Can any guy help me out here?

[saffra]

Guys (or girls even) can you help me? Give me some ideas as to whats going on with my husband. No sex for ages, maybe twice last year. Glued to phone/on Facebook constantly. Won't touch me, won't even look at me when I'm naked (and I'm not that revolting, honestly)
Tells me he doesn't want to do it when house is full of kids (grown up) etc. But we've been away by ourselves 3 or 4 times in the past year. Still no sex. We didn't even have sex when we away for our anniversary.
He won't do\say anything which could lead to sex. I feel like a housekeeper. And I've tried, but now I'm tired of trying.
I'm not naive (or maybe I am?) The last time he behaved anything like this, he was trying to have an affair with my best friend. He always perks up around other women, and, reading this, I'm asking myself, yet again, why am I still here? Well, maybe things are going to change this year...watch this space!
Anyway, is it porn? Does it sound like someone else? Because I honestly can't see things straight anymore. He SAYS he loves me and wants me, but is he acting like he does?...
I'm tired of coming second to his phone, which, by the way, goes EVERYWHERE with him, frequent trips to bathroom etc.
All I know is, I'm tired of this. I'm tired of the way it makes me feel.
Any replies appreciated. Thanks for reading.

 

[Adjudicator]

Guys (or girls even) can you help me? Give me some ideas as to whats going on with my husband. No sex for ages, maybe twice last year. Glued to phone/on Facebook constantly. Won't touch me, won't even look at me when I'm naked (and I'm not that revolting, honestly)
Tells me he doesn't want to do it when house is full of kids (grown up) etc. But we've been away by ourselves 3 or 4 times in the past year. Still no sex. We didn't even have sex when we away for our anniversary.
He won't do\say anything which could lead to sex. I feel like a housekeeper. And I've tried, but now I'm tired of trying.
I'm not naive (or maybe I am?) The last time he behaved anything like this, he was trying to have an affair with my best friend. He always perks up around other women, and, reading this, I'm asking myself, yet again, why am I still here? Well, maybe things are going to change this year...watch this space!
Anyway, is it porn? Does it sound like someone else? Because I honestly can't see things straight anymore. He SAYS he loves me and wants me, but is he acting like he does?...
I'm tired of coming second to his phone, which, by the way, goes EVERYWHERE with him, frequent trips to bathroom etc.
All I know is, I'm tired of this. I'm tired of the way it makes me feel.
Any replies appreciated. Thanks for reading.

Sounds like he's having an affair. Your post history at Lit looks like you either are or are interested in cheating, yourself. Show him your posts at Lit, maybe he'll show you his phone.

 

[Porkwarrior]

You're English. Obviously.

Hookers or polo.

 

[Lancecastor]

Miles would have known what to do.

Or Perg.

Maybe try Islandman... he usually has something strange on the side.

 

[saffra]

You're English. Obviously.

Hookers or polo.

Sounds like he's having an affair. Your post history at Lit looks like you either are or are interested in cheating, yourself. Show him your posts at Lit, maybe he'll show you his phone.

Thanks very much for the empathy and understanding. Why do you think I'm on this bloody site? You have no idea of the shit I have put up with. Thank you again and go fuck yourself

 

[Adjudicator]

Thanks very much for the empathy and understanding. Why do you think I'm on this bloody site? You have no idea of the shit I have put up with. Thank you again and go fuck yourself

You're quite welcome!

 

[butters]

listen to your instincts - he couldn't make it much clearer.

why bother cheating? get out of the relationship and get back your self respect, then find what works for you as an individual.

 

[Typo Fu Master]

Empathy is in short supply here on the GB. Even so, not all of us are complete assholes.

