Litiquette V

[Wild_Honey_66]

It makes you wonder what’s wrong with you. Or them. Or Both?

Haha love that ... Queen of the realm.

Well, nothing is wrong with you! Cut them loose next time, don't put up with that nonsense. Tell them, 'Sorry! HARD LIMIT.'

I make my kids use my title when they want something from me. It reminds them who holds the keys to their happiness, and it gives me a giggle.

 

[rubydlite]

Anyways -- the fastest way to my e-vag is through flirting. Publicly.

...my e-vag....I'm dieing....lol
Please... can I steal this?

The fastest way to mine now...if my e-vag *snicker* suddenly became my real vag ...err. ..let's use face since I don't walk vag first....
If my real presence was possible in your lifelike planning to meet up and then having them say whaaaaat? You were serious? When you go to confirm flight bookingsbut you couldn't associate with me...no thanks.
If you'd hug me in public....game on.

 

[Mindfondler]

Who wants to be someone's dirty little secret?

For what it's worth, I would never want metamours to be secrets from each other. My vision is for them to be, at minimum, aware of each other and, ideally, supportive, friendly and cuddly with each other. It's ambitious but I've seen that it's achievable. I've had several approaches from women who have told me that they'll only play if I don't mention my wife (let alone tell her anything). That's a massive red flag and total deal-breaker for me. Unfortunately, it also seems to limit my opportunities considerably.
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[dacoach44]

Geez, this thread....

The only people that really teach out to me are those who've I've flirted/played with in public.

TBH- I lost the energy to mess around in private quite quickly. I guess I'm an exhibitionist in that regard (or more don't take myself too seriously). The types that want to me around behind the scenes likely find me exhausting as I'll prioritize boards over PMs.

The act of flirting. Soo interesting. What rules? But for a person to not be your friend in public (for any reason) is so damned chickenshit that it boggles the mind. Its so fun to flirt, all the threads have their idiosyncrasies, and you never know what will pop up. I have actually met and dated two lady Litsters, loved it, and am still friends with both of them and plan to see them both again. So lucky, and a great place to find a frisky and tolerant dame..

 

[parker77]

Suzanne mentioned flirting. How good are you at detecting between those that just flirt and those that flirt and play. My hunch, the more flirting that happens, the less chance of playing there is.

i don’t believe there is any “typical” behavior. nor do i believe that flirting in public means less chance of playing in private or vise versa. this place has its own culture, but it’s not defined by such standards. all kinds of people are here for all kinds of reasons. some are more comfortable saying intimate things privately or discretely than are others, while some want to fully seduce on the public boards. some state in their profile that they are not looking, yet privately behave very differently. others are clearly looking and you know it right off. i find it all an interesting dynamic, but i also find it to be a place to be careful and thoughtful. most people are kind, considerate and thoughtful, but just like rl, there are some vicious jerks here as well.

 

[Suz_anne]

I just want to say how happy I was to log in and see the Litiquette thread hopping. I miss this back and forth with you lovely people. Good question, Papa C.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

For what it's worth, I would never want metamours to be secrets from each other. My vision is for them to be, at minimum, aware of each other and, ideally, supportive, friendly and cuddly with each other. It's ambitious but I've seen that it's achievable. I've had several approaches from women who have told me that they'll only play if I don't mention my wife (let alone tell her anything). That's a massive red flag and total deal-breaker for me. Unfortunately, it also seems to limit my opportunities considerably.
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Being aware of/friendly with a Lit partner's other lovers is an entirely different kettle of fish for me.

I prefer that my Lit men be exclusive to me, or at the very least, extremely discreet. I tend to avoid men with other lovers, but if I like them well enough to overlook the fact, I certainly don't want to hear about it. And man whores are just No.

I've never been with someone in real life who had other partners, and I can't imagine sharing my man with another woman, consensual or not.

I will say that I once considered becoming the lover of a married man in an open relationship, but they had an understanding that he could take a lover (which he did rarely) at his own discretion, and without sharing that info. with his wife.

I think there is a difference between being a dirty little secret and consensual discretion.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Being aware of/friendly with a Lit partner's other lovers is an entirely different kettle of fish for me.

I prefer that my Lit men be exclusive to me, or at the very least, extremely discreet. I tend to avoid men with other lovers, but if I like them well enough to overlook the fact, I certainly don't want to hear about it. And man whores are just No.

I've never been with someone in real life who had other partners, and I can't imagine sharing my man with another woman, consensual or not.

I will say that I once considered becoming the lover of a married man in an open relationship, but they had an understanding that he could take a lover (which he did rarely) at his own discretion, and without sharing that info. with his wife.

I think there is a difference between being a dirty little secret and consensual discretion.

I love the term "consensual discretion". That is the phrase I've been looking for I'm my life.

Thank you, honey

 

[aussiegeekygal]

The act of flirting. Soo interesting. What rules? But for a person to not be your friend in public (for any reason) is so damned chickenshit that it boggles the mind. Its so fun to flirt, all the threads have their idiosyncrasies, and you never know what will pop up. I have actually met and dated two lady Litsters, loved it, and am still friends with both of them and plan to see them both again. So lucky, and a great place to find a frisky and tolerant dame..

There are no rules! At least, if there are, I don't know them.

I don't take anything personally here. I've only had one less than ideal interaction. Everyone here is great in my opinion. My shoot from the hip idiocy paired with the fact that I give no shit is fun and potentially dangerous for those who misinterpret my friendliness for a deeper connection. I care deeply about the people I meet here, but not in the "here, let me give you access to my e-vag kinda way". I just find it cool and refreshing to hang out with like minded people and little pressure.

There are a lot of tolerant, Friday Dames- especially in this thread. The ladies are on fire and I love them!!

