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reupthat33
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11 Months ago I met this girl, she initiated contact and I just sort of went along with it, and did not expect much to come of it. She lives a few hours away and while i was texting her i was still speaking with girls on my college campus etc
Eventually me and this long distance girl started meeting and i enjoyed hanging out with her and eventually we starting dating "officially" (a month or 2 after we met) and I cut off all the girls on the side for her, and we see each other about once every few weeks.
about four months into the relationship I asked how come sex between us hasn't happened yet and she just responded with a IDK... no biggie i thought, we dont see each other often and she told me she's a virgin.
Eventually she brought the idea up that we should wait until marriage. (I was going through a rough patch in life and I did not want to beg for sex or seem desperate, so i just went along with her and pretty much agreed that we could wait until marriage. I figured she was nervous and eventually i would ease her in)
She lives about 5 hours away from me and we see each other about once a month. She lives with her parents and I live with mine. We only spend private time together when we get a hotel, which is every other month. We are both religious but her reasoning for waiting until marriage was a combination of being scared of pregnancy, not feeling like a whore, guilt about past hookups, and religious reasons. I was not satisfied with any of the reasons besides the religious reason... and i am coming to a point where I am unsatisfied with where we are, we barely see each other and we dont have sex, we dont exchange nudes, and in the rare chance we spend time together its a mediocore handjob. My question is... do i put extra effort easing this girl in...? or do i tell her straight up? she's stopped being respectful to me... she hangs up randomly during FT... she's rude when we hang out.... she talks about stupid random problems like how shes angry about her brother.... its making me wonder, whats the point of any of this??? I'm not necessarily set on sex or breaking up, but im just not satisfied with how we decided it... any tips?
I want to add that we talk nonstop, we have our lives planned together, everything else about this girl is perfect. We both graduated school this past year, and planned to get married and move in together in a couple of years.
tl;dr:Me and girlfriend both religious, girlfriend wants to hold off sex until marriage 3 years from now for personal guilt (im not okay with this reason) religious reasons (im okay with this) and other reasons. what do i do?
Eventually me and this long distance girl started meeting and i enjoyed hanging out with her and eventually we starting dating "officially" (a month or 2 after we met) and I cut off all the girls on the side for her, and we see each other about once every few weeks.
about four months into the relationship I asked how come sex between us hasn't happened yet and she just responded with a IDK... no biggie i thought, we dont see each other often and she told me she's a virgin.
Eventually she brought the idea up that we should wait until marriage. (I was going through a rough patch in life and I did not want to beg for sex or seem desperate, so i just went along with her and pretty much agreed that we could wait until marriage. I figured she was nervous and eventually i would ease her in)
She lives about 5 hours away from me and we see each other about once a month. She lives with her parents and I live with mine. We only spend private time together when we get a hotel, which is every other month. We are both religious but her reasoning for waiting until marriage was a combination of being scared of pregnancy, not feeling like a whore, guilt about past hookups, and religious reasons. I was not satisfied with any of the reasons besides the religious reason... and i am coming to a point where I am unsatisfied with where we are, we barely see each other and we dont have sex, we dont exchange nudes, and in the rare chance we spend time together its a mediocore handjob. My question is... do i put extra effort easing this girl in...? or do i tell her straight up? she's stopped being respectful to me... she hangs up randomly during FT... she's rude when we hang out.... she talks about stupid random problems like how shes angry about her brother.... its making me wonder, whats the point of any of this??? I'm not necessarily set on sex or breaking up, but im just not satisfied with how we decided it... any tips?
I want to add that we talk nonstop, we have our lives planned together, everything else about this girl is perfect. We both graduated school this past year, and planned to get married and move in together in a couple of years.
tl;dr:Me and girlfriend both religious, girlfriend wants to hold off sex until marriage 3 years from now for personal guilt (im not okay with this reason) religious reasons (im okay with this) and other reasons. what do i do?