Guys (or girls even) can you help me? Give me some ideas as to whats going on with my husband. No sex for ages, maybe twice last year. Glued to phone/on Facebook constantly. Won't touch me, won't even look at me when I'm naked (and I'm not that revolting, honestly)
Tells me he doesn't want to do it when house is full of kids (grown up) etc. But we've been away by ourselves 3 or 4 times in the past year. Still no sex. We didn't even have sex when we away for our anniversary.
He won't do\say anything which could lead to sex. I feel like a housekeeper. And I've tried, but now I'm tired of trying.
I'm not naive (or maybe I am?) The last time he behaved anything like this, he was trying to have an affair with my best friend. He always perks up around other women, and, reading this, I'm asking myself, yet again, why am I still here? Well, maybe things are going to change this year...watch this space!
Anyway, is it porn? Does it sound like someone else? Because I honestly can't see things straight anymore. He SAYS he loves me and wants me, but is he acting like he does?...
I'm tired of coming second to his phone, which, by the way, goes EVERYWHERE with him, frequent trips to bathroom etc.
All I know is, I'm tired of this. I'm tired of the way it makes me feel.
Any replies appreciated. Thanks for reading.

This seems pretty telling.

Have you two discussed the lack of sex issue? How would you describe the type of sex that you have? Who initiates it? Has it always been this way?

 

[hashtag46]

Sorry. Wrong advice.

 

[Pookie]

Whether he is cheating or not with someone else, he has abandoned the relationship. Things other than you take constant priority in his life. You should plan accordingly.

 

[Porkwarrior]

Thanks very much for the empathy and understanding. Why do you think I'm on this bloody site? You have no idea of the shit I have put up with. Thank yohttp://forum.literotica.com/newreply.php?do=newreply&noquote=1&p=84501705u again and go fuck yourself

DEFINITELY English.

Sorry, I'd help you but your ancestors enslaved my mum's ancestor's. So not only do I have anything that can "help" you, I have ZERO desire to visit the 2nd World island you call home.


BTW -- I'm pretty sure you are the one stuck fucking yourself today.

 

[IrezumiKiss]

The last time he behaved anything like this, he was trying to have an affair with my best friend. He always perks up around other women, and, reading this, I'm asking myself, yet again, why am I still here? Well, maybe things are going to change this year...

http://www.quotesvalley.com/images/09/a-year-from-now-you-will-wish-you-had-started-today.jpg

You know what you gotta do, Saff. Gotta cut that anchor that's holding you down.

Do it today and don't look back until you get your life back.

 

[colddiesel]

Get him checked out for Prostate cancer. Age , lack of interest, and frequent trips to the bathroom are indicators.

If he gets the all clear either throw him out or stop housekeeping/cooking.

 

[Greypowerful]

Get some help - legal and otherwise - as others hav said it appears to be time to move ON.

Trust me, many of us have been, or still are, in "dead" relationships, so much of what folks say is from their own Journey.

Good luck!

 

[EternalFantasies]

Guys (or girls even) can you help me? Give me some ideas as to whats going on with my husband. No sex for ages, maybe twice last year. Glued to phone/on Facebook constantly. Won't touch me, won't even look at me when I'm naked (and I'm not that revolting, honestly)
Tells me he doesn't want to do it when house is full of kids (grown up) etc. But we've been away by ourselves 3 or 4 times in the past year. Still no sex. We didn't even have sex when we away for our anniversary.
He won't do\say anything which could lead to sex. I feel like a housekeeper. And I've tried, but now I'm tired of trying.
I'm not naive (or maybe I am?) The last time he behaved anything like this, he was trying to have an affair with my best friend. He always perks up around other women, and, reading this, I'm asking myself, yet again, why am I still here? Well, maybe things are going to change this year...watch this space!
Anyway, is it porn? Does it sound like someone else? Because I honestly can't see things straight anymore. He SAYS he loves me and wants me, but is he acting like he does?...
I'm tired of coming second to his phone, which, by the way, goes EVERYWHERE with him, frequent trips to bathroom etc.
All I know is, I'm tired of this. I'm tired of the way it makes me feel.
Any replies appreciated. Thanks for reading.

How many kids, and how old are they.

 

[Wrong Element]

I'm not naive (or maybe I am?) The last time he behaved anything like this, he was trying to have an affair with my best friend. He always perks up around other women

Did anyone else hear a siren?

 

[MichiganMike]

I feel your pain Saffra. And I do empathize with you. Speaking from the guys point of view, I would be glad to give you my side of the story. But not on the open thread.

