faithhful or not

[oldbuttnew]

faithful or not

I love my wife but we can longer have sex after her operation. I needed sex but felt it would be unfaithful to find another woman so I decided to try sex with men. I discovered that I enjoyed it with the right person. We have moved to a new country and I want to find new sex friends. Because my desire is for men I don't feel I am being unfaithful. What do you think?

 

[sterculius]

Although my wife would probably disagree, I feel the same. I love sucking cock and it thrills me to know that I'm a "cocksucker". While my wife is fully capable of having sex with me, not having a cock renders her incapable of satisfying this irresistible compulsion I feel for performing oral sex upon other men, so I look for partners online and meet with them to suck their cocks. I love my wife but I don't see this as 'cheating'. I do feel guilty for the deception and dishonesty required to keep this activity secret from her, but not for the sex acts themselves.

 

[Mqoi]

My feelings on sex outside the marriage is that if I'm having to hide it from her, it's probably cheating.

My wife quit having sex for health reasons, but has said she'd understand if I looked elsewhere, but she doesn't want to know. But she's also said that she doesn't want me sucking on cocks. Drat.

 

[blowit]

My feelings on sex outside the marriage is that if I'm having to hide it from her, it's probably cheating.

My wife quit having sex for health reasons, but has said she'd understand if I looked elsewhere, but she doesn't want to know. But she's also said that she doesn't want me sucking on cocks. Drat.

Guess you will be cheating then lol.

 

[Mqoi]

Guess you will be cheating then lol.

Very very discreetly.

 

[luv23way]

Unfaithful

Yes, unfaithful! Not judging, but having sex outside of your marriage defines unfaithful!

 

[blowit]

Very very discreetly.

Similar here if the chance comes along. Wife knows I want a 'boyfriend' for cock sucking fun but falls short of offering consent.

 

[bulsara773]

What does your wife think? I'd hope she'd want you to be happy - so long as your bond remains unchanged, what's it matter if you have a fun new hobby?

 

[blowit]

What does your wife think? I'd hope she'd want you to be happy - so long as your bond remains unchanged, what's it matter if you have a fun new hobby?

Well she certainly isn't grossed out or anything like that. Sometimes I get the impression she likes the idea and she indulges me in 'pillow talk' occasionally. But, as I said, she falls short of granting consent for me to suck cock. Not sure why as when asked she becomes all coy as to her reasons. But whatever they are I won't push her. I love her enough to accept that she has a reason and leave it there. However the urge is becoming such that if I can meet Mr Right I will become a secret cock sucker. I don't like to hide it from her but ....................... well there you have it.

 

[PleasePeesMe]

Tricky one

For reasons I can't explain, never mind rationalise, I think sucking a guy would be less unfaithful than fucking a woman. Which is nuts, I know. But I guess I feel there's no chance of my leaving her for a man. So......

 

[blowit]

For reasons I can't explain, never mind rationalise, I think sucking a guy would be less unfaithful than fucking a woman. Which is nuts, I know. But I guess I feel there's no chance of my leaving her for a man. So......

Strange I know but I feel the same.

 

[sterculius]

From an abstract perspective, I don't place such significance on sexual exclusivity. As a cocksucker, I form no emotional bonds with any of the men I blow and they pose no threat to the feelings I have for my wife. I don't feel threatened nor do I begrudge my wife the considerable time she spends shopping and gossiping with her friends. These activities don't compromise our relationship. I could just as well be fishing or bowling or playing cards with these guys. I'm reminded of the admonition that when one marries, insist on one night a week out with 'the boys', but don't waste it on the boys.

 

[Mqoi]

For reasons I can't explain, never mind rationalise, I think sucking a guy would be less unfaithful than fucking a woman. Which is nuts, I know. But I guess I feel there's no chance of my leaving her for a man. So......

Same here. While I have had some "romantic" feelings for other guys, they were both men who I had already formed long term friendships with and one of those wasn't interest in sex with another man. Most men just don't interest me other than sex, so my wife has no reason to worry there.

