Confused dynamic

[missmixalot]

I am naturally submissive (if such a thing exists. Well I feel most me in that role and have enjoyed a submissive relationship with past partners. One aspect of the dynamic i liked very much was CMnf. I would be forced to be naked , often with my Dom's freinds present and enjoyed it very much.
Recetly I have been casually playing , if you can call it that, with male friend. I am naked in his company and he clothed. However, in this dynamic he takes on a sort of submissive role. Well , I feel more in control of the situation and tease and display myself to him and he is not allowed to touch me or play with himself. It is sort of enjoyable but not sure if it is me. Wondered if anyone else had experienced a dymanic switch they were unaure of?

 

[HisArpy]

First, there is no hard and fast rule for a relationship. Some relationships are "me dom, you sub!" while others aren't so rigid in who is who. Being "bottom dominant" is a relationship dynamic that shows what I mean in this - the individual relationship depends on the participants and whatever works for you is what you do.

So, if you like some control in some situations, there shouldn't be any issues with it. Labels aren't the relationship, the people involved are what it's all about.

From there, I would not consider your "no touching" to mean you are being a switch. To me, it's sounds like a limit, not a role change. And, as a limit, you can decide to push it whenever you feel comfortable doing so.

 

[missmixalot]

I have normally liked strict control and gravitated towards being very submissive. I enjoyed humiliation and loss of control. This is very different for me and goes against all my previous experiences in a relationship. I never considered myself a switch or having a dominant side. The man in question discussed this dynamic with me abd i agreeded to try it.

 

[Miles Long]

I think the situations you described are good at illustrating that just about any act can be considered dominant or submissive depending on how the participants feel about them. With your past partner your lack of clothing was one of the ways his power over you manifested itself, and now you assert control over this new guy by teasing him with your body. What's that saying about how many ways there are to skin a cat? (Editor's note: don't skin cats.)

To answer your question, I have not experienced a dynamic switch like this. I will always go for the first scenario you described, but I bet there are lots of people who would enjoy both.

 

[missmixalot]

I think the situations you described are good at illustrating that just about any act can be considered dominant or submissive depending on how the participants feel about them. With your past partner your lack of clothing was one of the ways his power over you manifested itself, and now you assert control over this new guy by teasing him with your body. What's that saying about how many ways there are to skin a cat? (Editor's note: don't skin cats.)

To answer your question, I have not experienced a dynamic switch like this. I will always go for the first scenario you described, but I bet there are lots of people who would enjoy both.

I have preffered dynamic one where my nudity is submissive and i am submissively on display.
Yes, the same situation can give very different results.

 

[cookiecat]

I'm not sure how much you want to share but does he become Dominant at any other point? Does this become sexual with him in the lead at any point or are you always more in control?

Without any other information, I say enjoy. Explore this side of you - it sounds like you're having fun. Is there something in this situation that isn't enjoyable because you're in control?

 

[missmixalot]

Hi.
He does not become dominant, no. Often it is just casual. I may go to his and he'll cook a meal etc. He likes to look. Sometimes I will masturbate and he' ll watch me. Once I got him to use a dildo on me but I was directing him.
I suppose I like the exhibitionist nature. The taboo elementvof being safe and exposing myself.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]