I have hit menapause and would like to discuss something. Before reaching this esteem level, i heard all kinds of rumors and stories about how our sex drive just ends, we dry up like a piece of old bread, and a list of other symptoms which are not appropriate on a sex site but better suited for a medical site, lol. I will comment that no period every month is just freaking wonderful!!! 
So anyways, my sexual desire has diminished. Just like i have read from many other men who have described their wives. Well it is true that my desire for sex has dropped, my desire for intimacy has not. Nor has my love for my husband. While he does almost all the initiating now, (in the past it was me, ), it is his turn now and there is nothing wrong with that. I do sometimes initiate but it is mostly him. But once he has turned on his charm and got me all worked up, i am full of lust and desire. I want to satisfy my husband, please him, tease him, make him orgasm and become one in sexual intimacy. I dont understand how a wife does not want to still cuddle, love, and please the man she married? I read some of these posts from husbands who have sex once or twice a year and just wonder?? Now, being a smart woman, and we are smarter then men , there is always 2 sides to a story and i am not hearing the women's viewpoint. My husband has slowed down as well and we are not chasing each other around the house naked every hour like the good old days, i remember them well . So we are in sync again as always; and even when i have no desire whosoever, i still want to sexually please my husband by either jerking him off or blowing him. I just do not understand how a wife does not want to sexually satisfy her husband. I hate to put it this way but dont you love him anymore? Your body says, "i really dont want or need anything right now" but your mind and your heart says, "he needs something". Maybe that is another phase of menapause that i havent reached yet? The final phase when my heart stops? I am 51 so when this phase comes, maybe i will be in my 80's? Is that the age of all these men on here who's wives have neglected them, are you all in your 80's?
I am being slightly sarcastic, i do not believe such a state will he reached. I dont understand what is happening in some of your marriages. Like i said, there is always 2 sides. Do you make her feel special? Do you tell her how beautiful she is every day? Do you tell her how much you love her? Or do you sit on your fat ass as she cooks, cleans, washes, vacuums, etc, etc and then as she is exhausted, do you come over and want her to bend over? Here is a hint for men from a wife, if you make her feel like she is your gift and the most important thing in your life, you will be surprised at what will happen. And dont do that when you just want sex! My husband tells me every day how beautiful i am. On my worst day when i have been crying and have raccoon eyes, hair a mess, and body bloated from my period, he will look at me with his blue eyes and tell me and show me how much in love with me he is.
You want you wife to feel like a woman, show her how much you love her. Perhaps for some of you, this might take a while because it hasnt happened for decades? Keep working on it though and you will see what happens. Cant you vacuum? Cant you wash the pots and pans? If you treat her like a work horse, no wonder why when she comes to bed she is exhausted.
This is just my 2 cents and your marriage is none of my business like my marriage is none of your business. I am just trying to give you some female advice. Take it or leave it but do NOT get nasty. I am trying to help you all who complain about not getting sex from your wives.
So anyways, my sexual desire has diminished. Just like i have read from many other men who have described their wives. Well it is true that my desire for sex has dropped, my desire for intimacy has not. Nor has my love for my husband. While he does almost all the initiating now, (in the past it was me,
), it is his turn now and there is nothing wrong with that. I do sometimes initiate but it is mostly him. But once he has turned on his charm and got me all worked up, i am full of lust and desire. I want to satisfy my husband, please him, tease him, make him orgasm and become one in sexual intimacy. I dont understand how a wife does not want to still cuddle, love, and please the man she married? I read some of these posts from husbands who have sex once or twice a year and just wonder?? Now, being a smart woman, and we are smarter then men , there is always 2 sides to a story and i am not hearing the women's viewpoint. My husband has slowed down as well and we are not chasing each other around the house naked every hour like the good old days, i remember them well . So we are in sync again as always; and even when i have no desire whosoever, i still want to sexually please my husband by either jerking him off or blowing him. I just do not understand how a wife does not want to sexually satisfy her husband. I hate to put it this way but dont you love him anymore? Your body says, "i really dont want or need anything right now" but your mind and your heart says, "he needs something". Maybe that is another phase of menapause that i havent reached yet? The final phase when my heart stops? I am 51 so when this phase comes, maybe i will be in my 80's? Is that the age of all these men on here who's wives have neglected them, are you all in your 80's?I am being slightly sarcastic, i do not believe such a state will he reached. I dont understand what is happening in some of your marriages. Like i said, there is always 2 sides. Do you make her feel special? Do you tell her how beautiful she is every day? Do you tell her how much you love her? Or do you sit on your fat ass as she cooks, cleans, washes, vacuums, etc, etc and then as she is exhausted, do you come over and want her to bend over? Here is a hint for men from a wife, if you make her feel like she is your gift and the most important thing in your life, you will be surprised at what will happen. And dont do that when you just want sex! My husband tells me every day how beautiful i am. On my worst day when i have been crying and have raccoon eyes, hair a mess, and body bloated from my period, he will look at me with his blue eyes and tell me and show me how much in love with me he is.
You want you wife to feel like a woman, show her how much you love her. Perhaps for some of you, this might take a while because it hasnt happened for decades? Keep working on it though and you will see what happens. Cant you vacuum? Cant you wash the pots and pans? If you treat her like a work horse, no wonder why when she comes to bed she is exhausted.
This is just my 2 cents and your marriage is none of my business like my marriage is none of your business. I am just trying to give you some female advice. Take it or leave it but do NOT get nasty. I am trying to help you all who complain about not getting sex from your wives.