 

[Pookie]

Did anyone else hear a siren?

*gigglesnort*

 

[Rightguide]

Guys (or girls even) can you help me? Give me some ideas as to whats going on with my husband. No sex for ages, maybe twice last year. Glued to phone/on Facebook constantly. Won't touch me, won't even look at me when I'm naked (and I'm not that revolting, honestly)
Tells me he doesn't want to do it when house is full of kids (grown up) etc. But we've been away by ourselves 3 or 4 times in the past year. Still no sex. We didn't even have sex when we away for our anniversary.
He won't do\say anything which could lead to sex. I feel like a housekeeper. And I've tried, but now I'm tired of trying.
I'm not naive (or maybe I am?) The last time he behaved anything like this, he was trying to have an affair with my best friend. He always perks up around other women, and, reading this, I'm asking myself, yet again, why am I still here? Well, maybe things are going to change this year...watch this space!
Anyway, is it porn? Does it sound like someone else? Because I honestly can't see things straight anymore. He SAYS he loves me and wants me, but is he acting like he does?...
I'm tired of coming second to his phone, which, by the way, goes EVERYWHERE with him, frequent trips to bathroom etc.
All I know is, I'm tired of this. I'm tired of the way it makes me feel.
Any replies appreciated. Thanks for reading.

Maybe he's having an affair or you've gained weight or have become sexually unattractive.

 

[30bandits]

Thanks very much for the empathy and understanding. Why do you think I'm on this bloody site? You have no idea of the shit I have put up with. Thank you again and go fuck yourself

I guess this means you wont be showing us your boobs?....

 

[Runnerwrites]

I'm sure its clear by now

He's met someone. Probably online. Which, I guess, frees you to have your needs met elsewhere.

Guys (or girls even) can you help me? Give me some ideas as to whats going on with my husband. No sex for ages, maybe twice last year. Glued to phone/on Facebook constantly. Won't touch me, won't even look at me when I'm naked (and I'm not that revolting, honestly)
Tells me he doesn't want to do it when house is full of kids (grown up) etc. But we've been away by ourselves 3 or 4 times in the past year. Still no sex. We didn't even have sex when we away for our anniversary.
He won't do\say anything which could lead to sex. I feel like a housekeeper. And I've tried, but now I'm tired of trying.
I'm not naive (or maybe I am?) The last time he behaved anything like this, he was trying to have an affair with my best friend. He always perks up around other women, and, reading this, I'm asking myself, yet again, why am I still here? Well, maybe things are going to change this year...watch this space!
Anyway, is it porn? Does it sound like someone else? Because I honestly can't see things straight anymore. He SAYS he loves me and wants me, but is he acting like he does?...
I'm tired of coming second to his phone, which, by the way, goes EVERYWHERE with him, frequent trips to bathroom etc.
All I know is, I'm tired of this. I'm tired of the way it makes me feel.
Any replies appreciated. Thanks for reading.

 

[FGB]

I'm doing some serious painkillers but it is clear he has lost interest in you.

What or whom he is interested in if anything or anybody, well it doesn't really matter does it...

If you cannot reach him you will have to live with the situation or start a new or different life with or without him.

 

[Tryharder62]

Don't take it that all of the problem is you. I am also wondering how old you both are? In all honesty he may be having arousal problems. I have never understand why most men don't like to talk to doctors about it. In my life, I've had more medical help in that area than I have had sex I think? Sometimes being a female sucks!

You don't have to "perform" online. I think you should tell him what is in your thread here and see what he says. It is not easy. I know.

 

[Colonel Hogan]

We do not live in a time when most people feel bound by prior commitments. Some people are easily bored and feel entitled to relieve boredom by any means necessary. Some people are emotionally claustrophobic due to childhood issues or the experience of previous relationships.

It took me two marriages and several relationships thereafter to realize I am much happier living alone. It's been over 10 years that I told my last girlfriend she was "the last girlfriend." She didn't believe me. I was right, and she was wrong.

 

[pink]

He has checked out. Who needs him? Get on with your life, get out, make friends, enjoy what has to offer.