Not sure if my husband is attractive to me

[unsure90]

I need help and advise from my Literotica friends this is not my main account.
I made a new one so my husband doesn't know.
Any way my husband is a freak and I have been trying to keep up with him but I cant.
I feel like hes cheating on me and i do not mean on here,I mean in real life.
I have tried talking to him about it but I feel like I'm nagging and I do not get a straight answer so I stop asking.But its eating at me and I have non-stop dreams of him with other girls. We talked about having an open relationship but i couldn't go though with it so we decided not to do it and he likes me posting pictures of me so I do and I don't mind him on here either reading the stories or what ever he does. Long story short I want to know how to make him mine again and not these girls at his job or that was once at his job

 

[Rightguide]

Are you a good wife?

 

[raindancer]

What makes you think he is cheating?

 

[unsure90]

Are you a good wife?

I think so. The only thing he says to me about is money. .

 

[LatinSweetie]

If your gut instinct tell you he is, he probably is. He will not change unless he wants to change. Perhaps counseling might help.

 

[unsure90]

What makes you think he is cheating?

When he wanted to have an open relationship and the messages he receive from his coworkers/x-coworkers. He doesn't say anything back really sexual but he also don't tell time to stop either I don't know maybe its my pregnancy hormones or paranoia.

 

[unsure90]

If your gut instinct tell you he is, he probably is. He will not change unless he wants to change. Perhaps counseling might help.

Maybe if i can get him to go lol. I will look into it.

 

[Noor]

Is he out of work?

 

[unsure90]

Is he out of work?

No he works crazy hours.

 

[Parminderjeet]

If your gut instinct tell you he is, he probably is. He will not change unless he wants to change. Perhaps counseling might help.

Dumbest fucking answer ever.

 

[unsure90]

Dumbest fucking answer ever.

I don't think so. If you do not have anything nice to say please don't post and keep moving.

 

[LIVINRFANTASIES]

Dollie

Maybe he's not working all of those crazy hours. He could be cheating.
You mentioned pregnancy, hormones and money. Being pregnant often makes the pregnant lady and her husband say and do things they wouldn't normally say. Also you may not appear as sexy or pretty to him now, or feel that way yourself. Possibly you are not in the mood for sex or he is not in the mood to be doing it with a pregnant lady. Many men still need the sex and will get it wherever they can.
Money, or the shortage of it is another thing that causes couples trouble. Being pregnant with less money puts a strain on a relationship. You and your husband should talk to friends about your problems or a consulor if you can find one free or cheap enough.
Just talking between yourselves and letting your husband know you are worried about your future together will help.

 

[Debbie]

I need help and advise from my Literotica friends this is not my main account.
I made a new one so my husband doesn't know.
Any way my husband is a freak and I have been trying to keep up with him but I cant.
I feel like hes cheating on me and i do not mean on here,I mean in real life.
I have tried talking to him about it but I feel like I'm nagging and I do not get a straight answer so I stop asking.But its eating at me and I have non-stop dreams of him with other girls. We talked about having an open relationship but i couldn't go though with it so we decided not to do it and he likes me posting pictures of me so I do and I don't mind him on here either reading the stories or what ever he does. Long story short I want to know how to make him mine again and not these girls at his job or that was once at his job

Define freak? Sorry nosy debbie wrote that.

I don't know you so all I can give is my opinion. You don't know for sure he is cheating so you could be eating yourself up with stress, anxiety and maybe even anger when he might not be.

Emotional stuff can be hard to talk about. Maybe you could write him a letter and say I can't seem to find the verbal words but I really need you to read this and understand and hopefully we can deal with this.

 

[thør]

Maybe he's not working all of those crazy hours. He could be cheating.
You mentioned pregnancy, hormones and money. Being pregnant often makes the pregnant lady and her husband say and do things they wouldn't normally say. Also you may not appear as sexy or pretty to him now, or feel that way yourself. Possibly you are not in the mood for sex or he is not in the mood to be doing it with a pregnant lady. Many men still need the sex and will get it wherever they can.
Money, or the shortage of it is another thing that causes couples trouble. Being pregnant with less money puts a strain on a relationship. You and your husband should talk to friends about your problems or a consulor if you can find one free or cheap enough.
Just talking between yourselves and letting your husband know you are worried about your future together will help.

Or, maybe he's working his ass off?

 

[Parminderjeet]

I don't think so. If you do not have anything nice to say please don't post and keep moving.

My gut was telling me to say that, it's usually right.

 

[KingOrfeo]

Maybe he's not working all of those crazy hours. He could be cheating.

Or both. Some people have a lot of energy.

 

[LIVINRFANTASIES]

Dollie

Originally Posted by LIVINRFANTASIES View Post
Maybe he's not working all of those crazy hours. He could be cheating.


I did write MAYBE. My husband often worked 12 hours or more a day six to seven days a week and he still had sex with me and other women. But he never cheated.

We knew lots of men who were cheating on my girlfriends and neighbors cheating.
We also knew lots of women who thought husbands were cheating that weren't.
Being married or living together is not always perfect. Like Debbie wrote, often thinking bad things is also hard on a relationship and a mind.

 

[Saint Peter]

Men are pigs.


Shank the fucker.

 

[Christobal]

Were you having these thoughts before you were pregnant?

 

[magicalmoments]

Cheating has absolutely nothing to do with the attractiveness or sexyness of the spouse. As an experienced, serial cheater from my first marriage I can assure you of that.

It's all about selfishness, plain and simple. He will be unable to understand why you cannot separate your marriage from his desire for recreational sex, which in his mind is just fun and no threat to his feelings for you.

The is only one way to stop him and that is to let him get it out of his system, you can accompanying him on the journey or not, but if he is cheating, you won't stop him by any logical or emotional appeal.

 

[Jamiegeo]

Men are pigs.


Shank the fucker.

Best advice ever..lol

 

[4est_4est_Gump]

There's only one response to this thread genre.


If you are asking, you already know the answer...

 

[NOIRTRASH]

I don't think so. If you do not have anything nice to say please don't post and keep moving.

It truly is a dum post.

I'm a retired psychologist and married 44 years. I 'counseled; bazillions of couples. Marriage counseling is nonsense.

You know what to do, he knows what to do, and neither of you wanna do the work. And work is what any relationship is all about. My wife keeps me around because I do the required work.

All marriage counselors push bull shit nnifty ideas that don't work. The nifty stuff doesn't work,because no two people are identical. A good relationship gets the work done. Imagine if either or both of you were paralyzed. If your husband wont do the work find one who will.

 

[SilverBear50]

Hard work

What is certain, is that you, like everyone else will at some point have doubts...
Relationships take daily effort, before you point at others, think about you firstly, can I do more? The attraction, those things that ignited the energy between you, has that changed and if so have you changed together or differently... Its easy to point, too easy most times but if you can take a long hard look at yourself first and be sure you are doing everything possible to love the attraction between you, only then can you ask him to also do the same.
If he is not able, then let him know its you and you only or he can walk... otherwise you will only ever be his wife and not his woman, his lover, his best friend...

Bear xx

 

[Disgustipated]

I need help and advise from my Literotica friends this is not my main account.

How the fuck will your Lit friends help you if they don't know it's you?