Still arguing with myself about being bisexual -anyone else?

[mijnenig]

I am 76 years old and still love sex! I had a few bisex adventures, especially in Thailand, but basically was 'straight' for decades. I had a younger brother who was a TG and I had no problem with it. To each their own was my attitude.

Then, I got old making finding partners difficult to say the least. Then my wife died and, after mourning, I could not find any women who really interested me. But I have always had a very strong sex drive and so I tried m2m sex.

I still remember my surprise at the sensation of my first cock sucking and, in fact, still get the feeling whenever I do suck a cock. It was so hot and smooth - wow!

But , the point of this thread, is that I still have not truly accepted my bisexuality. I still prefer women but need to have sex but when I do have sex with a man - it bothers me afterward. I have not truly accepted being bi.

I would really like to hear from others as to how they feel and if there are others out there like me?

Hope to hear from some of you!

 

[Controlu69]

I am mostly attracted to women, but I know I am bi. I am not attracted to just any regular man, but I know I find men sexy. I struggled with it in my 20's, I have no issues with it anymore

 

[plesmoreagain]

Accepting being bi is like accepting the color of your eyes. When I am with a boy it rocks! And when I am with a girl I am at peace. Being attracted should not be forced.

 

[wntn2try]

I understand

Like you, after my first time I felt regrets, I waited a long time then tried again. I enjoyed my experience then more regrets. More time in between , not a lot of opportunities but the regrets were way less.

Now I am at the point where I accept my bi urges and want to truly enjoy them for what they are, opportunities for pleasure, arousal and excitement. I'm actively looking for someone to enjoy them with.

 

[OpenMouth]

I still don't consider myself bi. I dress as a girl because it excites me; I suck cock (extremely well) because it excites me. I'm not attracted to men and couldn't fuck one or kiss one.

A TV friend of mine insists I'm bi, and you know what? It don't confront me none either way.

 

[jimmyturtleman]

I am 76 years old and still love sex! I had a few bisex adventures, especially in Thailand, but basically was 'straight' for decades. I had a younger brother who was a TG and I had no problem with it. To each their own was my attitude.

Then, I got old making finding partners difficult to say the least. Then my wife died and, after mourning, I could not find any women who really interested me. But I have always had a very strong sex drive and so I tried m2m sex.

I still remember my surprise at the sensation of my first cock sucking and, in fact, still get the feeling whenever I do suck a cock. It was so hot and smooth - wow!

But , the point of this thread, is that I still have not truly accepted my bisexuality. I still prefer women but need to have sex but when I do have sex with a man - it bothers me afterward. I have not truly accepted being bi.

I would really like to hear from others as to how they feel and if there are others out there like me?

Hope to hear from some of you!

Makes no difference one way or another if you consider yourself bi or not. It sure sounds like you are a guy who loves both pussy and cock. No need to be afraid of it. Be a willing and enthusiastic participant in whatever sex you enjoy. Before I sucked my first cock, about three years ago, I was worried that I would be overwhelmed by guilt. Surprisingly, I wasn't. As a married man, I didn't escape entirely guilt free, but I have been able to minimize it so that I truly enjoy and look forward to my m2m times. As a widower, you should feel free to enjoy your sexuality guilt free.

 

[J1biboi]

I have always considered my self to be bi, even before I knew there was such a term. As long as I can remember I have had the urge to suck cock. When I finally did get to suck a real cock I knew I was bi, because I knew right then that if I ever got the chance I would do it again. But I still prefer women

 

[kcniceguy4u]

It’s a generational thing

It’s a generational thing kids growing up today do not have the stigma that you did when you were young man. Being a kid of the 1970s the stigma was too much to be either bi or gay.

If we could get a do over I bet we would be gay.

 

[OpenMouth]

It’s a generational thing kids growing up today do not have the stigma that you did when you were young man.

Yes, glad those days are over (for a lot of kids, anyway).

 

[Astroman72]

I have always considered my self to be bi, even before I knew there was such a term. As long as I can remember I have had the urge to suck cock. ... But I still prefer women

Pretty much the same with me, although I've never actually been with a guy.

I have no problem thinking of myself as bi---I mean, it's just logic. If you have strong desires for cock, you're not totally straight, whatever you tell yourself.

But I'm pretty much celibate when it comes to gay sex. Since I have no emotional or romantic interest in men, it seems like more trouble than it's worth, for me. Now if the ideal gay sex situation presented itself to me, I doubt I could resist--but I don't seek it out. I'm okay with it just remaining in the realm of fantasy and masturbation.

 

[MoleskineScribbler]

No. I stopped arguing with myself. Found it was fruitless so i just gave in.

 

[mijnenig]

It’s a generational thing kids growing up today do not have the stigma that you did when you were young man. Being a kid of the 1970s the stigma was too much to be either bi or gay.

If we could get a do over I bet we would be gay.

Good points - and to add to the 'guilt feelings' I was raised Catholic and they know how to instill the guilt into you......talk about brainwashing experts!

 

[J1biboi]

It’s a generational thing kids growing up today do not have the stigma that you did when you were young man. Being a kid of the 1970s the stigma was too much to be either bi or gay.

If we could get a do over I bet we would be gay.

