College separations : First open relationship

[Justfantasies]

A long time ago I dated a girl for about a year and then we both went off to grad school, but the schools were a long way apart.

We didn't want to break up, but after a long discussion we decided that we wouldn't be able to stay entirely faithful to each other and that the solution was that we could "see" other people. But the condition was that we had to tell each other what we had been up to.

Of course, it ended up being a a very unequal relationship. In the two years we were apart I probably had sex with three girls. Helen, however, freed from any restraints or need to be loyal to me had sex with a lot of guys.

At first I thought I would be very jealous. But I soon discovered that the whole thing was very exciting and i looked forward to letters about he latest conquests. I then wrote back asking about whether she came, whether he was bigger than me and what clothes she wore. And then I jerked off to thinking about my little Helen actually fucking someone else

Eventually the inevitable happened and she met someone she really cared about and married him. All this was a very long time ago, but it set the course for my life which has been a series of open relationships

I was wondering if anyone here -- male or female -- had had a similar experience?

 

[girlyboi85]

Why couldn't you stay faithful? Was there some sort of magical artefact that made it impossible for you to keep your pants on?

 

[Justfantasies]

Why couldn't you stay faithful? Was there some sort of magical artefact that made it impossible for you to keep your pants on?

We both needed a lot of sex and masturbation wasn't enough

 

[gtnlynn]

Our experience was similar. We had already been dating three years when she went off to college. I was in my sophomore year. Our agreement was that she would be with me when I visit her, which was once or twice a month, but she could date others any other time. As a result, she had sex with several guys during the next two years, while I remained 100% faithful to her. When we became engaged, all the dating of others stopped, of course. I didn't find out about her sexual activities until after we had been married a few years. She told me when I asked. It was exciting then, and it continues to be exciting as she tells me about her experiences.

 

[Justfantasies]

Our experience was similar. We had already been dating three years when she went off to college. I was in my sophomore year. Our agreement was that she would be with me when I visit her, which was once or twice a month, but she could date others any other time. As a result, she had sex with several guys during the next two years, while I remained 100% faithful to her. When we became engaged, all the dating of others stopped, of course. I didn't find out about her sexual activities until after we had been married a few years. She told me when I asked. It was exciting then, and it continues to be exciting as she tells me about her experiences.

I suspect a lot of couples make similar arrangements and I am not sure if Helen admitted to everything she did. I wish she had since it was so exciting. Once or twice we fantasized that she would send me videos of her with other guys, but, of course, she never did.

What i found out quite quickly was that my Helen was a little slut. She actually fucked the first guy she was with after me a day or two after getting to grad school. Later on I found out she hadn't been loyal to me even when we were actually together. I still found that hot though.

 

[policywank]

I have been in a few open relationships. Now I am a hot wife - so basically open for me but not him. It started out as fully open but like the OP he soon found he was dating much less than me and he wasn't really enjoying it in so far as he found the other women less adventurous than me. It was his idea to "take himself off the market" and in return I give him special attention.

The interesting thing is that I have always been more sexually active when in an open relationship than when single. I feel more free to treat each partner as non-committal because I am not looking for anything more. I've been promiscuous when single as well but somehow just not quite as free and liberated. Ironic that having a committed partner makes me feel more liberated.

 

[Justfantasies]

I have been in a few open relationships. Now I am a hot wife - so basically open for me but not him. It started out as fully open but like the OP he soon found he was dating much less than me and he wasn't really enjoying it in so far as he found the other women less adventurous than me. It was his idea to "take himself off the market" and in return I give him special attention.

The interesting thing is that I have always been more sexually active when in an open relationship than when single. I feel more free to treat each partner as non-committal because I am not looking for anything more. I've been promiscuous when single as well but somehow just not quite as free and liberated. Ironic that having a committed partner makes me feel more liberated.

I think that there are probably others who have this kind of relationship. I was lucky to have had this one fairly early in my life, which made me realize how much I enjoyed them. I think in all cases my partner dated a lot more than I did and in a few cases -- like your husband -- I specifically gave up sex with other women. And for exactly the same reason. Other women just weren't hot or experienced enough.

I did have a period a few years ago where I was openly involved with two women, one my wife. My wife was also seeing a lot of other guys but eventually asked me to be exclusive with her, which is what I currently am.

I am lucky I suppose that I don't get jealous about "my" women having other men. But rather am more intrigued and turned on by it. I wonder how many couples live their lives like this?

 

[gtnlynn]

After my wife told me about having sex with other guys in college, I asked her if she ever said "no." She said, "Once. I was mad at him, so he didn't get any."

 

[Justfantasies]

After my wife told me about having sex with other guys in college, I asked her if she ever said "no." She said, "Once. I was mad at him, so he didn't get any."

Several women I have known have told me that they went to phases where they just saw sex as a friendly thing to do, so they fucked most guys who asked. If their actual boyfriends and husbands had given permission it made it easier.

In the case of the girlfriend I am mentioning here, she was very young at the time and found she just loved sex

 

[policywank]

For me it has never been a matter of fucking anyone who asks. I only fuck guys that I find genuinely attractive. I just don't limit myself to how many that can be or any set of expectations as to where it will lead.

