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[Weldergirl1]

Im new to the sub-dom world. Im having lots of emotions and feelings i didnt expect. Any advice out there? Whats normal? Whats to be expected?

 

[Farawyn]

Im new to the sub-dom world. Im having lots of emotions and feelings i didnt expect. Any advice out there? Whats normal? Whats to be expected?

Tell how you feel and what being “new” means so we can better help you, please.

 

[yukonnights]

I agree with Far, please be more specific so we can help you, but I would also say in general it is normal to experience lots of feelings and emotions that are surprising as you realize that you have needs on the BDSM spectrum.

One thing that is pretty common to new subs as they seek to get their newly discovered needs met is something called "sub frenzy" I don't know if this might be what you are talking about, but you might Google it and do a little reading.

But please... talk to us. We were all new once.

cb

Cas, I know this is off topic...I know it's just me...but such insensitive word choice when you know some of us are leading the charge over that 'hill of time'...okay, the tears are abating now and the sobs are softer...my breathing is more regular again...sorry for interrupting

Edit to add: This is an an attempt at humor

 

[Primalex]

Im new to the sub-dom world. Im having lots of emotions and feelings i didnt expect. Any advice out there?

Sock color should match your pants, not your shoes.

 

[Blue]

Sock color should match your pants, not your shoes.

In my generation sock colour should match your hair.

 

[LIVINRFANTASIES]

Dollie

Cas, I know this is off topic...I know it's just me...but such insensitive word choice when you know some of us are leading the charge over that 'hill of time'...okay, the tears are abating now and the sobs are softer...my breathing is more regular again...sorry for interrupting

Edit to add: This is an an attempt at humor

We were all new once.

But for some of us that was so long ago we've forgotten. More humor needed, less sex..... Or did I get that backward?

By the way, we are over the hill and quickly headed for the other bottom. These are tears of laughter!BDSM ? I'm much older and I still get confused who's the boss.:caning:

 

[yukonnights]

We were all new once.

But for some of us that was so long ago we've forgotten. More humor needed, less sex..... Or did I get that backward?

By the way, we are over the hill and quickly headed for the other bottom. These are tears of laughter!BDSM ? I'm much older and I still get confused who's the boss.:caning:

More humor...less sex? It seems to me that reality hits when they are both happening at the same time...that can be soooo embarrassing

 

[yukonnights]

Im new to the sub-dom world. Im having lots of emotions and feelings i didnt expect. Any advice out there? Whats normal? Whats to be expected?

I agree with Far, please be more specific so we can help you, but I would also say in general it is normal to experience lots of feelings and emotions that are surprising as you realize that you have needs on the BDSM spectrum.

One thing that is pretty common to new subs as they seek to get their newly discovered needs met is something called "sub frenzy" I don't know if this might be what you are talking about, but you might Google it and do a little reading.

But please... talk to us. We were all new once.

cb

Weldergirl, You have disappeared, and I fear it was my ill timed humor. Please feel welcome and safe to talk to Cassie and Farawyn.

As to your question; I wouldn't say there is a certain "normal". The vast variations among people precludes that. What should be normal is that you do not feel forced, coerced or uncomfortable. Some feel that BDSM is actually the most intimate expression of intimacy because of the trust built between partners. There's a lot to learn, so we all do hope you drop in again ~

 

[cookiecat]

Are you sub? Are you dom?

 

[BensSweetSubmissive]

I would say having lots of feelings and emotions you didn't expect is what's normal. Advice is hard to give since everyone is different, but "Go slow" is probably not a bad idea. Also, talk to your partner about how you're feeling. Communication and honesty are very important in a D/s relationship.

 

[SissySalina]

Im new to the sub-dom world. Im having lots of emotions and feelings i didnt expect. Any advice out there? Whats normal? Whats to be expected?

If you are new then welcome.
Contrary to beliefs people are not the same and emotions and feeling's are not the same for all. In actually "great" is a little different for each person.
If you describe the emotion some can relate and give a general idea about it but not specifics.
Also not sure what you expected but you should take it slow and ease into things, do not rush into different things. If you do things that you normally do not do then you should expect different feelings and emotions, that is part of the experience.
Hope this helps a little.