be a challenge it is true. Just try not to let it get you down. That person may be in California, Maine, or even Hawaii. But may just as likely be just around the corner or sitting at the table next to you at Starbuck's. You just never know.
Sometimes you just can't bring all of that together within one person. It's the give and take of life, where you have to have some variances too. It's what helps you grow inside and in your mind as well.

I am a believer that there is that special someone for each of us. It's just finding them. A true Gentleman, a real man, well you will see it in how he treats you, in his eyes and the expression on his face when you see him, especially after a few days apart.

He is there. Trust me, I know he is. He may be on the other side of the aisle at the store, next to you in line at a coffee shop, the car next to you. You get the idea. Timing and fate have a lot to do with it too.

Believe

Good luck in your search.

 

[Tooshytosct]

Southerner here too. Where "y'all" is a real word and whether you're meeting an old friend or the president, the standard greeting is "hey". I wish you the best of luck in your search. There are good guys out there. I'm one *blushes*. Are southern gentlemen a thing anymore? I hope not.

I meant to say I hope so, with the southern gentleman thing. That's me, smooth. Real smooth.

 

[ab724u]

I meant to say I hope so, with the southern gentleman thing. That's me, smooth. Real smooth.

I reckoned you did

 

[ArthurW]

Hi lady you look great. Yes there is more to you than just sex. It's your mind and hart. Most of us are interested what we can get form you that we forget the lady you are. I am sorry for that and wish you all the best.