Falling for a play-partner...

[jonnysimple]

I have a serious situation on my hands. I've been playing with various girls for the last few years, from FetLife, Literotica, etc., and it's been nothing but a complete barrel of fun. I document some of my exploits in my blog...

http://jonnysimple.tumblr.com/

My most recent play-partner has turned into a deeper relationship, one that may be taking a turn to the serious side; a relationship. We have already made this known to each other in so many words.

I am 53 and she is 29, a 24 year spread. We are REALLY in tune sexually, to a comical degree. We also have a lot in common outside of the bedroom, can talk for hours about anything, and are totally comfortable in each other's presence. The girl I'm talking about is "Chloe" in the blog by the way.

(Note: my profile says I'm 32 years old, because everyone who spends 30 minutes with me says "you don't look older than 30" so I figure, why should I lie about my perceived age She knows my real age!!!)

The question I pose to the LIT crowd I dearly respect; Am I be crazy to continue down this road?

I'm looking for your opinion to possibly help me see things more clearly, or to simply help me feel better about this. My main concern is the age difference, however, we get along SO well that we don't really feel it. If you have a similar story, I'd take great pleasure to hear about it, and if too personal for public forum, I'd welcome a PM.

 

[CutieMouse]

24 years isn't as big of a deal, as the younger of the two hits their 30s (IMO). Then again, I am a bit biased given that my longest lasting/happiest relationship was with a man 20 years my senior. lol

Is this an in-person relationship? How long has it been going on? Are you past the honeymoon/NRE stage? What's the worst case scenario, should you go forward?

 

[jonnysimple]

24 years isn't as big of a deal, as the younger of the two hits their 30s (IMO). Then again, I am a bit biased given that my longest lasting/happiest relationship was with a man 20 years my senior. lol

Is this an in-person relationship? How long has it been going on? Are you past the honeymoon/NRE stage? What's the worst case scenario, should you go forward?

Yes, very much up close and in person Has been going for two months now. Not sure about the worst case scenario, other than wanting different things in life due to the age difference. Eg., I will retire within seven years, whereas she will still be quite interested to keep working toward her goals... however... for me, retirement doesn't mean sitting in a barcalounger with a beer in front of the TV, so that does still keep our life styles in alignment.

 

[CutieMouse]

Yes, very much up close and in person Has been going for two months now. Not sure about the worst case scenario, other than wanting different things in life due to the age difference. Eg., I will retire within seven years, whereas she will still be quite interested to keep working toward her goals... however... for me, retirement doesn't mean sitting in a barcalounger with a beer in front of the TV, so that does still keep our life styles in alignment.

Two months is still honeymoon/NRE stage - which tends to seriously cloud one's judgement.

Why not simply continue enjoying what you enjoy? Why does it need to become a "serious relationship" (label and all)? What would change from what you have now, and can you have what you have now, without to moving into "serious relationship" territory?

I am dear friends with the man I mentioned earlier. I maintained an intimate friendship with him, regardless of who I was dating (although I was always open & up front about his presence in my life), until I met someone I wanted to be monogamous with. The fact that I consider the man to be family, isn't changed by defining the relationship as "real" or "serious" or whatever descriptor one chooses. It is what it is.

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

Why the fuck not?

You don't detail anything of your situation: whether you two live in proximity, whether this is rl or online, whether there are other people in the picture.

But I offer you the words of E.M. Forster: Do we find happiness so often that we should turn it off the box when it happens to sit there?

 

[jonnysimple]

Why the fuck not?

You don't detail anything of your situation: whether you two live in proximity, whether this is rl or online, whether there are other people in the picture.

But I offer you the words of E.M. Forster: Do we find happiness so often that we should turn it off the box when it happens to sit there?

I would never consider an online relationship something that could become serious, but that's just me. We do live in close-enough proximity and see each other quite often. There are no other people in the picture.

I tend to agree with the "just do it, how still it is to not allow it to flourish" but I keep hitting the old "age gap" thing. But as @CutieMouse said, quite rightfully, I should really hold back and let this go somewhat longer.

 

[CutieMouse]

I would never consider an online relationship something that could become serious, but that's just me. We do live in close-enough proximity and see each other quite often. There are no other people in the picture.

I tend to agree with the "just do it, how still it is to not allow it to flourish" but I keep hitting the old "age gap" thing. But as @CutieMouse said, quite rightfully, I should really hold back and let this go somewhat longer.

