Massachusetts - Not quite J.O. buds, but......

The_Id

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Hey guys,

Single, white male here in his early 30's from Boston, MA area. I've been very curious for a while about the idea of getting together with a like-minded dude to watch porn. Have chatted with plenty of people on the internet about it, and feel like it's time to actually test things out in-person. There's something a little more stimulating about being next to a live human, instead of just staring at a screen. I know these threads tend to track towards becoming "jerk-off buddies," but I'm only thinking of the initial hang-out. People (including myself) seem to shy away from the idea when they feel obligated to "whip it out" in front of their partner before they get to feel each other out. That first time would just be to see if we're cool with each other, and to see how it feels to view some sexy stuff together. I understand that things tend to escalate in these situations, but I am only expecting to enjoy some material and chat about related interests on this hang-out. If we decide to do it again, then great, and we can figure out further details. If it's uncomfortable, we would disband and chalk it up to a failed experiment. Still, I think it would be a rush, and a fun experience to share with someone who's interested.

If you're in the Boston area or nearby, and have considered this kind of thing, then send me something back. Private messages are welcome, as are public posts and Yahoo IMs. I'll be checking all three places, as I know some are more comfortable with certain domains. You should just be a laid-back dude who is open to trying this out, and is excited to share his interests with another cool dude. Nothing fancy, no wacky expectations. Obviously we would chat on the internet first, and figure out if our interests overlap enough to get together in real-time. I completely understand that this is a common fantasy that many never act on....I've been on the "contemplating" side of things for years. However, I believe after the initial ice-breaking stage on here, the right person will agree that it's a worthwhile endeavor.

If it helps to share a broad sense of my interests early on, things that typically get me going best are: mature women, interracial hook-ups, some power play, and anything tight on the right body (lingerie, spandex, form-fitting jeans, etc). I tend to prefer "real" bodies (ie, not a huge fan of fake titties that lack the natural bounce), but I am very open to exploring the interests of others, as long as they are not disgusting.

Alright guys, not my intention to make this a super lengthy post. I know most of us have that short-attention-span syndrome. Let me know your thoughts and/or experiences with this...
 
Hmmm....shy people, or an inappropriate request?

Hey again guys,

I've noticed that a good number of you guys have checked the post, but I'm not seeing any significant responses. Just trying to figure it all out on this end, and any assistance would be greatly appreciated. I know a ton of us guys (straight, gay, bi, however you identify) are interested in the idea of getting together with another dude to share the whole porn experience. I know many would like to do even more than just watch the vids together, but that's how I'm looking to start things out (IF we're able to "iron out" the details on here). I feel like I'm starting with a minimalist approach, as people often shy away from the all-out "let's jerk together the first time we meet," and I'm not even sure I would want to take it that far. So what's up...? Is this still too much of a request? Are people scared they will not enjoy it? Is it too intimidating to meet up with someone from the internet? Are we afraid of what it will say about our sexuality? The majority of the people I have talked to on the internet that claim to have tried this in-person identify themselves as heterosexual. I am in the same boat, but am realizing that guys may be more geared towards testing out something like this than ladies. Ladies have a few more reasons than us to be uber-conservative about their sexuality, especially when transitioning from internet to real-time. The main point I'm trying to make here is that I'm trying to share a fun experience with a like-minded person. Sex with the other person is not on my mind, if that helps to put some minds at ease. If that was the goal, I would be pursuing the opposite sex. This whole idea of watching porn in-person with another guy would be a completely new experience for me (and likely for you?), and that's kind of the point....try something new that sounds like it would be a rush.

So please fill me in, guys. Those who have experience, those who do not.....what's holding us up from making this more of a reality (or at least discussing it on the internet)?

Talk again soon....
 
As I have found in my search there just really isn't many if at all guys that just want to watch porn and each other JO. Seems to be alot to take it much farther but for us trying to take baby stepps into anything involving 2 guys it just ain't happen'n.
I have been looking for a long time now.
The lack of any responce to this thread just tells me it isn't of much interest.:(
 
Interesting Discussion

Thanks for the posts, guys. Due to my (purely scientific) "research," I refuse to believe this is not a very popular idea in the minds of men. However, I do believe there are several obstacles in the path to fulfilling such desires. Hence, my further investigations. I'm very curious to hear from you guys as to why you think people are not "pulling the trigger" with these sorts of meet-ups. Clearly, when you talk to people on chat sites or other areas on the internet, they are more than willing to discuss such things. Many people even admit to seriously considering engaging in such activities. I have even spoken to at least a handful of people who have reportedly followed through with the in-person meet-ups. What I'm sensing thus far is that people are intimidated that the meet-up may escalate into other things, and they do not want to run into their JO/porn-watching buds in their daily activities (for various reasons). My response to these two issues is that I am not looking for any sort of touching or intercourse (merely watching vids and chatting), and people should be posting from all areas (so if you want to find someone that lives 30+ minutes away, you should be able to do so). I acknowledge that there are others who are not patient enough to start slowly like this (and want something more along the lines of full-blown intercourse), but I do not believe this is the majority of people interested in sharing porn. Hence, the recent popularity of the term "jerk-off buddy."

Let me know if you guys have pinpointed any other common concerns. We should be able to help people move towards making this more of a reality...
 
