Need advice

[JTS4jo]

Need advice In Maryland

Evening litsters,

I am a 48 yo mwm in an open relationship, looking for advice from others in the same situation. My problem is while our relationship is open my wife has asked I don't use OKC, match, etc as she does not want her PTA or soccer mom friends to discover our status. So with those avenues closed any suggestions on how I could find a "date"?
Not into the bar scene and actually very introverted offline. I would appreciate any suggestions

Thanks

 

[Soma99]

I think it might be fun if she helped.

 

[ThunderbirdCumsalot]

I think it might be fun if she helped.

That's not bad advice. Also maybe search for people in lit from your area.

 

[JamesRTickit]

Finding dates

Craigslist - if you can sift through crap.
Fetlif is you have a little kink

 

[RacyWilde]

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Try swinger clubs in an area not close to you (you'd be amazed at how many of your friends you could bump into...lol) But it is easier if you go with your wife (single guys have a stigma of being 'desperate')- it can be a couple activity to enjoy together.

Reddit is good but you have to find the right groups. You need to realise that the majority of women are looking for 'the one' and so don't want to spend time on a guy they can never come home to. There are only a few of us that like to get kinky with strangers.

Go to your local Alternative markets/conferences etc they usually have After Parties or socials.

 

[JTS4jo]

thanks for your advice, unfortunately she hasn't wanted to play together, and doesn't trust that she'd find women I like (i.e. why would I pimp you out to someone better looking, funnier, more intelligent, than me?)
I've tried SLS, AFF, CL, and CL is nothing but bots. The first two have changed a lot in the past 10 years since I've been married. Previously even as a single guy I had no trouble finding someone to chat with, build some rapport and then meet. Now even on a swinger site, women are looking for the "one" and couples aren't interested unless you're packing 9 inches or more.

I thought I might be able to find some local people here, but doesn't seem to be much interest.

 

[JTS4jo]

Shamelessly bumping my post in hopes I find a unicorn in MD