Need advice on how to be with an older woman

[nikku5]

I am 28 and my friend/partner is 51. I really like her and I think she does too. We made out once and now she will be visiting again today. We didn't exchange the exact words but we both knew when she left last time that the next time we meet it is going to be lot more than kissing and hugging.

I request any lit members who are in my age group and have been with a woman with such age gap, and woman in their late 40s, early 50s who have been with men my age to share their thoughts on how I should proceed and treat my friend so that I don't hurt her in any manner and fulfil her emotionally and physically.

Thank you.

 

[Naughtyboy31]

Buy her flowers. They LOVE that. You'll be golden. And don't try to hard to impress her. Just be your self. The main thing is to have something (s) in common with her. Maybe music, TV shows, hobbies, sports teams etc.

 

[screwher]

My wife is in her late 40s. I've chatted with some younger men on this site giving them some hypothetical advice in getting into her panties. I always advise compliments. Not just the areas where she may already feel is a strength. But others where maybe she might not hear many compliments about. I agree to have an interest in her interests and show some knowledge about them. But ultimately none of this will work if she feels no sexual attraction to you.

But once you're in my best advice - no bullshit, no games. She's a mature experienced woman that won't be treated like some guys can treat some younger girls.

 

[quietlylooking]

Treat her with respect, and make it clear you are interested in her, not just sex, and especially not just sex with an older woman.

Remember that she may be going through menopause; she may have more a little more difficulty lubricating than younger women.

 

[Nezhul]

The easiest advice of all - treat her like any other girl, like there's no age gap between you.

It's not like we grow extra limbs as we get old.

 

[nikku5]

Thanks a lot everyone for your kind advice .

 

[deskuser]

From my perspective compliments, politeness and humour go a hell of a long way even if the guy is only average looks wise.

 

[troubledone]

From my perspective compliments, politeness and humour go a hell of a long way even if the guy is only average looks wise.

Appreciated

 

[KimGordon67]

We might not grow extra limbs, but we do gain extra experience.

Don't be a dick. I put up with a lot of dickish behaviour when I was young that I wouldn't now. So don't lie, and don't take her for granted.

 

[gtnlynn]

My wife was almost 40 when she had a fling with a young man fresh out of college. She was impressed by his kindness, respect, and how happy he was to be having sex with her.

 

[blackmohammed]

From my personal experience you need to treat her like she is very special to you, bring flowers even if you are just going straight to the bed and complement her and what she is wearing and how good it looks on her even if she's just in sweats.

When you actually get to it eat that pussy right away for two reasons, one she might need a little help getting warmed up and two older women absolutely know what they want and what feels good. Easing her out will allow you to get used to following just what she says to do and not trying to come up with your own skills, I'm not telling you to not show her your moves just when she says to stay there you need to freeze like cops just barged into the room. Make sure she knows you are doing this because you want to, because you like how she looks, feels, and makes you feel. Older women that choose younger men want to feel attractive and physically needed even if you don't say it show it by gripping her ass or stroking her legs, remember not to go overboard and stay steady and focused because you are going for distance not for power.

After you have her good and ready for some dick don't treat her like she is older then you and don't act like she is your age either just treat her like she is the only women in the world at that moment. Older women have had hard poundings and long soft fuck sessions so they know all the ins and outs, your not going to impress her with anything new and if your get selfish because it feels good you might never get another shot. So keep the rhythm stay slow and steady until she tells you what she needs you to do to get her closer, she is still a women so she might want it slow the whole time and she might want you to shake the head board what ever she is after don't try to show off and just do what makes her feel good.

Good luck my friend be confident in yourself, she already wants you so you have nothing extra to show off just enjoy your time and she will enjoy being with you.

 

[Naughtyboy31]

Another thing is if your out on a date. Grab her hand when your walking or reach behind her and put your hand on her back just above her pant line. Whisper in her ear something nice or sexy. Either about how good she looks, how good of a time your having or drop a flirty hint about later. You definitely want to make sure they feel secure with you when your out and earn her trust.

Yes you should do that for all women but the mature ones are extra "special"