How far do you go before you're considered gay?

[Hitchiker69]

How far can a man before he's considered gay?

Question is, how far do you go before you're gay? Is it being naked in bed with another guy? Topping him? Sucking him? Taking his cock up your ass?

For the first few times of my man on man sexual experiences I was always a top. I always received blowjobs, and fucked guys who wanted that. I still considered myself a straight man, who took blowjobs from guys as an easy alternative.

I never even touched another guy's cock until about my 6th or 8th time in bed with a man. Then I quickly progressed from touching, to stroking, eventually sucking. Once I took a cock up my ass I knew I was fully Bi, but because I still fucked women I didn't consider myself gay. Even now, since I've slept with a lot more women than men, I don't consider myself gay.

What do you think about yourself or other guys in general? How far do you go before your'e gay?

 

[haurni]

I think you're bi. So do you, apparently. But who the fuck cares? It's nobody's business but your own. On the other hand, if you're somehow worried that liking cock makes you less 'manly', that's a problem you have to unravel for yourself.

 

[minn]

I think you're bi. So do you, apparently. But who the fuck cares? It's nobody's business but your own. On the other hand, if you're somehow worried that liking cock makes you less 'manly', that's a problem you have to unravel for yourself.

I agree that you're bi. While 99% of my sexual partners throughout my life have been women, the 1 time I was with a man it was unbelievable and I am aching for #2 but, I have to admit, I am too damn afraid to put myself out there. I guess it's like winning the lottery. You can't win if you don't buy a ticket! P.S. I consider myself bi.

 

[Mqoi]

I'm not much on labels, but most would call me bi. It's been years since I was last with another man, but old desires have rekindled.

How far do you go before you're gay? Heck if I know and depending on who you ask, you'll get different answers. I don't worry about it. If someone wants to say that I'm gay, ok. Whatever. As far as I'm concerned, I'm just me and I don't like to rip out half the menu when it comes to sex partners.

 

[saintcero]

How far before being considered gay???

The answer is all the way. If you desire only same sex relations and practice only same sex relations, then, as a male, you are gay. Otherwise, some variation of bi applies.

 

[SissySalina]

Does anybody consider "LOVE" anymore or is all about SEX?
If a man loves a man it is gay as far as the world is concerned, but it is Love as far as the man is concerned.

 

[Shavedallover]

I think you're bi. So do you, apparently. But who the fuck cares? It's nobody's business but your own. On the other hand, if you're somehow worried that liking cock makes you less 'manly', that's a problem you have to unravel for yourself.

You're bi, like me. I love cock and pussy and not necessarily in that order.

 

[Hitchiker69]

I'm not asking your opinion about me. Let me simplify the question: Do you consider it 'gay' to accept blowjobs from guys, or to top them?

 

[Hitchiker69]

I'm not asking your opinion about me. Let me simplify the question: Do you consider it 'gay' to accept blowjobs from guys, or to top them? Or is that just a horny straight guy looking for relief where ever he can find it?

 

[Shavedallover]

Just a horny guy wanting relief. My opinion

 

[Hitchiker69]

The question wasn't meant to ask your opinion of me. I asking if you consider it, in general, gay to to be naked in bed with a man, or to accept a blowjob, or to top him...where's the line?

 

[Mqoi]

Does there have to be a line?

 

[Mqoi]

I've been thinking on it some more. And the more I think on it, the more confused I am on the subject. But I suspect that I'm not alone in this either.

But in general, I'd say that sexual relations with another man either giving or receiving is homosexual. But, if we find men sexually desirable (I do), it's not something bad as some would have you believe.

As for being naked with another man, I don't equate nudity with sex. But if you want to have sex with anyone, being naked does help. I've been naked in bed with other men before and sex wasn't on the table. Just wanted to sleep and had to share a bed. Although admittedly the first guy I ever had sex with, it started out with us sharing a bed and escalated from there.

 

[SexyLitForAll]

As for being naked with another man, I don't equate nudity with sex. But if you want to have sex with anyone, being naked does help. I've been naked in bed with other men before and sex wasn't on the table. Just wanted to sleep and had to share a bed. Although admittedly the first guy I ever had sex with, it started out with us sharing a bed and escalated from there.

This was how I realized my interest in men...shared a bed, got naked, got curious...

 

[gailwright]

You make an interesting point about love, SissySalina!
My dearest fantasy has been to have a man fall in love with me and regard me as his partner/girl (however I'm dressed), but that has never happened--nor is it likely to.
So, if I go on to find love again with a lady, I guess that will make me a "closeted Transgender"?
However, I certainly agree "Haurni" and others that such labels really don't amount to anything.

 

[Dreamer110]

This was how I realized my interest in men...shared a bed, got naked, got curious...

Pretty much my experience too.

 

[scott6251]

This was how I realized my interest in men...shared a bed, got naked, got curious...

. . .and found that it felt very good

 

[SexyLitForAll]

. . .and found that it felt very good

Indeed...it felt very very good, and not at all "wrong".

 

[scott6251]

Indeed...it felt very very good, and not at all "wrong".

Quite natural, not wrong

 

[coati]

Question is, how far do you go before you're gay? Is it being naked in bed with another guy? Topping him? Sucking him? Taking his cock up your ass?

What do you think about yourself or other guys in general? How far do you go before your'e gay?

Your question and your topic is focused on a term (gay) that has been stigmatized in most human societies, especially among males.

The term actually applies to sexual orientation. If you are a male having sex with men and women, you are bi-sexual, meaning you have sex with both men and women. Gay men are exclusively attracted to other men, and they have no or extremely little interest in sex with women.

Most men are brought up to stigmatize gay men. They criticize other males with locker room taunts like, "Why are you acting so gay?" Things are getting better, but most men continue to think that the word gay applies to specific acts rather than sexual orientation.

Your question presumes that there is a threshold or a line in specific sexual activities, beyond which a man is "considered gay". This tends to reinforce homophobic mythology among men, a mythology that leads many men to think they will cross over into the world they have stigmatized their whole lives if they exhibit any affection or sexuality with another male. If men had not been raised in a society that denigrates gay men, they would not be so hung up on the word gay. They would also not be so inhibited and hung up in general.

 

[Controlu69]

It doesn't matter, men are sexy and a all that matters is what you think

 

[biblaze]

It doesn't matter, men are sexy and a all that matters is what you think

I'm bi and love it. Embrace it.

 

[scott6251]

It doesn't matter, men are sexy and a all that matters is what you think

And if you find men sexy, accept it.

 

[Mqoi]

I'm bi and love it. Embrace it.

Same here. I can't imagine being only attracted to one gender. It seems so limiting...

I don't go around telling everyone that I'm bi. But if asked by someone I trust, I wouldn't deny it either.

 

[J1biboi]

I agree that you're bi. While 99% of my sexual partners throughout my life have been women, the 1 time I was with a man it was unbelievable and I am aching for #2 but, I have to admit, I am too damn afraid to put myself out there. I guess it's like winning the lottery. You can't win if you don't buy a ticket! P.S. I consider myself bi.

Ditto!