 

[hotwords229_A]

There are no rules! At least, if there are, I don't know them.

I don't take anything personally here. Everyone here is great in my opinion. My shoot from the hip idiocy paired with the fact that I give no shit is fun and potentially dangerous for those who misinterpret my friendliness for a deeper connection. I care deeply about the people I meet here, but not in the "here, let me give you access to my e-vag kinda way". I just find it cool and refreshing to hang out with like minded people and little pressure.

There are a lot of tolerant, Friday Dames- especially in this thread. The ladies are on fire and I love them!!

I agree with this statement to the word (just change e-vag to e-dick and we're there!)
This is exactly the way I would have said it only Aussie used proper spelling, punctuation and sentence structure.

 

[Trekka]

I thought everyone said e-vag.

...no? Just me?

 

[Trekka]

Fuck that noise, I'm the Queen of the Realm!

I make my kids use my title when they want something from me. It reminds them who holds the keys to their happiness, and it gives me a giggle.

^and im stealing this!

 

[ImSinister]

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[ImSinister]

Does this mean I have to do my flirting in public? I guess no more cut and paste flirting with 20 women at once. Doesn't seem fair.

I'm very good at detecting. They call me Trekka Detekkta, you know.

Seriously though, how does one play without the pre-play board-flirt? That's like sex without any foreplay.

I won't talk to lurkers who only PM and never post. First of all: Zzzz. Second of all it's indicative of a lack of cojones round here. I like sizable cojones. Makes me e-wet.



^^truth.



I thought I was the only one!!

I'm always in a quandary: I wanna return PMs; it feels rude not to... but it usually requires brain power. And if I only have a few mins, I wanna post silly nonsense on the boards.

Anyways -- the fastest way to my e-vag is through flirting. Publicly.

 

[dacoach44]

Friday Dames???

There are no rules! At least, if there are, I don't know them.

I don't take anything personally here. I've only had one less than ideal interaction. Everyone here is great in my opinion. My shoot from the hip idiocy paired with the fact that I give no shit is fun and potentially dangerous for those who misinterpret my friendliness for a deeper connection. I care deeply about the people I meet here, but not in the "here, let me give you access to my e-vag kinda way". I just find it cool and refreshing to hang out with like minded people and little pressure.

There are a lot of tolerant, Friday Dames- especially in this thread. The ladies are on fire and I love them!!

What is that, Hon?

 

[dacoach44]

Well Trekka....

I thought everyone said e-vag.

...no? Just me?

I have never heard that term til now. But, it makes perfect sense. As in "virtual," I spose. I use the phrase "real - time." Bur, w-vag makes perfect sense. An online concept.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

Does this mean I have to do my flirting in public? I guess no more cut and paste flirting with 20 women at once. Doesn't seem fair.

Yup, this doesn’t surprise me in the least bit. Just sayin.

 

[ImSinister]

Yup, this doesn’t surprise me in the least bit. Just sayin.

Ouch. I might be shallow and easy but I am always original in my shallowness and easiness.

 

[dacoach44]

Public flirting....

seems more of a challenge. All the Litsters can see your style.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

Ouch. I might be shallow and easy but I am always original in my shallowness and easiness.

Slaps your ass, you know I’m joking.

 

[ImSinister]

Slaps your ass, you know I’m joking.

I figured but I wanted my ass slapped

 

[SMNaughtywife]

I figured but I wanted my ass slapped

I’ll use my hand for the first few swats, but the rest is a paddle. And don’t plan on sitting down tonight. Better look into sleeping on your stomach.

 

[ChainedUp]

Good morning. Spring is sprunging (a word I just invented) , or perhaps fall is on its way for the aussies, but either way change is in the air.

Having said that, and using yesterday's discussion as a jumping off place, can you enjoyably fuck someone for the pure physicality of it. With no emotional attachment, just pure physical pleasure? Sure I know having an attachment, connection makes things better but if you can masturbate for pleasure/release, why can't you fuck someone for the same effect.

 

[Mindfondler]

Having said that, and using yesterday's discussion as a jumping off place, can you enjoyably fuck someone for the pure physicality of it. With no emotional attachment, just pure physical pleasure? Sure I know having an attachment, connection makes things better but if you can masturbate for pleasure/release, why can't you fuck someone for the same effect.

I've reached the conclusion that I'm incapable of that. I recently read an article on demisexuality and I'm fairly sure that it applies to me. I identify with many of those points — especially the one about difficulties with first dates.

For those who can't be bothered to click on the link, here's the main thrust:

A demisexual is a person who does not experience sexual attraction unless they form a strong emotional connection with someone. It's more commonly seen in but by no means confined to romantic relationships. Nevertheless, this term does not mean that demisexuals have an incomplete or half-sexuality, nor does it mean that sexual attraction without emotional connection is required for a complete sexuality.

In particular, note that the prefix "demi" seems to be somewhat misplaced here, as it doesn't imply any reduction in "full" sexuality (whatever that might be) — just different prerequisites.
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[rubydlite]

Good morning. Spring is sprunging (a word I just invented) , or perhaps fall is on its way for the aussies, but either way change is in the air.

Having said that, and using yesterday's discussion as a jumping off place, can you enjoyably fuck someone for the pure physicality of it. With no emotional attachment, just pure physical pleasure? Sure I know having an attachment, connection makes things better but if you can masturbate for pleasure/release, why can't you fuck someone for the same effect.

I thought I could in my early days but now I've realised I only want to fuck someone real or e-real if I do have a connection. That connection doesn't mean I'm going to want to get married but I would call you a friend. Like a friend with benefits makes sense to me..but fucking a stranger and walking away...the fantasy is nice but the reality is that if you get between my legs it's because you've gotten between my ears.