I need help!to convert my wife into a hot wife.

[maxmagg]

i am married to a wonderful woman who loves me a lot,she is very pretty and has a great figure.she is from south Asia with a Islamic back ground.

even though sex with her is great ,i frequently fantasizes my wife with a another man.I love to see my wife enjoying another man.Yes i am a Cuck.

I do not know how to convey this to her,she is been very conservative ,dress very modestly.
i am the only man who has seen her fully naked.

this may sounds like fantasy stuff but i can assure you this is real.I do not know who to turn to,that is why i joined this forum so i can chat to people with similar mind

recently we went for a holiday in Maldives ,we had our own water villa,there was no one around us still she did not want to wear the sexy bikini i bought for her.
she did stick to her modest swim suit.

In the evening on our way to dinner we met a nice white couple who are fellow Londoners,James and Megan,while we were chatting i noticed my wife was eyeing the James( i must say he is handsome).

After dinner on our way back i asked her about James, she said that he is handsome and do fancy him but only in her mind.Even though it sounds like a breakthrough,she will not indulge on it.

i know she likes white men and some Black men but i do not know how to get her to open up.

i really do not know what to do,

can you please help me to convert my Conservative wife to a hot wife!

i am sure there are lot of members here with similar experience,please help me.

 

[suckonsimon]

Maxmagg,

This ain't gonna happen. You know that. You need to deal with that before this unfounded desire of yours wrecks the beautiful thing you have with her. She has found her one and only and he is you. She appreciates handsomeness in general but no way, no way in heaven or earth, does that mean she wants some other handsome man to fuck her. Period.

 

[screwher]

Yes I must agree with Simon. The key here that your wife has got to want to. If she doesn't want to, she won't. You know her best but I'd venture a guess that no amount of encouragement from you would talk her into it. Eventually she'll also see what you're doing as pestering her then she's going to resent you for it. Then there's the "Does he want to sex with other women? It that why he wants me to do it?" Which will inevitably enter her head.

 

[Slowspread]

Yo!

Definitely listen to these two guys and don't fuck it up.

 

[maxmagg]

hey guys,may be i did not give you all the information,
on the night we met me James and Meghan ,we were having sex,out of the blue i told her imagine this is James cock,while she sucking my cock,

she stopped and looked at me with a smile then she rolled her tongue on top of my mouth started sucking passionately .
I could not hold andt came in her mouth,she eagerly swallowed the lot.

after licking my cock she said this "James does taste Sweet" and smiled,this is when i realize she can be a hot wife.
its just i need some advice how to break the ice and make her come out of her religious shackles.

if you guys need more info just pm me,you can ask anything.You guys are my last option.

one good news is we have been in touch withJames's ,nowthey have invited us for dinner,may be this might help.

 

[live4thebj]

If you don't like someone for who they are then move on. PERIOD!

 

[Bottomlover]

hey guys,may be i did not give you all the information,
on the night we met me James and Meghan ,we were having sex,out of the blue i told her imagine this is James cock,while she sucking my cock,

she stopped and looked at me with a smile then she rolled her tongue on top of my mouth started sucking passionately .
I could not hold andt came in her mouth,she eagerly swallowed the lot.

after licking my cock she said this "James does taste Sweet" and smiled,this is when i realize she can be a hot wife.
its just i need some advice how to break the ice and make her come out of her religious shackles.

if you guys need more info just pm me,you can ask anything.You guys are my last option.

one good news is we have been in touch withJames's ,nowthey have invited us for dinner,may be this might help.

Fantasy does not equate with reality. If you can fantasize together, you have a hot wife. I say enjoy what you have and don't push it. You can very easily screw up your relationship.

 

[SilverBass]

Fantasy does not equate with reality. If you can fantasize together, you have a hot wife. I say enjoy what you have and don't push it. You can very easily screw up your relationship.

Exactly! A fantasy is harmless and you should know this. I fantasize about things beyond my comfort zones in reality all the time. While some of these things may get me off, they are not things I have an interest in pursuing in real life. By everything I have read here, this scenario is a NO GO situation. Keep this as a fantasy and count your blessings that you don't have worse problems than just not being able to play out a fantasy that many would be offended by with just suggesting. Holy crap, if I had suggested this to my wife she would be mortified and would question my love for her. However it is sometimes a fantasy of mine as well, though that is where it will stay. As a fantasy.

 

[maxmagg]

hey guys and girls,
first of all i like to thank all of you for your honest advice,

after reading it i thought let it be a fantasy for me forever.

late at night we started having sex it was really good half way through i was deep inside her suddenly she said something while high on pleasure,that shocked me.

she moaned and said "more please give me more James",she never called my name during sex.Never ever ,but ever since we went on holiday she is changed a bit.

