Connection and desire

[CrimsonK]

Back after a hiatus. I came here for one reason, but along the way have made connections...some friends...some more...that keep me coming back.

The desire to keep connecting is strong. It's essential to life...to living fully. And the desire, for me, can't come without that connection.

I'm frustrated with people that I've become close with, who suddenly disappear with no warning or reason or word. Just gone. Completely. I find myself hoping they have found what they need and are living a full life. But am a little sad about the hole they leave behind.

So I am looking for you if you are strong enough to connect with me. If you are brave enough to stay and build something strong...a friendship...or more, if that happens to work for us both. And if you are the kind of person who will have enough respect for me and for what we've built to let me know why it ends.

I imagine there won't be many of you who answer this. But I'm going to put it out here anyway.

 

[13Fantasies]

I don't disagree, but with any online forum, real life will intercede and take priority. Probably not maliciously but people get left behind.

I recently joined and I'm finding the initial connections to be difficult, making it easier to leave in giant chunks of time. If I was leaving, and knew in advance, I would inform people, but sometimes it has to be an apology after the fact rather than advanced notice

 

[RacyWilde]

Back after a hiatus. I came here for one reason, but along the way have made connections...some friends...some more...that keep me coming back.

The desire to keep connecting is strong. It's essential to life...to living fully. And the desire, for me, can't come without that connection.

I'm frustrated with people that I've become close with, who suddenly disappear with no warning or reason or word. Just gone. Completely. I find myself hoping they have found what they need and are living a full life. But am a little sad about the hole they leave behind.

So I am looking for you if you are strong enough to connect with me. If you are brave enough to stay and build something strong...a friendship...or more, if that happens to work for us both. And if you are the kind of person who will have enough respect for me and for what we've built to let me know why it ends.

I imagine there won't be many of you who answer this. But I'm going to put it out here anyway.

The one thing I've learnt is that when people just vanish it's not anything you have done... if it isn't about their life being too busy, it is usually because of their own insecurities. I know this, because the people who have returned have been honest with me, giving me their reasons.

It's hard when people vanish but if you always stick to the boundary that real life comes first then it is a little easier to take when someone dear to you vanishes without a trace.

 

[C4friend]

Back after a hiatus. I came here for one reason, but along the way have made connections...some friends...some more...that keep me coming back.

The desire to keep connecting is strong. It's essential to life...to living fully. And the desire, for me, can't come without that connection.

I'm frustrated with people that I've become close with, who suddenly disappear with no warning or reason or word. Just gone. Completely. I find myself hoping they have found what they need and are living a full life. But am a little sad about the hole they leave behind.

So I am looking for you if you are strong enough to connect with me. If you are brave enough to stay and build something strong...a friendship...or more, if that happens to work for us both. And if you are the kind of person who will have enough respect for me and for what we've built to let me know why it ends.

I imagine there won't be many of you who answer this. But I'm going to put it out here anyway.

I am in search of a friendship like this. Hope we can chat and see if something special happens.

 

[CrimsonK]

I don't disagree, but with any online forum, real life will intercede and take priority. Probably not maliciously but people get left behind.

I recently joined and I'm finding the initial connections to be difficult, making it easier to leave in giant chunks of time. If I was leaving, and knew in advance, I would inform people, but sometimes it has to be an apology after the fact rather than advanced notice

You've misunderstood my post. I'm speaking about "ghosting" -- where, after making a strong connection, the person disappears off the face of the earth. All communications stop.

In a single conversation? Of course life intervenes. And that's understandable.

 

[13Fantasies]

You've misunderstood my post. I'm speaking about "ghosting" -- where, after making a strong connection, the person disappears off the face of the earth. All communications stop.

In a single conversation? Of course life intervenes. And that's understandable.

I did misunderstand. My apologies.

I agree that those are bad.

 

[ashesatwork]

I did misunderstand. My apologies.

I agree that those are bad.

Oh look a man on lit who can state when he's wrong and apologizes.
Someone better snap this one up quick.

And yes. Ghosting is real and fucking hurtful.but yes sometimes real life just gets in the way. You get all caught up in the feels and boom real life hits

 

[CrimsonK]

I did misunderstand. My apologies.

I agree that those are bad.

Thank you

 

[13Fantasies]

Oh look a man on lit who can state when he's wrong and apologizes.
Someone better snap this one up quick.

