Experienced Doms

[Blue]

Well, You know, even a broken squirrel with a clock finds a blind nut twice a day.

Are you ok?

 

[Miles Long]

This thread is so good on many wonderful levels.

 

[BeautifulBlueSky218]

This thread is so good on many wonderful levels.

I'm glad you love this thread!

 

[richard_daily]

What would make someone a "true" dom?

 

[cookiecat]

What would make someone a "true" dom?

A "true" dom:

writes to me in the third person. (How is this girl doing today?)

writes the word "we" like this: W/we had fun last night.

insists I carry his bag when I meet him at his car and we head to the hotel room. Because sir said so.

tells me to go braless with a tight shirt and no panties with a short skirt. Heels, of course. But, you know, be classy. And he shows up in sweats and a hoody.

describes in his kinky "ad" he wants a true fuckmeat painslut who will be put in a cage when she's done being useful. Usually he's 55+ and requests 18-30.

demands he chooses what I wear, which is the cliche short skirt high heels. (I swear, that's part of why I married my guy. He loved that I wore big sweaters and long skirts and doc marten boots. Oh, the fun he had putting me in a rope harness when we wentout or freshly cropped nipples rubbing against a big wool sweater)

insists I call him sir after every sentence. And we just met.

Hey - in all seriousness - whatever floats your boat. If any of these things is in a person's bdsm tool box, that's fine. They're just not in mine.

A true dom is just a person who inspires another person or persons to follow or submit. What's true for one person won't be true for another.

There's a thread somewhere about what is a true submissive? It - as a lot of Talk threads seem to do - jumped the rails toward the end.

 

[cascadiabound]

Hey - in all seriousness - whatever floats your boat. If any of these things is in a person's bdsm tool box, that's fine. They're just not in mine.

A true dom is just a person who inspires another person or persons to follow or submit. What's true for one person won't be true for another.

There's a thread somewhere about what is a true submissive? It - as a lot of Talk threads seem to do - jumped the rails toward the end.

Found it I think... See link below:

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1442894

 

[Farawyn]

A "true" dom:

writes to me in the third person. (How is this girl doing today?)

writes the word "we" like this: W/we had fun last night.

insists I carry his bag when I meet him at his car and we head to the hotel room. Because sir said so.

tells me to go braless with a tight shirt and no panties with a short skirt. Heels, of course. But, you know, be classy. And he shows up in sweats and a hoody.

describes in his kinky "ad" he wants a true fuckmeat painslut who will be put in a cage when she's done being useful. Usually he's 55+ and requests 18-30.

demands he chooses what I wear, which is the cliche short skirt high heels. (I swear, that's part of why I married my guy. He loved that I wore big sweaters and long skirts and doc marten boots. Oh, the fun he had putting me in a rope harness when we wentout or freshly cropped nipples rubbing against a big wool sweater)

insists I call him sir after every sentence. And we just met.

Hey - in all seriousness - whatever floats your boat. If any of these things is in a person's bdsm tool box, that's fine. They're just not in mine.

A true dom is just a person who inspires another person or persons to follow or submit. What's true for one person won't be true for another.

There's a thread somewhere about what is a true submissive? It - as a lot of Talk threads seem to do - jumped the rails toward the end.

Inspires another person to submit.
Love that.

 

[barefootgirl69]

Inspires another person to submit.
Love that.

I do, too!
*fond memories*

 

[LiamHDunn]

OK, I have to ask, what is the knock around enjoying playing dress up with your sub?
Is it a generally bad thing on Lit? Or us it a personal experience thing?

I enjoy dressing my playmate, but I also enjoy spending money on her to make sure the clothes I select make her feel special and beautiful.

 

[MeekMe]

OK, I have to ask, what is the knock around enjoying playing dress up with your sub?
Is it a generally bad thing on Lit? Or us it a personal experience thing?

I enjoy dressing my playmate, but I also enjoy spending money on her to make sure the clothes I select make her feel special and beautiful.

It’s not entirely a bad thing. As Cookie pointed out though, it’s often cliche and so very predictable. What seems to be the standard for what a lot of guys find sexy (short skirt, no panties or bra with heels) tends to not make me feel sexy. That’s not my version of sexy, that to me, looks trashy.

I have no problem playing dress up. I really like when he wants me to wear something specific, or not specific but with guidelines. What I don’t like is wearing something so far from my own style I just feel completely unhappy with the look. Some people really like the short skirt. I don’t.

 

[Owwee]

I've talked to a few people on here who claimed to be Dom's. However when I did speak to them, they didn't know much about the lifestyle and I could tell that they were fakes.

Is Experienced Dom's hard to find?

Over the years I've been learning about the lifestyle and one thing that I seem to like is how their never ashamed on what satisfies them.

Before I realized I was a true sub, I remember I was so ashamed by what aroused me and had a hard time talking about it with anyone. Now I simply on share it on here and it certainly has helped a lot.

My thinking is their busy and only the want- to- bes are talking with you.

No not a Dom but a slut lover OH Yes!

 

[LiamHDunn]

It’s not entirely a bad thing. As Cookie pointed out though, it’s often cliche and so very predictable. What seems to be the standard for what a lot of guys find sexy (short skirt, no panties or bra with heels) tends to not make me feel sexy. That’s not my version of sexy, that to me, looks trashy.

I have no problem playing dress up. I really like when he wants me to wear something specific, or not specific but with guidelines. What I don’t like is wearing something so far from my own style I just feel completely unhappy with the look. Some people really like the short skirt. I don’t.

Exactly, I think she has to really feel good in and about it.

