'soul mates' fact or friction?

[TDRay1612]

Do you believe in 'soul mates' (with reason)

 

[Tio_Narratore]

I would have expected soul mates not to experience any friction. Is there something amiss in the ethereal realm?

 

[KindofHere]

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[TxRad]

I would have expected soul mates not to experience any friction. Is there something amiss in the ethereal realm?

A lack of traction.

Soul mates happen. Been there, done that, got the ripped and torn t-shirt to prove it.

 

[TDRay1612]

Soul mates

My friend got married 3 years ago. When he first gave me this news, instead of giving him my blessing, by mistake i said to him- "enjoy your marraige bro,well...till it lasts anyway". He went apeshit after hearing that, cursing me and telling me at my face they he and his bride (who i didnt even knew) were 'Soul Mates' and they would remain married forever. After that he stopped taking with me and didnt even invite me to his weeding (not that i blame him!). Now after 3 years he comes to me and informs me that they have gotten a divorce. He told me that i was right and they were not soulmates just two sex crazed individuals. I know i should not judge by just one bad example, but i just cant help it. I realy feel that soul mates dont exist. If any one believes otherwise,I am open to arguments-

 

[PrrnSexy4Papi]

I can speak from experience that soulmates do exist. The person who I have shared the past 7yrs of my life calls me his soulmate just as I call him mine.

It wasn't like I was out there looking for romance nor was he, it just happened. We both met online on one of those mmorpg games, we talked on a daily for days that turned into weeks that later became months.

During this time we never revealed anything that was actually descriptive of our physical appearance. When we finally did shared that, it was a surprise to find out that he turned out to be older than me and 100% not the "type" of guy that I had seen myself falling for.

We have had our ups and downs, just like any other couple, and there are even times that I get so mad that I question why I'm still with him, lol. Then as soon as the dust settles I remember why... Because there is no other person that I would rather share my life with.

 

[TDRay1612]

Soul mates

Congrats and best of luck for your future. I truely hope your marraige survives the test of time. Sorry beforehand, but your marraige is still young and how are you so sure that this person who you consider 'soul mate' will be with you after... say 7 more years.(i am sorry if you feel my coments are rude)

 

[NotWise]

My friend got married 3 years ago. When he first gave me this news, instead of giving him my blessing, by mistake i said to him- "enjoy your marraige bro,well...till it lasts anyway". He went apeshit after hearing that, cursing me and telling me at my face they he and his bride (who i didnt even knew) were 'Soul Mates' and they would remain married forever. After that he stopped taking with me and didnt even invite me to his weeding (not that i blame him!). Now after 3 years he comes to me and informs me that they have gotten a divorce. He told me that i was right and they were not soulmates just two sex crazed individuals. I know i should not judge by just one bad example, but i just cant help it. I realy feel that soul mates dont exist. If any one believes otherwise,I am open to arguments-

I don't know if "Soul Mates" are real or not, but I do know that every relationship takes an effort--sometimes a huge effort. If either member of a couple thinks that being "Soul Mates" is all it takes, then the relationship probably won't last.

 

[holliday1960]

People misunderstand the meaning of soul-mates. If you are looking for one individual, love of your life, forevermore, never fight, 24/7 companion...the odds are slim. Being soulmates doesnt mean you always agree, that divorce doesnt happen, or that you can't ever fall in love with another. Being soulmates is much more complicated than that. The expression is misinterpreted, over-used by individuals who read it in a book and never bothered to discover the true meaning. On the other hand, my grandparents were married 52 years. They were in no way soulmates. The question is ambiguous. And then there's that whole friction thing...friction can be fun...it certainly can make sparks fly anyway.

 

[sr71plt]

I would have expected soul mates not to experience any friction. Is there something amiss in the ethereal realm?

I would think there would be a lot of friction involved in soul mates getting together to, well, mate.

 

[jellogrl]

Soul Mates

I believe in soul mates, but I also think it's possible to have more than one. I may think a boyfriend a soul mate but given the vast variety and number of people on the planet, I have to think that there might be someone else in say China for instance, that I might also consider a soul mate. So...anyway, that's my multi-soul mate theory.

 

[sr71plt]

I can speak from experience that soulmates do exist. The person who I have shared the past 7yrs of my life calls me his soulmate just as I call him mine.

Just a technical note. If you were thinking that reading that font and color on the screen was easy, you were wrong.

On the content, after forty-eight years of marriage I can attest that your mate can be your other half and partner in this phase called life, but seven years into a marriage just doesn't cut it in terms of what's going to either test or solidify your union in soul mate terms. I also have the experience in my own marriage and those of those around me to opine that not getting too dependent on your mate will help both in the long run and in the end, because very few couples zap out together.

