some sensible ground rules, I think, for an intimate mail exchange

[KimGordon67]

I've been following this thread for a good reason,, unfortunately I know this guy but as glblock. Was messaging him for a few weeks. I deeply regret it . Thought I could find someone to make up for what was missing in my relationship. But I found constant criticism, someone scarily controlling demanding things to be done this or that way. I was even put down for going on lit when I apparently should have been spending time messaging him. Final straw was an erotic fantasy I wrote , now most guys would have loved to receive such a thing but no he tore it to shreads, pulled it to pieces , last thing I needed after a stessful day . He has zero empathy.
All your comments about him are correct , I ask ladies please do not contact him you will regret it.
Unfortunately some people never learn I'm sure another ad will appear by him .

I'm really sorry you had to deal with that. I think often people can misjudge the effects that online communication has because of the lack of immediacy. I know that sort of thing, especially the criticism of something I'd put time and energy into (and you're right, most guys would appreciate that, rather than trying to find flaws) can be quite upsetting.

 

[pikmin1388]

I'm really sorry you had to deal with that. I think often people can misjudge the effects that online communication has because of the lack of immediacy. I know that sort of thing, especially the criticism of something I'd put time and energy into (and you're right, most guys would appreciate that, rather than trying to find flaws) can be quite upsetting.

Thanks for your kind words , I have received support from a couple of listers in my pm, s. I realise how wrong he is , and I'm not to blame one bit . I'm lucky enough to have made some good friends on lit. Unfortunately there is always one idiot determined to spoil it for everybody else
I sincerely hope no lady contacts him again .

 

[kittiGoddess]

I strongly feel the need to defend this wonderful gentleman, I have found him to be polite, courteous and very perceptive, maybe you have to take some of the blame for your negative experiences, if you approach people with a positive and respectful attitude you tend to get the same in return.