 

[blowit]

From an abstract perspective, I don't place such significance on sexual exclusivity. As a cocksucker, I form no emotional bonds with any of the men I blow and they pose no threat to the feelings I have for my wife. I don't feel threatened nor do I begrudge my wife the considerable time she spends shopping and gossiping with her friends. These activities don't compromise our relationship. I could just as well be fishing or bowling or playing cards with these guys. I'm reminded of the admonition that when one marries, insist on one night a week out with 'the boys', but don't waste it on the boys.

Same here. While I have had some "romantic" feelings for other guys, they were both men who I had already formed long term friendships with and one of those wasn't interest in sex with another man. Most men just don't interest me other than sex, so my wife has no reason to worry there.

I can relate to both of these posts. Now, where is the man to whom I become a cock sucker?

 

[xperthands]

My wife and I still have sex fairly regularly (2-3 times a week after 30+ years of marriage), so I am not looking for sexual release. But, since my wife can't shoot jizz in my mouth, and I don't want a romantic relationship with a man, I also don't feel it's cheating to suck cock. My cock is not part of the deal with guys, so that limits the number of men who want to play (it's funny how few men want an NSA blowjob, but it's my 2nd biggest problem. My biggest is that although I love to suck cock, I don't know how to approach a man about it. Every time I have sucked someone, it has been because some guy asked if I wanted to suck him off. Every time I tried to ask someone, all I ever got was verbal or physical abuse.

Going to websites to meet up just doesn't seem to work, the guys are only interested in perfect specimens or sucking me. It is very frustrating. I would love to find a guy in a sexless marriage that just wants me to stop by on a fairly regular basis to feed me a load of his cum.

 

[SissySalina]

I love my wife but we can longer have sex after her operation. I needed sex but felt it would be unfaithful to find another woman so I decided to try sex with men. I discovered that I enjoyed it with the right person. We have moved to a new country and I want to find new sex friends. Because my desire is for men I don't feel I am being unfaithful. What do you think?

What is faithful?
You want to say there is a difference between women and men when you are talking about being faithful, so what is faithful?
Does it only apply to the opposite sex when it comes to sex? Why?
Sex is sex, no matter what sex you have sex with it is still sex.
If you can have sex with the same sex and still call it faithful then what you are supposedly being faithful about is not sex, so why not have it with the opposite sex?

 

[Larkfield61]

My wife and I still have sex fairly regularly (2-3 times a week after 30+ years of marriage), so I am not looking for sexual release. But, since my wife can't shoot jizz in my mouth, and I don't want a romantic relationship with a man, I also don't feel it's cheating to suck cock. My cock is not part of the deal with guys, so that limits the number of men who want to play (it's funny how few men want an NSA blowjob, but it's my 2nd biggest problem. My biggest is that although I love to suck cock, I don't know how to approach a man about it. Every time I have sucked someone, it has been because some guy asked if I wanted to suck him off. Every time I tried to ask someone, all I ever got was verbal or physical abuse.

Going to websites to meet up just doesn't seem to work, the guys are only interested in perfect specimens or sucking me. It is very frustrating. I would love to find a guy in a sexless marriage that just wants me to stop by on a fairly regular basis to feed me a load of his cum.

I like women as much as anyone but l also love sucking cocks. I work as a trucker, meeting other truckers, you would expect them to be super macho but it's surprising how many of them are quite happy to let me suck them off, for many l suppose it's a case of "a mouth is a mouth" regardless of sex.
I have to take anal as well and although l'm okay with that it's sucking cocks and having that hot spunk fired down my throats that really turns me on.

 

[newhere2learn]

From an abstract perspective, I don't place such significance on sexual exclusivity. As a cocksucker, I form no emotional bonds with any of the men I blow and they pose no threat to the feelings I have for my wife. I don't feel threatened nor do I begrudge my wife the considerable time she spends shopping and gossiping with her friends. These activities don't compromise our relationship. I could just as well be fishing or bowling or playing cards with these guys. I'm reminded of the admonition that when one marries, insist on one night a week out with 'the boys', but don't waste it on the boys.

Surmised perfectly. Mine spends 30+ hours a week with her mother, doing dumb shit.


I could go to the pub, I could indulge 1 weekend day a week in football or rugby.

I don't.

Given the opportunity, I'd much rather assign free time to sexual release, with no emotions attached.

