Patience

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I'm really not that patient. I am better than I ever have been but really... it's not a strong suit of mine. I'm better at it since I've gone through my periodontal adventures, but teeth work on a different clock really. Pretty much forced me to sit back, do the day to day and bide my time. Kind of infuriating sometimes.

I want it and I want it now. And I've managed to rationalize that perspective a lot. But I'm learning that I can't handle it all at once. I need to take things in steps; smaller bites so to speak. Especially the big stuff.

But this even effects the little stuff. Traffic, grocery store lines, even walking behind lollygaggers. Sometimes it's maddening. I've noticed that silly ass smart phone helps. Especially in lines.


Good things come to those who wait.

Patience is a virtue.

Adopt the pace of nature. Her secret is patience.

Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet.


I think I particularly like the last one.


How patient are you? Do you have any tricks to help you be more patient or at least more graceful in the face of waiting?
 
There's a corollary to Murphy's Law:

The slowest car will ALWAYS be in front!
 
I'm really not that patient. I am better than I ever have been but really... it's not a strong suit of mine. I'm better at it since I've gone through my periodontal adventures, but teeth work on a different clock really. Pretty much forced me to sit back, do the day to day and bide my time. Kind of infuriating sometimes.

I want it and I want it now. And I've managed to rationalize that perspective a lot. But I'm learning that I can't handle it all at once. I need to take things in steps; smaller bites so to speak. Especially the big stuff.

But this even effects the little stuff. Traffic, grocery store lines, even walking behind lollygaggers. Sometimes it's maddening. I've noticed that silly ass smart phone helps. Especially in lines.











I think I particularly like the last one.


How patient are you? Do you have any tricks to help you be more patient or at least more graceful in the face of waiting?

TL; DR
 
There's a corollary to Murphy's Law:

The slowest car will ALWAYS be in front!

Ha! That's a good one. Both how things seem and there isn't much of a line without a slow car in front.

Sort of like, "It's always in the last place you look."

That's how looking for things feels but also...it's not as if you're going to keep looking after you find it.
 
:p
 
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A little philosophy on the subject of patience:

You can lead a horse to water,
But you can't make it drink.
However, you can STILL drown the obstinate son of a bitch!
 
About the only time I am patient is when fishing. But will bring a book or toy to keep me occupied.
 
I'm really not that patient. I am better than I ever have been but really... it's not a strong suit of mine. I'm better at it since I've gone through my periodontal adventures, but teeth work on a different clock really. Pretty much forced me to sit back, do the day to day and bide my time. Kind of infuriating sometimes.

I want it and I want it now. And I've managed to rationalize that perspective a lot. But I'm learning that I can't handle it all at once. I need to take things in steps; smaller bites so to speak. Especially the big stuff.

But this even effects the little stuff. Traffic, grocery store lines, even walking behind lollygaggers. Sometimes it's maddening. I've noticed that silly ass smart phone helps. Especially in lines.









I think I particularly like the last one.


How patient are you? Do you have any tricks to help you be more patient or at least more graceful in the face of waiting?


I am sometimes very impatient. I try to remind myself that I can only be in one place at a time and at the moment circumstances dictate that I be where I am. Trying to be someplace else or wanting someone to move more quickly is like a salmon swimming up stream. I also try to relax my stomach muscles and breath diaphragmatically.
 
I'm not really a patient person, especially if it's something I hate to do, such as going to the doctor. But I find if I'm in the middle of something that I hate to do, I always tell myself "It will be over soon, it won't last forever" and it does give me a little comfort.
 
How patient are you? Do you have any tricks to help you be more patient or at least more graceful in the face of waiting?

Patience has generally been my strong suit, but when things grind onward at the speed of tar at room temperature, I remind myself of different things like if I rush something, I'll forget something crucial; I might injure myself; if there's humor in it, find it--rather than gripe; if I rush planning something, I'll surely leave something necessary behind; if I don't think a response out somewhat, I could say something not-so-tactful--especially when I'm dealing with someone *really* "sensitive.
 
Patience is the reward for patience.

Ironically enough that is true. Learning patience is a great reward.

I don't think patience is a flat measure for all things you need it for.

I have become more patient with some things as I have got older, less with others. I'm kind of ok with that.

See, the thing is I want to be more patient because it's better for me. I know, entirely selfish. Screw all these other people, it's about me! :D Hahaha... yeah. But it is for me. I was and am tired of being upset about stuff that isn't really worth it. Stuff that I feel silly getting upset about once the moment has passed.


A little philosophy on the subject of patience:

You can lead a horse to water,
But you can't make it drink.
However, you can STILL drown the obstinate son of a bitch!

Be kind to animals. :p
 
Patience has generally been my strong suit, but when things grind onward at the speed of tar at room temperature, I remind myself of different things like if I rush something, I'll forget something crucial; I might injure myself; if there's humor in it, find it--rather than gripe; if I rush planning something, I'll surely leave something necessary behind; if I don't think a response out somewhat, I could say something not-so-tactful--especially when I'm dealing with someone *really* "sensitive.

Whilst it does seem free of commentary apt to give offense, I feel you coukd have have invested a bit more time crafting this post.

Did you rush your response?
 
I am sometimes very impatient. I try to remind myself that I can only be in one place at a time and at the moment circumstances dictate that I be where I am. Trying to be someplace else or wanting someone to move more quickly is like a salmon swimming up stream. I also try to relax my stomach muscles and breath diaphragmatically.

I know exactly what you mean. My mind is going a million miles per hour and I have things I want to do, places I want to be and things I want accomplished. And when I can't find time for it all... I get irritated. But back to my original post, where I am coming to discover I really can't take all of that at once. It's just too much. So I am having to learn to prioritize and find what works best for me.

I'm not really a patient person, especially if it's something I hate to do, such as going to the doctor. But I find if I'm in the middle of something that I hate to do, I always tell myself "It will be over soon, it won't last forever" and it does give me a little comfort.

That's actually a good trick and I try to do something similar. In time this too shall pass type thing.

Patience has generally been my strong suit, but when things grind onward at the speed of tar at room temperature, I remind myself of different things like if I rush something, I'll forget something crucial; I might injure myself; if there's humor in it, find it--rather than gripe; if I rush planning something, I'll surely leave something necessary behind; if I don't think a response out somewhat, I could say something not-so-tactful--especially when I'm dealing with someone *really* "sensitive.

Yes. I get in a hurry and agitated and then I screw it up. If I had just set aside my irritation and done it calmly it would have happened exactly as I wanted. I am getting better at that. That's in the self control department really.

The other thing I am finding myself getting better at is dealing with customer service rep type people on the phone at work. I used to get so upset sometimes. But it's just not worth it. By the time I get off the phone now, I've got someone bending over backwards to make it work for me - just by being nice. Patience is rewarded. At least in that scenario. :D
 
I have a lot of patience. It takes so much to get me to lose mine. When I do though, it's not good. I used to be quite the bitch. I think I have mellowed a lot. I just take things as they come and adapt. Change is good, at least, that is what I keep telling myself.
 
I have a lot of patience. It takes so much to get me to lose mine. When I do though, it's not good. I used to be quite the bitch. I think I have mellowed a lot. I just take things as they come and adapt. Change is good, at least, that is what I keep telling myself.

Was there an event or something that necessitated the change from bitchy to patient? Or was it just time?
 
There are some days that my impatience sneaks up on me and clobbers me over the head when I least expect it. But, on the whole, I would say that I'm generally patient. I get better with time and the realization that right now doesn't mean not ever, and not everything has to bend to my idea of "timely".
 
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