Tonight we are going to dinner at James and Meghan's place so early morning she left for shopping in west end to buy a dress for tonight's dinner
she told me she is not going to wear the hijab either.

i am waiting to see what dress she bought, she also called in sickie to go on shopping

this is not the Rinu i knew,may be she wants James.That 'll be divine
i think she is by the fence or on the fence,all she need is the little more push.

if anyone wants to know more details just pm me.

 

[Justfantasies]

Yes I must agree with Simon. The key here that your wife has got to want to. If she doesn't want to, she won't. You know her best but I'd venture a guess that no amount of encouragement from you would talk her into it. Eventually she'll also see what you're doing as pestering her then she's going to resent you for it. Then there's the "Does he want to sex with other women? It that why he wants me to do it?" Which will inevitably enter her head.

As the husband of a "hot wife" I agree with all the guys -- she has to want to. I suspect a clue to what she really wants can be found in how many guys she did before you came along. If she was slutty then, she may be in the future too.

 

[plesmore]

Gosh - every girl needs a pimp

 

[CuntryGyrl84]

Maxmagg, take the advice of everyone here and really think about your desires. First is this something you really want to see or is this something that turns you on? The lines between fantasy and reality can become blurred when excited. I would recommend masturbating or having sex with your wife and then asking yourself if you'd really like to see this occur when you are starting to calm down.

The second and most important thing that people have pointed out is that your wife does not seem to share the same desire. Maybe you and her could sit down and have a serious conversation about sexual desires and fantasies but be prepared that she might not have any beyond enjoying sex with her husband and keeping that sex life between you two. Not everyone in the world is a public sex seeking with as many partners as possible type of person.

 

[curvycutie39]

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[mysticdreamer]

I am an older guy, and in all my years, many in the lifestyle, I have known one -- and only one --
woman who "converted" from conservative schoolmarm into slutty hottie. She also grew up in a very conservative, even religious environment, but it's probably easier to get beyond Protestant Indiana than it is to get beyond Islam.

The important point is that this woman -- a special friend of mine -- always had many sexual fantasies and had always struggled with herself to remain within a conservative vanilla lifestyle. She sought out a conventional marriage. Didn't work. She finally realized she was living an inauthentic lifestyle, not being true to herself, so she used the freedom of divorce -- and a geographical location very far from her religious family -- to begin "acting out." And she loved it, because this is "the real her." She's pretty slutty now, well known at several clubs because she favors extremely revealing attire and is easy to pick up.

It sounds very much as if your wife is one who is simply "hard-wire for monogamy." There are many such folks out there in this big world. You can beg a person to do something which is contrary to their nature, and if they love you they might do it, but I agree with those who say that it is likely to be devastating for her if it goes against her own inner nature.

But that doesn't mean you can't have your fantasies.

 

[curiouschattycouple]

We have plenty of fun with the fantasies. And it took a long time for both of us to come to that point - we were/are rather shy, naive, and cautious. Work on the sex life you have now. Sex toys make it easy to have some fun with your ideas and for her to understand your turnons. Although she might never be interested in hotwife-ing, she obviously loves you and may indulge you by simulating some of your fantasies from time to time. Talk - find out what her fantasies are, and act on those as well - this will take time - sex can be awkward to talk about, so find the moments and the ways for both of you to open up. Like any part of a relationship, it is give and take.

There is a ton of really good advice from other members here - do take it.

 

[ReadyOne]

Forgive me for running counter to to crowd, but there may be something you can do that will help her decide to change herself.

It isn't arguing, pressure, seduction, enticement, or any manipulation.

Encourage her to explore the basic assumptions that help create her attitudes. They are often hidden in upbringing, culture, religion, or societal ideals. Many people never examine them, and never understand how and why they choose to conform to them.

And you can't do this in any sort of sexual context. It's strictly out of the bedroom. It's in the space where people talk about themselves and find out how each other tick, like when they stay up all night talking and suddenly realize it's the dawn.

For example, take wearing the hijab. Get her to explain what it is, what it means, why it's worn. What does it do for men? What does it do for women? Get her to explore her personal feelings about it, and examine her personal reasons for it.

Then ask her how much of her choice is what she wants, and how much is custom or expectations of others. And if she wants something different, why not choose differently?

What's the best that could happen? What's the worst? What would probably really happen?

Support her decision, what ever way it is. Offer your help if she implements her desire which goes against the grain. For example, offer to defend a decision to not wear the hijab when you are out with friends or family.

If she really gets to thinking about the settings on her auto-pilot, she may realize some are not truly her settings, and she will change them.

And some of the changes might open her up to being "hot wife".

(And remember small infrequent steps. Modest success is infinitely better than spectacular failure.)