 

[xperthands]

I like women as much as anyone but l also love sucking cocks. I work as a trucker, meeting other truckers, you would expect them to be super macho but it's surprising how many of them are quite happy to let me suck them off, for many l suppose it's a case of "a mouth is a mouth" regardless of sex.
I have to take anal as well and although l'm okay with that it's sucking cocks and having that hot spunk fired down my throats that really turns me on.

Although I have never received anal, that would not be a deal breaker for me. The big question is how do I let a guy know I would be interested in getting him off without getting beat up? Any guidance?

 

[LIVINRFANTASIES]

Dollie

My feelings on sex outside the marriage is that if I'm having to hide it from her, it's probably cheating.

My wife quit having sex for health reasons, but has said she'd understand if I looked elsewhere, but she doesn't want to know. But she's also said that she doesn't want me sucking on cocks. Drat.

I'm the female half. For many years I actually helped my husband find and have sex with mostly my old school girlfriends and later strangers we'd meet. My first reason was his penis was too big and he wanted it every free minute night and day.
After I was 29 I had female surgeries and it no longer hurt when he rammed hard and deep. Still we kept the girlfriends and meeting more older female sex partners. I suppose then it was because it was our habit and I did enjoy watching other women get fucked by my husband.
I've let men do everything except actually fuck me since my late teens. I was raped young and the thought of a stranger in me made me panic.
Not many years ago my husband got on porn sites and has always begged me to let other men have sex. I actually have to come out and say fuck because they've don everything but that for many years.
So I tried a few good friends then more. I loved it and still do. There was nothing to be afraid of because they were friends and understood.

Now it's all changed. Hubby had prostate cancer and went through treatments. He still can't keep an erection and it's been several years since he's had a woman or me.
So now it's me having sex and him watching. It can't be cheating or unfaithful. He started because he did what i asked. Now I do what he's begged for years.
I'd say we've both been faithful and we're still in love.

I nearly forgot. I've even asked my husband to feel other penis or suck one. He is never going to have sex with a man and I've done very little with women.

 

[GloriHoleLover2]

I don't think I'm unfaithful!

As I'm NOT getting into relationships with either women or men, using DON'T think that I'm being unfaithful wife.

Wifey no longer wants ANY sex (she's ten years older than I), I still need sexual release, so...I find horny men at adult bookstores and theaters to give pleasure and release to, which is MY own pleasure, and that's all the fulfillment I need!

 

[MattIsRight]

Do your wife a favor and leave her. I cheated with anyone and anything. My wife found all of my photos and erotic reviews, all of my diary entries justifying my cheating. She killed herself. I deeply regret my choices and the pain I caused my wife. She was wounded to begin with and I bullied her to death. Frankly. When I see other men doing the same it sickens me. I hate myself for what I did. My children hate me. My ex-mistress hates me ...

 

[MattIsRight]

What is faithful?
You want to say there is a difference between women and men when you are talking about being faithful, so what is faithful?
Does it only apply to the opposite sex when it comes to sex? Why?
Sex is sex, no matter what sex you have sex with it is still sex.
If you can have sex with the same sex and still call it faithful then what you are supposedly being faithful about is not sex, so why not have it with the opposite sex?

Yeah I justified my behavior as well. Tell the truth or don't play

 

[CandiCame]

I mean... this is pretty easy.

If she knows, if you've talked about it and decided to go for it, then that's an open relationship.

If it's a secret, it's cheating.

It's not about the emotional connection with the other person, it's about the fact that you're actively lying to someone that you claim to love. I'd never be able to do that shit for a bunch of reasons- the least of which is that I'm too fucking stupid, and the most of which is that the guilt would fucking destroy me. It has nothing to do with the other person and everything to do with fucking up the relationship.

 

[oneblueye]

hey

I love my wife but we can longer have sex after her operation. I needed sex but felt it would be unfaithful to find another woman so I decided to try sex with men. I discovered that I enjoyed it with the right person. We have moved to a new country and I want to find new sex friends. Because my desire is for men I don't feel I am being unfaithful. What do you think?

rationalize it any way you need to--, to soothe your conscious.
Uhhh you any where near Detroit?