Let's embrace our vulnerability together! (in person eventually, so probably UK only)

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What do I mean? Watch this TED Talk:

• Brené Brown: The Power of Vulnerability

(Stay with it until the end, as that's where the most potent and poignant messages lie)

I express my vulnerability through kink. It takes me courage (as defined in the talk) to embrace wholeheartedly my unconventional and sometimes dark desires. I crave the opportunity to share those aspects of me with someone like-minded and to explore in time our shared yearnings through consensual play. First, I need to develop the trust with potential partners for us to peel back gently our protective outer layers and expose our vulnerable inner selves to each other.

I don't believe that it's possible for me to do this online. To be this open with someone requires me to be able to see and touch them. I'm happy to chat online initially, but only if there's a possibility of meeting in due course. That probably restricts me to women who are in the UK — or who travel extravagantly!

This advert isn't perfect, but I believe that it's enough to resonate with the right person.

For further information, please check out a fantasy of mine and my more detailed personals advert — or get in touch!

I'll let the TED Talk have the final word:

"They had connection as a result of authenticity. They were willing to let go of who they thought they should be in order to be who they were"

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[Mindfondler]

Bumping — if only because I found the video thought-provoking and deserving of a wider audience.
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[Mindfondler]

I still think the content of that TED Talk is noteworthy. Does anyone else agree?
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[LucianaGrace]

I still think the content of that TED Talk is noteworthy. Does anyone else agree?
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Hi Mr MF!

Just watched it. And oh my god. It blew me away.

Without going into specifics, I learned this lesson of vulnerability & shame Vs vulnerability & strength the difficult way. And I continue to struggle with it. There are many times I want to go back to the ‘numbing phase’ because vulnerability is too overwhelming. I’ll also add that I find living in a vulnerable and open state is lonely. Perhaps it’s because I’m relatively new to living this way, so I haven’t met many people who live in the same way. Or perhaps it’s because there aren’t many who choose to live this way.

Either way, that’s my current struggle when attempting to meet new people and searching for my potential romantic partner. I want to be with someone who is as vulnerable, open, and authentic as I am. I’m finding such a person very elusive. And it has me questioning whether I’m simply approaching this in the wrong way.

If you haven’t watched the video, I highly recommend that you do. Would love to read other’s insights from watching and reflecting on it.

Lucy

 

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Just watched it. And oh my god. It blew me away.

By the second half, it was doing that for me too.

Without going into specifics, I learned this lesson of vulnerability & shame Vs vulnerability & strength the difficult way. And I continue to struggle with it. There are many times I want to go back to the ‘numbing phase’ because vulnerability is too overwhelming. I’ll also add that I find living in a vulnerable and open state is lonely. Perhaps it’s because I’m relatively new to living this way, so I haven’t met many people who live in the same way. Or perhaps it’s because there aren’t many who choose to live this way.

I've realised that I don't have any choice but to live this way. I've had my share of being beaten down (or up) and trying to hide my true self behind an impenetrable mask. And, yet, I keep going back for more — entrusting my vulnerability to people because it's as fundamental to me as breathing.

Either way, that’s my current struggle when attempting to meet new people and searching for my potential romantic partner. I want to be with someone who is as vulnerable, open, and authentic as I am. I’m finding such a person very elusive. And it has me questioning whether I’m simply approaching this in the wrong way.

I don't know. I'd suggest that being true to yourself is always the best long-term approach. Unfortunately, it can bring one a great deal of heartache and pain in the mean time. It's very tempting to try to numb that pain instead — to retreat to a place of safety, disconnection and regret.

If you haven’t watched the video, I highly recommend that you do. Would love to read other’s insights from watching and reflecting on it.

I'd love to hear from others too. As I've said above, it's essential for me to try to live wholeheartedly. I'm starting to doubt whether most other people are wired the same way.
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