And yes. Ghosting is real and fucking hurtful.but yes sometimes real life just gets in the way. You get all caught up in the feels and boom real life hits

Glad I'm the one that you should want.

 

[ashesatwork]

Glad I'm the one that you should want.

I wanna break out in song. Really really bad. But i wont try to scare everyone away from crimsonk thread.
Ill keep that to myself.

 

[13Fantasies]

I wanna break out in song. Really really bad. But i wont try to scare everyone away from crimsonk thread.
Ill keep that to myself.

Song and dance numbers for the win.

 

[raindancer]

I'm frustrated with people that I've become close with, who suddenly disappear with no warning or reason or word. Just gone. Completely. I find myself hoping they have found what they need and are living a full life. But am a little sad about the hole they leave behind.

This happens to me, too often.

 

[SexyAlison]

Ghosting happens to me all the time. It sucks.

 

[mxg1072]

Ghosting happens to me all the time. It sucks.

Indeed it does.

 

[raindancer]

Wow. So is this "ghosting", an online phenomenon that happens often?
I thought it was something about me.

 

[SexyAlison]

Wow. So is this "ghosting", an online phenomenon that happens often?
I thought it was something about me.

It happens all the time to everyone in online dating

 

[MacGuffinn]

Ghosting happens to me all the time. It sucks.

Boo to that.

 

[SexyAlison]

Boo to that.

You've got that right. It hurts every time.

 

[MacGuffinn]

I'm probably one that has ghosted, but I need continual contact on a regular basis to keep things rolling. One-sided conversations suck.

 

[SexyAlison]

I'm probably one that has ghosted, but I need continual contact on a regular basis to keep things rolling. One-sided conversations suck.

I get that. It's more when you don't show up to a first date that it hurts.

 

[MacGuffinn]

Yeah... Fuck those people.

 

[cliteatingman]

Hi. I meet hour description

Back after a hiatus. I came here for one reason, but along the way have made connections...some friends...some more...that keep me coming back.

The desire to keep connecting is strong. It's essential to life...to living fully. And the desire, for me, can't come without that connection.

I'm frustrated with people that I've become close with, who suddenly disappear with no warning or reason or word. Just gone. Completely. I find myself hoping they have found what they need and are living a full life. But am a little sad about the hole they leave behind.

So I am looking for you if you are strong enough to connect with me. If you are brave enough to stay and build something strong...a friendship...or more, if that happens to work for us both. And if you are the kind of person who will have enough respect for me and for what we've built to let me know why it ends.

I imagine there won't be many of you who answer this. But I'm going to put it out here anyway.

 

[sexywriterfla]

Back after a hiatus. I came here for one reason, but along the way have made connections...some friends...some more...that keep me coming back.

The desire to keep connecting is strong. It's essential to life...to living fully. And the desire, for me, can't come without that connection.

I'm frustrated with people that I've become close with, who suddenly disappear with no warning or reason or word. Just gone. Completely. I find myself hoping they have found what they need and are living a full life. But am a little sad about the hole they leave behind.

So I am looking for you if you are strong enough to connect with me. If you are brave enough to stay and build something strong...a friendship...or more, if that happens to work for us both. And if you are the kind of person who will have enough respect for me and for what we've built to let me know why it ends.

I imagine there won't be many of you who answer this. But I'm going to put it out here anyway.

Best of luck to you.

 

[lurkingguy1978]

You've misunderstood my post. I'm speaking about "ghosting" -- where, after making a strong connection, the person disappears off the face of the earth. All communications stop.

In a single conversation? Of course life intervenes. And that's understandable.

Having been the "ghost" on a least one occasion, it sucks to know you have done that, too. Especially if you have any kind of conscience. There was never any intent to do so, life and insecurities, and for some people emotional distress just cause a complete disconnection. It is almost entirely inexcusable to do that to someone you care about in any way.

Crimson, I hope you find what you seek, and that it is everything you hope for.

 

[afriendg]

Best of luck to you Crimson...you are a brave and forthright person, and hopefully you will soon meet someone to fill those empty spots in your heart.
I once did...and then I did not. But by no means does this mean you shouldn't seek out what you need to feel whole.
As to "ghosting"...it happens to all of us who put ourselves out there...I admit to doing it once myself when I just got too caught up in other things, and I'm sorry about that. It hurts, and I will make every effort to never repeat that.