Informal poll for single parents with kids under 18

[SWPAlady74]

A friend requested me to do an informal poll asking the following(she's also posted it in a couple places if you happen to come across it elsewhere) ......

You meet someone online. You start dating. Would you ever have that person move in with you (and your children that live with you either ft or pt) after 2-3 weeks of dating? In that 2-3 weeks, you have NOT seen each other every day.

Wether your answer be no or yes, please state why you answered that way.

This doesn't involve either of us, it's someone she works with that she's concerned about.

 

[chillywilly2]

Thats crazy...she doesn't care about her kids..stupid bitch

 

[Noor]

I would just his name against sex offender lists.
No, I wouldn't move in with anyone that quickly, hell, I wouldn't move in with anyone after twice as long.
It doesn't matter where I met him.

 

[BabblingBrooke]

No, absolutely not. I would have to know someone for years before I'd let him live with me and my kids.

 

[LadyVer]

Hell no, and it doesn't need an explanation.

 

[SWPAlady74]

It's actually a guy that has the kids and had the girl (we use this term because she is a very immature 23) move in with him. I probably should have stated that in the orig post.

Definitely agree that if it was other way around that she should do a background check on him.

 

[yossi]

Whether man or woman, kids or not, it's a stupid move to invite someone into your home after 3 weeks of dating them.

 

[SWPAlady74]

Also going to add in that this is the 9th "boyfriend" this girl has had in the past year.

 

[Conager]

Also going to add in that this is the 9th "boyfriend" this girl has had in the past year.

So, you are saying that she is a friendly girl? Sounds fun!

To the OP. Obviously not.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[sweepthefloor]

No: it's too soon to be introducing the wicked stepmother after a few weeks.

My Father had lots of women in our lives and I am pretty sure it is the causation of my trust issues with women. I have a few trusted best girl friends and I love them, but they are a special breed.

I am the single Mamma of a girl and I wouldn't want anyone to share our space for a long time.

I was dating a man for a while and it was getting serious. I invited him over around the holidays. He came over, we visited my Father, picked up my nephews for a sleep over, and he ended up drinking with my Father a few too many beers. I couldn't let him drive home so I sent him to sleep in my bed.

I would have had him sleep on the couch but my nephews were sleeping in the living room. My daughter was sleeping in her room. I didn't feel comfortable sleeping in my bed with him with the children in the home.

I slept on the floor in the hallway in front of my daughters room which is also in front of the steps to go downstairs into the living room.

In my disturbed mind I was thinking: if he sleep walks, or is a perverted sick man-- he can't get to any of my beloved children if I am sleeping in this spot on the floor.

It's just not worth the stress and anxiety. He wasn't a bad man but I don't trust anyone, not for one night, and not for permanent nights.

Also, my daughter is old enough to understand things, and when she woke up and stumbled over me on the floor in front of her door she was like: Really Ma?

And I was like: Really.

 

[Hard_Rom]

My dad's advice was be friends for a year, date for a year, live together for a year and the a year long engagement before marriage. So it would be two years in before you cohabit.

 

[SWPAlady74]

So, you are saying that she is a friendly girl? Sounds fun!

To the OP. Obviously not.

Well she DOES sleep with everyone of them on the first or second date, but it's because they find out she's a moody irresponsible little brat. She's also been diagnosed with depression that's untreated.

 

[BabblingBrooke]

Well she DOES sleep with everyone of them on the first or second date, but it's because they find out she's a moody irresponsible little brat. She's also been diagnosed with depression that's untreated.

She sleeps with them because they find out she's a moody, irresponsible, little brat?

 

[BabblingBrooke]

Gender doesn't matter. Three weeks is too soon to trust someone with your kids.

 

[SWPAlady74]

She sleeps with them because they find out she's a moody, irresponsible, little brat?

I was trying to type on my phone instead of my tablet lol.... Something in there got deleted! Sorry to confuse!!

There's been that many boyfriends in the past year because they eventually realize how she really is. Lazy, demanding, immature. Some have realized a a couple weeks, others it took a cpl months. She's never gone more than a couple days without having a new bf.

She was late for work today because she slept in..... She didn't start till 1pm!

 

[SWPAlady74]

I wish this forum had "like" buttons like the Smith and Wesson one I'm in!!

 

[yossi]

This seems to be turning into a weird beration against the girl. Whether or not you agree with your friend's coworker's boyfriend's (?? I'm still unclear as to the connections for this poll) decision, it's still his to make. And he'll learn from his mistake, or maybe she'll grow up. Badmouthing her sexual history on a forum serves no purpose. She's young and she may have issues, but she's a human being who, I'm assuming, hasn't caused you personal harm.

 

[BabblingBrooke]

I was trying to type on my phone instead of my tablet lol.... Something in there got deleted! Sorry to confuse!!

There's been that many boyfriends in the past year because they eventually realize how she really is. Lazy, demanding, immature. Some have realized a a couple weeks, others it took a cpl months. She's never gone more than a couple days without having a new bf.

She was late for work today because she slept in..... She didn't start till 1pm!

You really seem to care a whole lot about the actions of a girl who is a coworker to your friend. Odd.

 

[Noor]

Well she DOES sleep with everyone of them on the first or second date, but it's because they find out she's a moody irresponsible little brat. She's also been diagnosed with depression that's untreated.

Sounds like a lot of guys are taking advantage of this vulnerable girl.

 

[chillywilly2]

This seems to be turning into a weird beration against the girl. Whether or not you agree with your friend's coworker's boyfriend's (?? I'm still unclear as to the connections for this poll) decision, it's still his to make. And he'll learn from his mistake, or maybe she'll grow up. Badmouthing her sexual history on a forum serves no purpose. She's young and she may have issues, but she's a human being who, I'm assuming, hasn't caused you personal harm.

OMG...its you...

 

[yossi]

OMG...its you...

Super slut, at your service.

 

[Bookishleigh]

A friend requested me to do an informal poll asking the following(she's also posted it in a couple places if you happen to come across it elsewhere) ......

You meet someone online. You start dating. Would you ever have that person move in with you (and your children that live with you either ft or pt) after 2-3 weeks of dating? In that 2-3 weeks, you have NOT seen each other every day.

Wether your answer be no or yes, please state why you answered that way.

This doesn't involve either of us, it's someone she works with that she's concerned about.

I wouldn't even let my child meet someone after two or three weeks of dating, not even after two or three months. Partners are fleeting - children are forever.

 

[Lancecastor]

Agree with Fermi; women with children under 18 should not date.

 

[Bookishleigh]

Agree with Fermi; women with children under 18 should not date.

That's right - as Hashy has said....just "cyberfvck like rabits."