 

[peter49parker]

i am married to a wonderful woman who loves me a lot,she is very pretty and has a great figure.she is from south Asia with a Islamic back ground.

even though sex with her is great ,i frequently fantasizes my wife with a another man.I love to see my wife enjoying another man.Yes i am a Cuck.

I do not know how to convey this to her,she is been very conservative ,dress very modestly.
i am the only man who has seen her fully naked.

this may sounds like fantasy stuff but i can assure you this is real.I do not know who to turn to,that is why i joined this forum so i can chat to people with similar mind

recently we went for a holiday in Maldives ,we had our own water villa,there was no one around us still she did not want to wear the sexy bikini i bought for her.
she did stick to her modest swim suit.

In the evening on our way to dinner we met a nice white couple who are fellow Londoners,James and Megan,while we were chatting i noticed my wife was eyeing the James( i must say he is handsome).

After dinner on our way back i asked her about James, she said that he is handsome and do fancy him but only in her mind.Even though it sounds like a breakthrough,she will not indulge on it.

i know she likes white men and some Black men but i do not know how to get her to open up.

i really do not know what to do,

can you please help me to convert my Conservative wife to a hot wife!

i am sure there are lot of members here with similar experience,please help me.

Having your ultra conservative wife admit that James is handsome and that she fancies him is a breakthrough of sorts for her, and ultimately you. There is no formula for turning a wife into a 'hotwife'. If there was, I would have used it myself.

It appears that we both have sexy and loving women in our lives, who we want to keep in our lives. Having sex with other men should be just about sex. Nothing more. As men, I think we can have the disconnect between sex and love. I believe that is more difficult for women. Not impossible, just difficult.

I think patience is the key. Continue to be the loving, caring husband and assure her that she is the love of your life, while "gently" trying to persuade her that it is okay for her to more than 'fancy' James, or other men.

I had an honest and open talk with my loving wife about taking another lover and her main concerns were twofold. First of all she wondered if I had lost interest in her sexually, and secondly, was this going to be an excuse for me to fuck other women. I assured her that neither of her concerns were valid, yet she still chooses not to indulge me.

If it is meant to be, it will be.

 

[ttlvr]

Maybe start with taking nude photos of her, get her comfortable with the idea that you might share some pics with men like James. Maybe a little positive feedback will open her up to the idea.

 

[angelique127]

In reality and not the fantasy world...be careful what you wish for

 

[yukonnights]

I concur with the several who suggest a patient communication about this. In addition, it's probably a good idea to gently discuss human sexuality in all of it's many varieties...with the intent to encourage a more open acceptance of others. Strict religious views obviously get in the way sometimes, thus I think it is important to bring these issues out into the open for discussion (the web is your friend in finding information...one little link I found here about polygamy in Islam http://islamswomen.com/marriage/monogamy_and_polygamy.php) Perhaps she will accept that if it's okay for men to have more than one wife it would be okay for her ?) But basically, I think she has to truly come to believe that her desires for "James" of any other 'kink' is not evil. The key is to "Do no harm to another person"...that takes thought and strength when it comes to intimate human relationships. Best wishes to you both in finding love and fulfillment!

 

[mmarfox]

Just simply talk to her and tell her your desires and fantasies. You will be amazed at what simple communication can do.

If she likes the idea, she will respond to it. If not, find out what she does like and find mutual ground. As far as her dressing more sexy, express how beautiful she is and how proud you are of her and that you would like if she did that, but only if it is alright with her. Let her decide when and if she wants to do that.

If you treat her with the utmost respect, there is absolutely nothing wrong with expressing your desires, and you will not "screw it up" as others have suggested if you appoach the matter as a couple exploring life and sexuality together

 

[Somehowyou]

hey guys and girls,
first of all i like to thank all of you for your honest advice,

after reading it i thought let it be a fantasy for me forever.

late at night we started having sex it was really good half way through i was deep inside her suddenly she said something while high on pleasure,that shocked me.

she moaned and said "more please give me more James",she never called my name during sex.Never ever ,but ever since we went on holiday she is changed a bit.

Tonight we are going to dinner at James and Meghan's place so early morning she left for shopping in west end to buy a dress for tonight's dinner
she told me she is not going to wear the hijab either.

i am waiting to see what dress she bought, she also called in sickie to go on shopping

this is not the Rinu i knew,may be she wants James.That 'll be divine
i think she is by the fence or on the fence,all she need is the little more push.

if anyone wants to know more details just pm me.

Hey Max. This is great. You need to talk about it while having sex. Tell her that it makes you hot and you don't have to explain why. If she asks tell her you don't know. But what you are doing may take you down the right path. It may not and that is OK too. The fantasy may be better than the real thing anyway.