Threesome VS Swinging

[Everglow2017]

I’ve been doing everything I can to sexually please my husband. I want to experiment in the bedroom. If he wants it I’m willing.

So the other day we were discussing what our boundaries are, and it got to me having sex with another woman and him watching and possibly joining. I’m ok with it. Even wanting to do it. We even discussed me and this imaginary girl taking turns sucking him off, etc. got really erotic.

Well today I asked “what if my new imaginary girlfriend had a husband, can he come watch too?” I’ve been very threesome and swinging curious. He said no. He says he does want to look at another dude’s cock.

Soooo I can fuck another woman and he can join in and fuck the both of us, as long as it is only two women. He watches m/f porn. I don’t get it.

Don’t get me wrong I want to do the threesome, but I don’t if it’s because he wants to be with another woman. I want it to be us as a couple finding ourselves sexually.

 

[paulw128]

I’ve been doing everything I can to sexually please my husband. I want to experiment in the bedroom. If he wants it I’m willing.

So the other day we were discussing what our boundaries are, and it got to me having sex with another woman and him watching and possibly joining. I’m ok with it. Even wanting to do it. We even discussed me and this imaginary girl taking turns sucking him off, etc. got really erotic.

Well today I asked “what if my new imaginary girlfriend had a husband, can he come watch too?” I’ve been very threesome and swinging curious. He said no. He says he does want to look at another dude’s cock.

Soooo I can fuck another woman and he can join in and fuck the both of us, as long as it is only two women. He watches m/f porn. I don’t get it.

Don’t get me wrong I want to do the threesome, but I don’t if it’s because he wants to be with another woman. I want it to be us as a couple finding ourselves sexually.

It's only fair that you get to experience being with 2 men! He can't have it both ways. My humble opinion anyway....

 

[saintcero]

Some guys have a lot of gay phobia attached to their psyche. Just being in a sexual situation with another naked guy might be too much for him to process. He likely knows that it is unfair but doesn't know how else to handle it. Give it time. Communicate. He may change or he might not. Years later he may realize that he missed a great opportunity and kick himself for his fears.

 

[Everglow2017]

Not that I want m/f/m, I was thinking another couple.

 

[Everglow2017]

stupid question probably... but he watch man on woman porn. Lots of cock there! so why is it different?

I told him he didn’t have to touch. I asked if he would be jealous if I touched the other man. He said he wouldn’t but he doesn’t want to see another cock.

 

[13Fantasies]

stupid question probably... but he watch man on woman porn. Lots of cock there! so why is it different?

I told him he didn’t have to touch. I asked if he would be jealous if I touched the other man. He said he wouldn’t but he doesn’t want to see another cock.

So tell him if you swapped, he could focus on her while you get plowed. Never has to look at him.

 

[PleasePeesMe]

Your husband

stupid question probably... but he watch man on woman porn. Lots of cock there! so why is it different?

I told him he didn’t have to touch. I asked if he would be jealous if I touched the other man. He said he wouldn’t but he doesn’t want to see another cock.

sounds selfish and repressed. Neither is good.

 

[Isevil1976]

There is definitely a difference between swinging and a threesome, however I know I’d have a hard time telling my wife she can’t have another cock if I get another woman.

Hell, im sure she’d pretty much tell me to fuck off and either she gets what she wants too or I get nothing.

 

[bibethhotwet]

I don't want to prejudge your husband but sounds to me like he either "wants to have his cake and eat it to" as they say or has an insecurity problem about you getting it from another man. This is a recipe for for marital disaster. My husband and I have been in swinging for years and we have seen both the good aspects as well as the bad. Marriages strengthened and destroyed. Its one thing to watch it on screen, quite another when it is happening for real right before your very eyes. So proceed with this with caution. If your marriage means anything to you first and foremost that has to be given priority. Not to alarm you but if he is pushing on having a a second woman involved but is possessive in other areas there may be some underlying issues that need to be addressed. Swinging works for us. We love it but it is not for everyone.