 

[Areala-chan]

Personal experience, so take it for what it's worth, but I've been with the woman I married now for twenty years (we met in college, but Indiana didn't legalize same-sex marriage until 2014). I absolutely consider her my soul mate, but "soul mate" and "person you always see eye-to-eye with" are not the same thing. We've fought, we've argued, but in the end we've always recognized that we're perfect for one another, we provide a necessary balance for each other's shortcomings, and we'll never be better separately than we are as a couple.

I'm astoundingly lucky to have found her, and that's all there is to it.

 

[Hypoxia]

We knew when we met 38 years ago that we were right for each other. Totally compatible? Not at all, but enough. Soul mates? Well, more than house mates, anyway.

And shouldn't it be, "Fract or Friction" ??

 

[Tio_Narratore]

We knew when we met 38 years ago that we were right for each other. Totally compatible? Not at all, but enough. Soul mates? Well, more than house mates, anyway.

And shouldn't it be, "Fract or Friction" ??

I would expect that such a relationship would be fractal - equally complex at any level of observation.

 

[NOIRTRASH]

Soul mates lasts as long as his/her new car smell.

The first time she shits while you shower is the signal both are over.

 

[Bramblethorn]

I don't know if "Soul Mates" are real or not, but I do know that every relationship takes an effort--sometimes a huge effort. If either member of a couple thinks that being "Soul Mates" is all it takes, then the relationship probably won't last.

Agreed. My partner and I connected because we had a lot in common, but we stayed together because we put in the work.

 

[kcRollins]

The expression "Soulmates" was first recorded in the 1800s. Although it was discussed long before that.

If you can believe what is said in Greek mythology, that at one time people had four arms, four legs and two faces, and were split apart due to Zeus' jealousy, then you can believe, in no uncertain terms, that there is another half of you roaming about in the universe searching for their other half.

In the 1980s the term skyrocketed. Does anyone know why?

As far as I'm concerned, I don't need another two arms or two legs and I definitely don't need another face. I'm whole as I am and need no one to complete me.

However, what you said to a friend, who had found love and was, at the time, very much enthralled with his partner, was, in my opinion, insensitive.

 

[NicoleZ]

The only people who are soulmates are true, or identical, twins. That doesn't necessarily mean that twins always agree and get along just fine. As for everyone else, "close match" or "mostly complementary" is the best one can hope for but far better is someone who embraces and encourages the differences even if that particular someone is by necessity as close to a saint as makes no difference.

 

[holliday1960]

The only people who are soulmates are true, or identical, twins. That doesn't necessarily mean that twins always agree and get along just fine. As for everyone else, "close match" or "mostly complementary" is the best one can hope for but far better is someone who embraces and encourages the differences even if that particular someone is by necessity as close to a saint as makes no difference.

If you throw into the mix that there are two faces to everyone, it does make your theory that soulmates are twins...what if my soulmate is the total opposite of me? Or, throw reincarnation in there, and you have a multitude of possibles, both like and unlike. As I said before, it isn't as simple as it sounds.

 

[NOIRTRASH]

Belief in soulmates is psychotic fantasy.

 

[sr71plt]

It's sort of like believing in the afterlife, though. If you can actually believe in it, it's more comforting than if you can't. So I wouldn't jam a disbelief down anyone else's throat. Unless, of course, making people unnecessarily unhappy is the reason for posting here.

 

[MagicaPractica]

I think I rather more believe in kndred spirits. I'm one of those who believes something beyond my understanding is going on but I know not what. I've met a couple people in my life that I felt a very strong bond witb. No idea whether they felt it too or if it was just my imagination.

 

[yukonnights]

I think I rather more believe in kndred spirits. I'm one of those who believes something beyond my understanding is going on but I know not what. I've met a couple people in my life that I felt a very strong bond witb. No idea whether they felt it too or if it was just my imagination.

I don't think the term is defined well enough for any meaningful discussion. Take a quick peek at a google search for the term and it's all over the place. Perhaps in order to discuss the term it seems we need to define "Soul" first ?

As a literary term I think it works fine because each reader will define it how they see it.

But with all that said, I like MagicaPractica's take... It leaves it more mystical and beyond our full comprehension and definition.

 

[Hypoxia]

As a literary term I think it works fine because each reader will define it how they see it.

Quite right. It's a metaphor open to liberal interpretation. Do two or more folks actually share a mystic 'soul', whatever that is? (Literally, breath -- to breathe is to possess a soul.)

Authors (liars with keyboards) invoke many metaphors of human experience. We get away with it because it's, like, fiction, hey? Blazing eyes. Magickal touches. Volcanic orgasms. Shared souls. The language is illustrative, evocative, not reportorial. It's sexier than discussing pheromonal responses.