I don't know that I would be gay, but I'm sure my life would have been different. I'm sure I would have sucked a lot more cock.

 

[scott6251]

I am mostly attracted to women, but I know I am bi. I am not attracted to just any regular man, but I know I find men sexy. I struggled with it in my 20's, I have no issues with it anymore

Very much the same. I am comfortable with my desires now

 

[Samsacks]

I've reached the level of acceptance with myself that I can enjoy a sexy guy catching my eye. Just yesterday, I crossed paths with a fella for just a few seconds, but he gave me an instant hardon that I enjoyed the rest of the day.

 

[Mqoi]

I was raised in the Bible Belt and hated my attraction to men for a long time. Didn't stop me from occasionally sucking cock though and in the past few years I've come to accept it as part of who I am.

 

[bi_sg]

It took me a long time to accept my bisexuality. For a long time it also bothered me to have sex with men, self-acceptance can be hard. But if you enjoy sex with both men and women there's no question that you're bi.

 

[ssremember129]

I am mostly attracted to women, but I know I am bi. I am not attracted to just any regular man, but I know I find men sexy. I struggled with it in my 20's, I have no issues with it anymore

Well said, it was a long time ago, back in the 1980's when I started that struggle. Only as I got past 50 did I realize it was who I was.

 

[Travler99921]

Accepting bisexuality

I accepted I was bisexual the first time I sucked a cock. The experience was not that great, but I knew I wanted to do it again. For awhile I thought I might be turning gay, but that was not the case. My wife also accepted my bisexuality. That no doubt made things easier, but that is an other story.

 

[cuckoldbob]

For OP, I find that I don't like the look nor the smell of other men.

The only what you may call experience in this way was with a person that was undergoing gender treatment. A guy that was transforming to a woman. I went to a local fetish meet, see, and she ran it. The cabbie that got me there said "I saw her, she met you at the door didn't she?" He didn't know it was someone transforming.

She didn't have the look nor smell of a man. I smell of sword oil and army boots! She smelled all woman. The docs were pumping her so full of female hormones it intoxicated me.

Since it was a small town, some guys recognised her. They shouted, "It's a bloke mate!" They gave us abuse. So I walked over, backhanded his pint into his face in front of all his mates, and said" Well you're a scruffy old alcoholic, tell me why you're better?"

The cops weren't called. Nothing happened. I looked back and they were staring. "Who are you staring at? Shall I come back?" They looked away.

She was really the nicest person I've met in fetishistic circles. Taught me a lot.

 

[callyh]

You are what you are. Don't put a label on in.

 

[OpenMouth]

For OP, I find that I don't like the look nor the smell of other men.

The only what you may call experience in this way was with a person that was undergoing gender treatment. A guy that was transforming to a woman. I went to a local fetish meet, see, and she ran it. The cabbie that got me there said "I saw her, she met you at the door didn't she?" He didn't know it was someone transforming.

She didn't have the look nor smell of a man. I smell of sword oil and army boots! She smelled all woman. The docs were pumping her so full of female hormones it intoxicated me.

Since it was a small town, some guys recognised her. They shouted, "It's a bloke mate!" They gave us abuse. So I walked over, backhanded his pint into his face in front of all his mates, and said" Well you're a scruffy old alcoholic, tell me why you're better?"

The cops weren't called. Nothing happened. I looked back and they were staring. "Who are you staring at? Shall I come back?" They looked away.

She was really the nicest person I've met in fetishistic circles. Taught me a lot.

Love that story! Good on you.

 

[cuckoldbob]

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[Nekidinaz]

Me too....

Pretty much the same with me, although I've never actually been with a guy.

I have no problem thinking of myself as bi---I mean, it's just logic. If you have strong desires for cock, you're not totally straight, whatever you tell yourself.

But I'm pretty much celibate when it comes to gay sex. Since I have no emotional or romantic interest in men, it seems like more trouble than it's worth, for me. Now if the ideal gay sex situation presented itself to me, I doubt I could resist--but I don't seek it out. I'm okay with it just .

Nicely said

I am very much the same way...would love too but haven't for a variety of reasons. Like you, I have no interest in men other than to have some m2m sexual fun. I don't "actively" seek it either but hey, if it were the right time, place and guy, I'd be all in...lol

As for it "...remaining in the realm of fantasy and masturbation...", I'm good with that too as it makes for some wonderful solo play time for me...

 

[tristantrotsky]

Love Is A Many-Gendered Thing

I am 76 years old and still love sex! I had a few bisex adventures, especially in Thailand, but basically was 'straight' for decades. I had a younger brother who was a TG and I had no problem with it. To each their own was my attitude.

Then, I got old making finding partners difficult to say the least. Then my wife died and, after mourning, I could not find any women who really interested me. But I have always had a very strong sex drive and so I tried m2m sex.

I still remember my surprise at the sensation of my first cock sucking and, in fact, still get the feeling whenever I do suck a cock. It was so hot and smooth - wow!

But , the point of this thread, is that I still have not truly accepted my bisexuality. I still prefer women but need to have sex but when I do have sex with a man - it bothers me afterward. I have not truly accepted being bi.

I would really like to hear from others as to how they feel and if there are others out there like me?

Hope to hear from some of you!

Just Enjoy...