 

[snakebyte]

I’ve been doing everything I can to sexually please my husband. I want to experiment in the bedroom. If he wants it I’m willing.

So the other day we were discussing what our boundaries are, and it got to me having sex with another woman and him watching and possibly joining. I’m ok with it. Even wanting to do it. We even discussed me and this imaginary girl taking turns sucking him off, etc. got really erotic.

Well today I asked “what if my new imaginary girlfriend had a husband, can he come watch too?” I’ve been very threesome and swinging curious. He said no. He says he does want to look at another dude’s cock.

Soooo I can fuck another woman and he can join in and fuck the both of us, as long as it is only two women. He watches m/f porn. I don’t get it.

Don’t get me wrong I want to do the threesome, but I don’t if it’s because he wants to be with another woman. I want it to be us as a couple finding ourselves sexually.

My wife and I had 3somes and 4somes with other couples. I love watching other guys pound her while she eats pussy.. I would never ask her to let me fuck other women without letting her fuck other men.... it wouldn't be fair

 

[genxer36]

I’ve been doing everything I can to sexually please my husband. I want to experiment in the bedroom. If he wants it I’m willing.

So the other day we were discussing what our boundaries are, and it got to me having sex with another woman and him watching and possibly joining. I’m ok with it. Even wanting to do it. We even discussed me and this imaginary girl taking turns sucking him off, etc. got really erotic.

Well today I asked “what if my new imaginary girlfriend had a husband, can he come watch too?” I’ve been very threesome and swinging curious. He said no. He says he does want to look at another dude’s cock.

Soooo I can fuck another woman and he can join in and fuck the both of us, as long as it is only two women. He watches m/f porn. I don’t get it.

Don’t get me wrong I want to do the threesome, but I don’t if it’s because he wants to be with another woman. I want it to be us as a couple finding ourselves sexually.

My male point of view.
I bet it is more than not wanting to see another cock. Especially you say he watches porn. It may be he is worried the other guy has a bigger cock or you will think he is a better lover. Or he is the jealous type and can't handle a guy touching you. You could set some rules for first time play with the couple. Try just having sex with each other in the same room. Watch them have sex and then they watch you. If he gets comfortable with the other guy, he may be more willing to swap or play together. Maybe the other guy has a smaller cock and it gives him a confidence boost.

 

[genxer36]

stupid question probably... but he watch man on woman porn. Lots of cock there! so why is it different?

I told him he didn’t have to touch. I asked if he would be jealous if I touched the other man. He said he wouldn’t but he doesn’t want to see another cock.

The fix for that is full swap in different rooms. Then he doesn't have to look at his cock.

 

[screwher]

The fix for that is full swap in different rooms. Then he doesn't have to look at his cock.

I'll agree with this. But I also feel this is a case of the guy wanting to have sex with other women. But doesn't want to share his wife with another man. This is age old.

 

[ADIDAS00]

Maybe he wants it but he's a little shy to admit it. There are a lot of social stigmas with guys about this topic. I had some reservations about opening up with my wife at first. But slowly I let it more and more k own that it turned me on as well. We've gotten to the point now where we even suck our dildos together while we have sex. We name them and have all sorts of kinky role play. It's super hot!!! Just keep hinting around to the mfm thing subtly. He may come around with some help from you

 

[blackmohammed]

stupid question probably... but he watch man on woman porn. Lots of cock there! so why is it different?

I told him he didn’t have to touch. I asked if he would be jealous if I touched the other man. He said he wouldn’t but he doesn’t want to see another cock.

The difference is fantasy VS reality, when watching porn he can pretend that it's his cock on the video or just block it out because it's only a video if the cock was sitting in the same room as him it would be harder to just block out because there is another person attached to it breathing and watching.

Having the other women in the room is different because he is in more control of himself and the other women is more of a fun toy to be used and enjoyed but the sexual connection is firmly between you and him because the other women and you are making the decisions and he doesn't have to worry about being ignored or neglected.

I have had this happen in my own relationships and having a threesome is fun but the more people you add the more you have to make rules and things get complicated.