I believe that it's truthful to say that when I have taken a playmate shopping, with few exceptions, I have never said "You're getting this". It's always, "show me choices of things that make you feel sexy." From there, I may or may not encourage her to try something on if I think she want to, but for is reluctant for some reason. "Good girls don't dress that way", us an example. But if it's just about my wish fulfillment and not the enhancement of her self image, or ego or confidence, or what have you, then I think it's the dirt if thing you address.

I will confess to putting a girl in a shirt skirt a time or two, but only when the setting or activity was appropriate.

 

[barefootgirl69]

Exactly, I think she has to really feel good in and about it.

I believe that it's truthful to say that when I have taken a playmate shopping, with few exceptions, I have never said "You're getting this". It's always, "show me choices of things that make you feel sexy." From there, I may or may not encourage her to try something on if I think she want to, but for is reluctant for some reason. "Good girls don't dress that way", us an example. But if it's just about my wish fulfillment and not the enhancement of her self image, or ego or confidence, or what have you, then I think it's the dirt if thing you address.

I will confess to putting a girl in a shirt skirt a time or two, but only when the setting or activity was appropriate.

Sometimes we hesitate because we want to know what he likes, we want to please, and wearing the item, knowing he likes it, gives us confidence.

I will admit, going into a store to show him what I liked had me blushing, but I love to shop together online to get ideas.

 

[snugglestruggle]

My thinking is their busy and only the want- to- bes are talking with you.

No not a Dom but a slut lover OH Yes!

There's a difference between being a slut and being a sub. Being one, does not necessarily mean a person is the other. Not saying You per say but lot's of people make that erroneous assumption.

 

[LiamHDunn]

Sometimes we hesitate because we want to know what he likes, we want to please, and wearing the item, knowing he likes it, gives us confidence.

I will admit, going into a store to show him what I liked had me blushing, but I love to shop together online to get ideas.

The hesitation is why it is imperative to get to know one another, to always communicate, communicate, communicate, before you every start seriously playing.

And, for me, knowing that she is made confident by the item, that makes it all the more worth the efforts.

As to the shopping, on line is a good start, but nothing tops taking her to a larger city with a fashion district and taking her into the stores for the treatment she will receive from the staff. To watch her treated like a princess, knowing that later, you will treat her much differently, and she will love both.

 

[RawHumor]

A "true" dom:
tells me to go braless with a tight shirt and no panties with a short skirt. Heels, of course. But, you know, be classy. And he shows up in sweats and a hoody.

insists I call him sir after every sentence. And we just met.

I love these two!

 

[cookiecat]

I love these two!

I might be speaking from experience.

 

[Bramblethorn]

A "true" dom:

writes to me in the third person. (How is this girl doing today?)

writes the word "we" like this: W/we had fun last night.

insists I carry his bag when I meet him at his car and we head to the hotel room. Because sir said so.

tells me to go braless with a tight shirt and no panties with a short skirt. Heels, of course. But, you know, be classy. And he shows up in sweats and a hoody.

describes in his kinky "ad" he wants a true fuckmeat painslut who will be put in a cage when she's done being useful. Usually he's 55+ and requests 18-30.

demands he chooses what I wear, which is the cliche short skirt high heels. (I swear, that's part of why I married my guy. He loved that I wore big sweaters and long skirts and doc marten boots. Oh, the fun he had putting me in a rope harness when we wentout or freshly cropped nipples rubbing against a big wool sweater)

insists I call him sir after every sentence. And we just met.

*puts this post in a glass case and hangs it on the wall*

 

[cuckoldbob]

.......................

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

Are you ok?

Not really: I’m two bricks shy of the sharpest tool in the belfry.

But Cookie’s post has helped me rise from the ashes like a canary in a land mine.

 

[barefootgirl69]

Heh heh!

I just had a comment on a profile elsewhere from a guy enjoying my other stories.
He said "I'm a master myself."

Looking at his profile, he's this gamer type guy, looks about 22 with thick glasses, a schoolboy complexion and I think about hair 17 on his lip. O Great Master.

A Master Gamer... who'd a thought!

 

[KimGordon67]

I got this great email on the dating site I'm on yesterday:

"Sorry I don't know who Kim Gordon is!

Though I am a Dom and looking for a sub that I do know..

Have you ever been a sub?"

No indication of any aspect of my rather lengthy (I know, surprising for me) profile that made him think we might be compatible - a profile that also doesn't mention bdsm, or even kink in any shape or form.
I just never know how to respond to things like that ... 'Totally! Why don't you break out the handcuffs and I'll be right over'?

 

[KimGordon67]

I got this great email on the dating site I'm on yesterday:

"Sorry I don't know who Kim Gordon is!

Though I am a Dom and looking for a sub that I do know..

Have you ever been a sub?"

No indication of any aspect of my rather lengthy (I know, surprising for me) profile that made him think we might be compatible - a profile that also doesn't mention bdsm, or even kink in any shape or form.
I just never know how to respond to things like that ... 'Totally! Why don't you break out the handcuffs and I'll be right over'?

Sorry ... obviously I meant "'Totally! Why don't you break out the handcuffs and I'll be right over Sir"?

 

[Farawyn]

I got this great email on the dating site I'm on yesterday:

"Sorry I don't know who Kim Gordon is!

Though I am a Dom and looking for a sub that I do know..

Have you ever been a sub?"

No indication of any aspect of my rather lengthy (I know, surprising for me) profile that made him think we might be compatible - a profile that also doesn't mention bdsm, or even kink in any shape or form.
I just never know how to respond to things like that ... 'Totally! Why don't you break out the handcuffs and I'll be right over'?

Say that.
So we can watch them cwyyyyy.

 

[KimGordon67]

Say that.
So we can watch them cwyyyyy.

I suggested he might be better off finding someone who found 50 Shades 'life-changing'.
(The funniest bit was that his user name was 'socks[some number]' ... so domly.)