If you live closely enough to see one another often [enough], why not just enjoy what you have, split overnights, and see where things go?

Really, you're kinda making this a little more complicated than necessary. As my partner says of our relationship - it works, and it's lovely. Why waste energy worrying about what might happen?

 

[BabblingBrooke]

I also thing you're probably over-complicating this. If it feels right for both of you, keep doing what makes you happy. A play partner relationship can certainly turn into more. Sounds like you're having a lot of fun.

 

[Primalex]

The question I pose to the LIT crowd I dearly respect; Am I be crazy to continue down this road?

No relationship is without problems. You just face different ones.

The success depends on the willingness of both parties to come to an agreement about the various relationship aspects that makes both happy (or at least content).



Please do not combine discussion topics with personal site advertisements. You can advertise your site in the signature. Your site does not contribute to the topic and makes people wonder how important the actual problem and how important the desire to promote a page was.

 

[NCarolinaChic]

I feel the difference in age, now that I'm getting beyond child bearing years. That's the rub I would have in dating much older. And also why I'm not a fan when people lie about their age. Biology can't be fudged, even if I FEEL and look 10+ years younger.

 

[gemini1966]

Age is just a number. That might be a simplistic statement, but true. Yes, there are certain "numbers" that might be important. Under 18 of course being the most obvious, but beyond that no. The mind can stay young (as well as body for some). As long as there's is a connection, age means nothing. Just my oppinion.

 

[Lord_Steve]

I have a serious situation on my hands. I've been playing with various girls for the last few years, from FetLife, Literotica, etc., and it's been nothing but a complete barrel of fun. I document some of my exploits in my blog...

http://jonnysimple.tumblr.com/

My most recent play-partner has turned into a deeper relationship, one that may be taking a turn to the serious side; a relationship. We have already made this known to each other in so many words.

I am 53 and she is 29, a 24 year spread. We are REALLY in tune sexually, to a comical degree. We also have a lot in common outside of the bedroom, can talk for hours about anything, and are totally comfortable in each other's presence. The girl I'm talking about is "Chloe" in the blog by the way.

(Note: my profile says I'm 32 years old, because everyone who spends 30 minutes with me says "you don't look older than 30" so I figure, why should I lie about my perceived age She knows my real age!!!)

The question I pose to the LIT crowd I dearly respect; Am I be crazy to continue down this road?

I'm looking for your opinion to possibly help me see things more clearly, or to simply help me feel better about this. My main concern is the age difference, however, we get along SO well that we don't really feel it. If you have a similar story, I'd take great pleasure to hear about it, and if too personal for public forum, I'd welcome a PM.

do not lie about your age. that is incredibly fucked up. let's put aside the fact that you are having sex with a woman who could be your daughter, or the fact that you're only looking for assenting opinions.

you're in your 50s. i don't care how old you look (although feel free to post pictures) but you are a 50 year old dude. your online presence should reflect that.

 

[IrisAlthea]

I have trouble getting the timelines straight, between this thread and the one in Talk:
http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1271748

In the thread I linked, you state that you only play with one person at the time an that you just had an unpleasant experience with a young lady you wanted to play with.

In this thread you say that you have been playing with this other young lady for two months.
Both threads are from January though.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[jonnysimple]

I have trouble getting the timelines straight, between this thread and the one in Talk:
http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1271748

In the thread I linked, you state that you only play with one person at the time an that you just had an unpleasant experience with a young lady you wanted to play with.

In this thread you say that you have been playing with this other young lady for two months.
Both threads are from January though.

No sure how this is significant in this conversation, but to clarify; she invited me to play with her. Just having someone say "I'd like to play with you" doesn't mean that I'm actually playing with them. I would have only said yes to that if either my current play-partner said she didn't mind, or that she (or I) decided to move on.

 

[jonnysimple]

To whomever cares; it's been two years since I first posted this here, and we're still together, quite happy, having tons of fun together and with a few other girls on occasion, being kinky as sin, and growing our group of kinky intellectual friends. It's funny how scared I was at the start of this, and now, rarely think about the age difference.

 

[cookiecat]

To whomever cares; it's been two years since I first posted this here, and we're still together, quite happy, having tons of fun together and with a few other girls on occasion, being kinky as sin, and growing our group of kinky intellectual friends. It's funny how scared I was at the start of this, and now, rarely think about the age difference.

excellent!

 

[leather_spitfire]

that’s awesome! sometimes it is worth jumping on for the ride to see where you end up. so long as you keep your eyes open. good for you