How does a transwoman in northeast New England find new friends or a date?

[timreh]

Can anyone help a poor girl out?

I live in northeast New England, where pretty much everywhere is rural. Which means not many people in the dating pool. Toss in being trans, and finding a date with someone who is NOT a creep or a chaser is tough. At this point I'm not even expecting to find a romantic relationship, but someone to do normal clothes-on stuff like kayaking / hiking / motorcycling / cruising art museums / playing cribbage would be a terrific find.

Does anyone have either A) Good suggestions of how to meet real life people who date or do fun stuff on the weekend, or ... B) Know anyone in the northeast New England region who isn't a creep and would be fun to hang out with?

Thanks.

 

[ElliottEden]

Can anyone help a poor girl out?

I live in northeast New England, where pretty much everywhere is rural. Which means not many people in the dating pool. Toss in being trans, and finding a date with someone who is NOT a creep or a chaser is tough. At this point I'm not even expecting to find a romantic relationship, but someone to do normal clothes-on stuff like kayaking / hiking / motorcycling / cruising art museums / playing cribbage would be a terrific find.

Does anyone have either A) Good suggestions of how to meet real life people who date or do fun stuff on the weekend, or ... B) Know anyone in the northeast New England region who isn't a creep and would be fun to hang out with?

Thanks.

You can't get there from here. Or at least that's what I kept hearing during my time in that region...

 

[timreh]

You can't get there from here. Or at least that's what I kept hearing during my time in that region...

Sadly, you may be right. I've had a number of people tell me I need to move to either a larger city, or to the West Coast to have any real chance at dating.

 

[ElliottEden]

Sadly, you may be right. I've had a number of people tell me I need to move to either a larger city, or to the West Coast to have any real chance at dating.

I'm a little surprised you aren't getting any luck from the Boston area. Not a massively huge population but you'd think. Guess not.

 

[timreh]

I'm a little surprised you aren't getting any luck from the Boston area. Not a massively huge population but you'd think. Guess not.

If I lived closer to Boston I might have better luck, but Boston is at least 4 hours away for me. Not a good option to meet someone. That distance might possibly be doable once I was dating someone, but I'm not down that way very often.

 

[timreh]

::crickets::

 

[Shadoleopard]

I'm a few hours north of Boston myself. I have yet to find more than 3 people that live in Vermont. A few seem to be in Mass, Ct, Maine... I like how your name is hermit backwards. All I can suggest is keep looking.

 

[timreh]

I'm a few hours north of Boston myself. I have yet to find more than 3 people that live in Vermont. A few seem to be in Mass, Ct, Maine... I like how your name is hermit backwards. All I can suggest is keep looking.

There are more than three people in Vermont. Or there were the day I was there.

<giggle>

 

[Shadoleopard]

Hehe. Nice smartassery. There may be a few more. They like to hide in the woods. None around Lit, though. Nice skirt in the pic. Can't tell exactly what the flowers are, though. Sorry you haven't found many people to talk and interact with.

 

[bicuriouscd]

I'm not sure where in the North East you're from if you're 4 hours from Boston but in the Northampton MA area there are plenty of accepting and open minded people to meet for friendship.
Maybe more information about yourself in your profile might help attracting people ?

 

[Shadoleopard]

I'm not sure where in the North East you're from if you're 4 hours from Boston but in the Northampton MA area there are plenty of accepting and open minded people to meet for friendship.
Maybe more information about yourself in your profile might help attracting people ?

That too. If we're talking new england, 4 hours from Boston, I'd guess somewhere in CT or NH, since she was only Vt for a day

 

[DarlaTV]

Providence

Honey there are a couple of clubs in Providence and one or two in New London

 

[timreh]

Honey there are a couple of clubs in Providence and one or two in New London

Ahhh ... depending on traffic that's a four hour ride to get there.

Just in case I wasn't clear enough, I'm not looking for a bar where CD / TV folks hang out, I'm a transgender woman looking for a relationship, with someone who lives near where I live.

Thanks for the reply though.

 

[timreh]

I'm not sure where in the North East you're from if you're 4 hours from Boston but in the Northampton MA area there are plenty of accepting and open minded people to meet for friendship.
Maybe more information about yourself in your profile might help attracting people ?

I am much closer to Canada than I am to Boston.

 

[bicuriouscd]

It would probably be a lot easier to just say where you live , if you are living as a woman what are you hiding from ?
I'm sure there are people in your area who may be interested in a relationship but you need to be honest and open with who you are.

 

[Spanknunow]

Greetings,
I agree you should tell folks at least a city you are at or one close by to help make at least a educated guess as to where you are. I do know a few sites as to where you might be able to fund someone one of them is www.fetlife.com you can search for people or clubs in the area that are looking for the different types of folks. It costs nothing to sign up for. If you would like to find someone to play board and card games and such there are some sights online also that you can arrange someone to meet online and chat with about different things. If you would like to talk more you can send me a note here or if you have kik my name there is Spank just make sure when you send me a message you tell me whom you are since I do not like playing guessing games.

 

[curiousnme]

I'm a few hours north of Boston myself. I have yet to find more than 3 people that live in Vermont. A few seem to be in Mass, Ct, Maine... I like how your name is hermit backwards. All I can suggest is keep looking.

Guess that would put you on the ME/VT border. I am about 2 hours N, more NE, of Boston and am near Portland ME

 

[OldHarry]

I'm so disappointed, I thought your post said North East England, I was going to ask you out for a drink, unfortunately I was off by about 3000 miles... But I wish you luck, I'm sure you'll find someone x

 

[NvrfoundNvrVentrd]

@timreh,
New England has always been very TG.. many of the older groups evolved from NE. You can find lots of other girls.. dating... find a a relationship... good luck with that!

 

[oneblueye]

hey...

the only thing I can tell ya is---,

TIME and PERSISTENCE