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Midwesterner?

cjcurious, do you mind identifying where in the mid-US you are located? Are we talking Midwest like Ohio? I think a decent number of us would be willing to travel out-of-state (especially those of us living in smaller states in New England). This might even be preferable, as it would keep us from running into our porn buds when travelling around with family, etc. Nothing against porn buds, but I am aware that many of us would like to keep this hobby/interest separate from some of the other relationships/activities in our lives.
 
I still have faith in our fellow humans....

It's definitely not yet catching on like I had hoped, but I have gotten a couple private messages. Will work with that until people come around. I'm always open to suggestions if you guys think a different approach would get more replies. Maybe I write too much, and people end up skipping the post in favor of the one-liners....? I was hoping a slightly detailed approach would help clear up any initial hesitations for some, but am definitely keen to the short attention span of most of us.

Again guys....just looking to chat with those who are interested in discussing the idea of watching porn together in-person. I would like to make it a reality in the not-too-distant future, but am also excited to hear your related thoughts (even if you're not yet ready to try it in-person).

Let's get some ideas flowing.....

(As previously stated, private messages are allowed, as are public posts in here and IMs/e-mails on my Yahoo account...whatever's most comfortable.)
 
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Awesome, guys!

Heeeey.....

Starting to get some responses (both in here and in private). Thanks for speaking up, guys! Remember, though, you've got a better chance of finding like-minded people if you post your general location and what you're looking for here in the thread. If you're more comfortable with private messages, that's cool too, but it's gonna limit the "numbers game," as it is. :p
 
Welcum, newbie!

Thanks for posting, newbie! "Not a lot of experience" is likely more than most of us have in here. Looking to start simple on this end, so someone who is patient or isn't too far ahead of me in this department would likely be more appropriate. Sending you a private message to look into more details.

Thanks for having your general location and age available in profile....helpful to others. Definitely liking where this thread is going....starting to catch momentum.
 
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Never out of the question

cosmic264....if nobody closer to your area responds, it wouldn't be impossible for us to meet somewhere in between down the road. Would likely have to be a weekend or vacation-time, but I have no issues with that.

However, I predict there will be responses from New York. MA and NY are two of the more densely populated states.
 
Ya never know, could happen maybe get a few for a get together at a good in between spot for all.
 
Could be that this is a safe place to explore these things, but the real world is a big bad scary place.

Could be Boston is a bitch to navigate for most of us.
 
Very Helpful post! Thanks!

Appreciate the answer, travelinma. Is this something you're still interested in, or do those reasons push you away from it? I definitely agree that safety is one of the biggest (if not the biggest) concern. That's why I want to start things on here, and then maybe meet up in-person somewhere public before sitting down with some vids in a more private setting.

Do you see any other ways around those two concerns? I know most people feel more comfortable keeping it on the internet with mic/cam, but I also know a lot of us have considered following through with a meet-up if the person is cool/like-minded. Do you feel like it will always be more of a fantasy than a reality for most?

Thanks again for the post!
 
Appreciate the answer, travelinma. Is this something you're still interested in, or do those reasons push you away from it? I definitely agree that safety is one of the biggest (if not the biggest) concern. That's why I want to start things on here, and then maybe meet up in-person somewhere public before sitting down with some vids in a more private setting.

Do you see any other ways around those two concerns? I know most people feel more comfortable keeping it on the internet with mic/cam, but I also know a lot of us have considered following through with a meet-up if the person is cool/like-minded. Do you feel like it will always be more of a fantasy than a reality for most?

Thanks again for the post!

Speaking strictly for myself, I think I really really have to feel the right vibe in order to meet someone. I've done it before, but I find as I get older (possibly wiser?) I am much more wary.
 
Thanks again for the input

This is all very helpful info. Have you had a meet-up go south, or you feel that you were careful enough that it ended up working out? Any regrets from past meet-ups? Would you do it again knowing what you know?

I'm sure we all appreciate these tips from someone who has at least more experience than us in this area.
 
This is all very helpful info. Have you had a meet-up go south, or you feel that you were careful enough that it ended up working out? Any regrets from past meet-ups? Would you do it again knowing what you know?

I'm sure we all appreciate these tips from someone who has at least more experience than us in this area.

I can't say I've ever had one go south, per se. I just think the potential for a dangerous situation is there. For me, the best scenario would be to find a friend or two and stick with them.
 
Sound like wise words to me

Good to know. Thanks for all the insight! Just gets a little stale keeping everything on the internet all the time. But I know once you're out there in real-time, things can feel very different. So many ways to second-guess it, but it's nice to see people in here seriously considering meeting.
 
Good to know. Thanks for all the insight! Just gets a little stale keeping everything on the internet all the time. But I know once you're out there in real-time, things can feel very different. So many ways to second-guess it, but it's nice to see people in here seriously considering meeting.

Be safe above all else.

A year or two ago a guy in Arlington posted an ad on CL, picked a guy up at the T stop, brought the stranger to his house, allowed himself to be tied up. The stranger left him tied up and robbed him, even stole his car. I'd hate to be in the news for something like that.
 
Valid points again

Ya, I think those types of stories are the ones that ring the loudest for most of us. I'm sure it's very important to take them to heart. But at the same time, chatting on here is somewhat similar to any dating site (just a little kinkier than 90% of them). I figure there's a risk in just about any type of meet-up, so the best you can do is be informed and careful throughout the process. Maybe this conversation will weed out some of the people who aren't serious about it or are still a bit too timid...wouldn't be a terrible thing.
 
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