 

[Justfantasies]

For me it has never been a matter of fucking anyone who asks. I only fuck guys that I find genuinely attractive. I just don't limit myself to how many that can be or any set of expectations as to where it will lead.

And very wise of you. In my adult life my relationships have typically been open, but have been quite open in that there was never any expectations of monogamy, which, as I have said, works very well for me. They are just friendships which may or may become something else at some point.

The story I was relating was when I and the young woman I was talking about were very young -- a time to be experimental. She had just turned twenty and anxious to try out new things. She got married to someone else and -- as far as I can understand -- became monogamous.

 

[Justfantasies]

Morning bump . . .

 

[TheRando]

It will be like that if your girl is sexually liberated enough to fuck for sport, you will have no chance to keep up with her number if you agree to an open relationship. That's why you also gotta find it a turn-on when she fucks other guys, otherwise the arrangement wouldn't work.

I technically am in an open relationship with the permission to fuck other girls but I won't go out of my way looking for them, because I am more turned on by the aspect of my girlfriend fucking other guys and that provides me with all the excitement I need. She doesn't go out of her way to find guys either, just goes with the flow when it happens, but she is at four guys so far (and surely more to come) while my tally is at zero.

 

[Justfantasies]

It will be like that if your girl is sexually liberated enough to fuck for sport, you will have no chance to keep up with her number if you agree to an open relationship. That's why you also gotta find it a turn-on when she fucks other guys, otherwise the arrangement wouldn't work.

I technically am in an open relationship with the permission to fuck other girls but I won't go out of my way looking for them, because I am more turned on by the aspect of my girlfriend fucking other guys and that provides me with all the excitement I need. She doesn't go out of her way to find guys either, just goes with the flow when it happens, but she is at four guys so far (and surely more to come) while my tally is at zero.

Yes I found exactly the same thing, for lots of reasons these relationships never work if you try to compete in numbers. You just need to learn to enjoy her relationships almost as much as she does and just accept that in open relationships the woman has a certain superiority.

 

[Justfantasies]

Females "win"

It will be like that if your girl is sexually liberated enough to fuck for sport, you will have no chance to keep up with her number if you agree to an open relationship. That's why you also gotta find it a turn-on when she fucks other guys, otherwise the arrangement wouldn't work.

I technically am in an open relationship with the permission to fuck other girls but I won't go out of my way looking for them, because I am more turned on by the aspect of my girlfriend fucking other guys and that provides me with all the excitement I need. She doesn't go out of her way to find guys either, just goes with the flow when it happens, but she is at four guys so far (and surely more to come) while my tally is at zero.

Yes I found exactly the same thing, for lots of reasons these relationships never work if you try to compete in numbers. You just need to learn to enjoy her relationships almost as much as she does and just accept that in open relationships the woman has a certain superiority.

 

[screwher]

I technically am in an open relationship with the permission to fuck other girls but I won't go out of my way looking for them, because I am more turned on by the aspect of my girlfriend fucking other guys and that provides me with all the excitement I need. She doesn't go out of her way to find guys either, just goes with the flow when it happens, but she is at four guys so far (and surely more to come) while my tally is at zero.

This is kind of like my situation. Only we're more of a hotwife relationship where a series of events had us both wanting her having sex with other men. Within this lifestyle my wife's dropped her panties for two guys. And more to come herself.

 

[Justfantasies]

This is kind of like my situation. Only we're more of a hotwife relationship where a series of events had us both wanting her having sex with other men. Within this lifestyle my wife's dropped her panties for two guys. And more to come herself.

Perhaps more than one guy at a time. My wife and I were talking about her first threesome at college only yesterday

 

[screwher]

Perhaps more than one guy at a time. My wife and I were talking about her first threesome at college only yesterday

I hope so. I'd love to see my wife in a threesome with two other men!

 

[Justfantasies]

I hope so. I'd love to see my wife in a threesome with two other men!

I think this would be awesome. Cindy has done this a few times, but I have never watched her.

 

[Justfantasies]

bump . . .

 

[gtnlynn]

Our experience was quite similar. We had already been dating 3 years when she went to college. I was in my sophomore year at another college 100 miles away, so we only saw each other once or twice a month, if that often. She dated lots of guys and had sex with several. I didn't date...lack of time, money, and motivation. We married after she graduated, but I didn't find out about the sex with other men until we had been married several years. I asked, and she said, "Of course, I had sex with one or two of them." Actually, the number grew beyond one or two, and I enjoy the stories of those times. We're still married after 30+ years.

 

[Justfantasies]

Our experience was quite similar. We had already been dating 3 years when she went to college. I was in my sophomore year at another college 100 miles away, so we only saw each other once or twice a month, if that often. She dated lots of guys and had sex with several. I didn't date...lack of time, money, and motivation. We married after she graduated, but I didn't find out about the sex with other men until we had been married several years. I asked, and she said, "Of course, I had sex with one or two of them." Actually, the number grew beyond one or two, and I enjoy the stories of those times. We're still married after 30+ years.

Wondering what number it grew to. In our case we talked about her lovers at the time and it was a huge turn on for me

 

[gtnlynn]

Wondering what number it grew to. In our case we talked about her lovers at the time and it was a huge turn on for me

The number only grew to a total of 5 in college. Add 3 more since we married.

 

[Justfantasies]

Place to start

 

[Justfantasies]

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