Is getting a handjob cheating?

[InSearchofIncredible]

In the context of having a massage, is getting a happy ending considered cheating on your wife? In a (man's) technical sense, your cock is part of your body, just the twenty-first digit. So while you're getting all your other parts rubbed, why not your cock?

 

[whenagain]

In the context of having a massage, is getting a happy ending considered cheating on your wife? In a (man's) technical sense, your cock is part of your body, just the twenty-first digit. So while you're getting all your other parts rubbed, why not your cock?

Yes, unless you have special dispensation from the wife, it is.

Probably the easiest to get away with though.

 

[Snugbug]

Most likely yes, but consult your wife to be sure

 

[Asian_Flower]

No its not cheating, just like your wife being fingered isn't cheating either.

 

[thefishfryer]

Only if you enjoy it.

 

[Arianthe]

If you feel the need to ask Lit, it's probably cheating.

 

[ilovetoeat42]

If you feel the need to ask Lit, it's probably cheating.

Agreed, though who am I to judge?

 

[LizVegas79]

Yes.

However, as someone who worked as a part-time masseuse a thousand years ago, I understand that "accidents" can and do happen. But, as a wife, I don't necessarily need to hear about it if one did. I'll already be mad enough just knowing that you went to someone else for a massage.

 

[Arianthe]

Agreed, though who am I to judge?

You're right. Maybe OP was asking for a friend.

 

[roc23]

Yes,it’s cheating.

Even when I masturbate I let my left hand know what’s going on.

 

[newhere2learn]

No its not cheating, just like your wife being fingered isn't cheating either.

Best reply ever.

Maybe more so for me, as it's happened before

 

[Arianthe]

No its not cheating, just like your wife being fingered isn't cheating either.

Best reply ever.

But... A woman's clitoris is at least partly outside her body so if the masseuse only massages the external part, it would be therapeutic rather than sexual and thus, not cheating.

 

[JackOffer]

No, neither is a blow job, nor are either one even sex. Only penetration is sex.

 

[gtnlynn]

I considered it cheating when my girlfriend (future wife) gave frequent hand jobs to dates in college. We were almost engaged. Of course, she had sex with some of them, so hand job cheating wasn't a real concern.

 

[dannyb57]

No, neither is a blow job, nor are either one even sex. Only penetration is sex.

according to President Clinton

 

[Olderthanthat]

No, neither is a blow job, nor are either one even sex. Only penetration is sex.

Tell that to Bill Clinton.

 

[moonflasher]

Not as long as you wash your cock off before heading home .

 

[Icy1]

No its not cheating, just like your wife being fingered isn't cheating either.

Hehe.

 

[Farawyn]

In the context of having a massage, is getting a happy ending considered cheating on your wife? In a (man's) technical sense, your cock is part of your body, just the twenty-first digit. So while you're getting all your other parts rubbed, why not your cock?

Good talk, Son.

 

[screwher]

It all depends on the dynamics of your relationship. My wife and I are in a hotwife type relationship. She has sex with other men with my full knowledge and approval. Mrs. Screwher doesn't have the same desires for me with other women. So my getting a handjob from another woman would be cheating. But a hundred guys can finger my wife!

 

[TheWhiteBull]

What particular act you commit with someone other than your partner isn’t what makes it cheating. It’s engaging in a sexual act with someone other than your partner, in the absence of their approval.

 

[HayleyLuvsSex]

i'd say so yes

 

[cliteatingman]

Really simple test: if it is not cheating, you can tell your partner you did it without a negative reaction

 

[EctoJohn]

Short answer: yes.
Long answer: yeess.

 

[LookingGlassLicker]

It depends on what you and your wife have agreed upon as permitted contact with other people. In the absence of any such conversation, it's probably safe to assume that your wife would consider it cheating. If you disagree with this (potential) designation, I'd suggest having a conversation with her regarding what each of you want and expect from your relationship.

If you're seeking the approval of strangers in a sex-orientated online forum, I'd guess you already know what your wife would think of it.