The Purpose For Sex

I was wondering what others thought about the purpose for sex. Why do you do it? Some for the physical pleasure, some to demonstrate their love, some for money, others to have kids. For you, what is the main purpose? I'm curious how others think. For me, it's the scratching of an itch deep inside me, a mental itch I'd say. The pleasure helps, but it's the satisfaction of lust, both mine, and the men I'm with. Mostly the men I'm with. I love to be the center of a man's, or men's, desire. It fulfills me deeply in a way nothing else does.

At this point, definitely for the physical pleasure. No question ;)
 
So, like the modern "no women" movement, you'd be fine with porn and masturbation? :)

Nooooooooo...... Maybe I misunderstood what you were saying. I have no desire to join that movement lol. They are all i think about :D
 
I know. I was teasing. But clearly the pleasure for you is tied to being with a woman. :)

Absolutely. And all the things that go with it. Whether its the emotional, psychological or physical lead up to the event. The anticipation, nervousness, excitement. Yes..... I enjoy it all ;)
 
For me it begins with the desire to have sex that is part of my libido.
But also the desire to express emotion. And to feel that emotion returned.
The intimacy created.
Then there's just the fun and excitement and pleasure of sex. The shared goal of making each other feel fantastic.
 
For me, sexual desire is a basic need unto itself. I need to have sex with a woman I desire every day. Physical pleasure, psychological satisfaction, and emotional closeness with that woman are all part of it, but sex is a basic need for me. Since I can't have sex with my partner every day, I masturbate to address the physical and psychological aspects.
 
For me it begins with the desire to have sex that is part of my libido.
But also the desire to express emotion. And to feel that emotion returned.
The intimacy created.
Then there's just the fun and excitement and pleasure of sex. The shared goal of making each other feel fantastic.

This exactly! Therein lies the problem. That mutual connection isn't as common as one would like.
 
When my wife and I were younger our sex life produced our daughter and we used it as physical expression of our love. Now we're older. Our daughter is grown and spread her wings. So now sex for us is all lust and pleasure.
 
At first it was because I was horny as hell. Once we got that our of our system, it became a way to show love and share a wonderful experience with my wife. For a while, it was definitely to have children. ("Lock the door and fuck me now! I'm ovulating, my temperature is right, the moon is full, my horoscope says it's time....) Now, it is back to showing love and sharing a pleasurable experience with my wife.
 
Dollie

At first it was something new and everyone did it, we were told.
After that our plan was to get me pregnant so we could get married. That worked.
We have three kids we love.
After that I did it because my husband wanted it.
Later because my husband still wanted it and wanted to watch other men do it to me.
Now because we met so many lonely men doing without. I feel like a nurse or an angel doing life's work.
Because my husband loves to watch and we found out from Lit it's normal.

And I still love it.
Because it's fun.
Because it's exciting
Because it's wrong.
Because people tell us we are too old.
 
I knew early on that I wanted - I mean really really wanted! - to get my cock into some gal's pussy and often! So, for me this is primarily about the fulfilling of a DRIVE which continues unstoppable.

Early on, and for a clutch of reasons relating to my upbringing and life-choices, I really wanted this with one woman who would love me and me her. So, for me, the whole married sexual bliss dream comes in as a close second to the sexual desire thing. So, I waited to find a woman who was huge fun, easy going, and ... SENSUAL.

I found one. The rest, as they say, is history.
 
I was wondering what others thought about the purpose for sex. Why do you do it? Some for the physical pleasure, some to demonstrate their love, some for money, others to have kids. For you, what is the main purpose? I'm curious how others think. For me, it's the scratching of an itch deep inside me, a mental itch I'd say. The pleasure helps, but it's the satisfaction of lust, both mine, and the men I'm with. Mostly the men I'm with. I love to be the center of a man's, or men's, desire. It fulfills me deeply in a way nothing else does.

You get itchy right? Then you scratch right? You get horny right? Well if you have someone that you would fuck would you fuck them or would you masturbate?
 
Oh yes, for me, being horny is the spur of my sexual activity, as for everyone else. What I was trying to figure out was what causes different people to be horny; what are the triggers that create that "itchy" feeling inside them. I've spent a lot of time examining my own feelings and thoughts to try and sift out what really drives me to be horny. I think I know for me. I was just wondering what other people thought.

I never masturbate when I can get laid. Ever. That's just fundamental. ;)

I know woman that got horny doing the following:
Eating olives
Having their nips played with and had orgasms from it
Having pain inflicted on them
Choking
Anal
BJ's
Finding me naked and hard
Finding me hard
Watching me fuck and kiss another woman
Looking at other woman
Watching cowboys riding bulls
Reading erotic stories
Animal porn
Being bonded
Being tortured
Being called a naughty mommy
Acting like their father
Face fucking them

And that is just what I can remember.
 
Yes. Again though, why? Why does a certain thing trigger that feeling? Several things on your list turn me on. But the question is why. Anyway, I don't think it's easily answered. I just wanted people's opinions for themselves. It sounds to me like you see it as a purely chemical event that is triggered by random things. Maybe I misunderstand you. That may even be right.

Chemical, past life experiences (I find a lot of woman raped at a young age are complete sluts in their adult years), wired a certain way, body chemistry. Hell I gave a stripper an orgasm just by kissing/licking a specific spot on her shoulder and she was working and giving me a lap-dance.

There is a show about this very topic. Might interest you; Showtime I think or mabye HBO. Forget the name.
 
Thanks. I'll check that out.

As to experience, that's what I chalk my own arousal up to. My first sexual experience was rough and brutal and no design for emotional attachment. That's what I've been attracted to ever since.

When I was a kid (years before puberty) stockings and miniskirts always got me horny but I was way too young to understand the feeling. Puberty was a bitch; wish the fleshlight existed then.
 
For me I generally fulfill my physical itch alone and I have sex with my boyfriend to give him satisfaction and get initimate but he hasn't had much experience before me so we are working on it. With the help of some maca root
 
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