What the fuck is wrong with some of you?

[ElsieElsewhere]

Hey not fair! I'm a very considerate PMer. Yes, I do send the unsolicited PM to someone that interest me but I always introduce myself politely and even attach a PG picture! Just because I'm a perv doesn't make me a dick!

The Poltergeist was rated PG when it came out. If it is anything like that movie, I don't want to see it.

 

[samisfun]

Haha decent point. It's usually a picture of my face or body!
Not a good approach? I figured one would want to see who they are talking to.

Hmmmm maybe I should rethink that one, Elsie?

 

[Shadoleopard]

Sam, you could, y'know, put a pic in your profile if you want it seen on first meeting. Also, in some ways, isn't a chest shot kinda like a dick pic? It is still a braggy, look what I got thing that wasn't asked for.

 

[Sweetandsensual]

Whilst I quite agree with you about the sending of unsolicited messages, how about the Ladies who do not acknowledge friendly & courteous messages. Where are THEIR manners?

I used to. Every single one. Except that the intense rage that can come back when all you have said is "thank you for your message. We have different interests here, but I hope you find what you're looking for." is...astounding. Terrifying. Shocking.

So I don't anymore.

Since when is it a requirement to answer any PM? I don't believe I signed anything stating that if I decided not to keep my PM's off, I had to respond to every one if it was friendly and courteous.

Some are nothing more than "Hi." I mean, really? That means absolutely nothing in this day and age. I can get that passing someone in the grocery store while looking at the different brands of spaghetti sauce. Am I supposed to drop everything, stop, turn to face them because they were friendly? Wait for the conversation to start and pay attention?

Most PM's are nothing more than trolling. "Hey, is she online? If she answers me maybe I can get her to talk dirty to me." It means absolutely nothing and is a waste of my time. It has nothing to do with manners, it has to do with giving me something to work with.

If you're complimenting any part of my body, using something I wrote in a post to take something out of context or build on in order to get your rocks off, I don't care how polite, courteous or friendly it is.

It just absolutely pisses me off that anyone is required to respond to anyone else because of "manners."

/rant over.

thank you. This. So much this.

 

[Sweetandsensual]

Oh I so agree. Each to their own indeed, but when I see a guy who's AV is a cock picture then sorry, but this girl thinks "distasteful".

Thank you! I said this to someone yesterday who insisted that ALL other Lit women LOVE seeing his dick pushed in their inbox. Tried to convince me I was a freak for thinking it a poor way to get me to take him seriously.

 

[samisfun]

Hmm I can see how it may be interpreted that way. Shame that isn't my intention. I would be happy to see what the person looks like that I may choose to talk to. It's not braggy, but I get it.

I think it's nice to introduce with a face: "this is me and I'm not hiding and I'm saying hi - you seem interesting".

 

[Shadoleopard]

Yeah, but ya said face -or- body. If you're sending a face shot to those you're first greeting, I kinda get it. Stay private from those you don't want to share with.

 

[samisfun]

I hear you. I actually think it freaks some people out to see a face picture in an introductory email. And I agree with you to a point and bout the body pic - it is sort of braggy. I'm certainly not sending a dick pic....so it leaves me wondering if an intro pic is even wise. The point is to connect and chat. Looks are part of it. Oy! Now I don't know what to do! Haha

 

[ydahecnot]

I know better than to show face or body. so as to forestall nausea. So this is all a moot point for me. If you do want to show face, put it in the av or profile, so one can come upon it and perhaps be attracted it, without it feeling like a hard sell.

And two things I perhaps know about the women of Lit: that they value how you come across in threads more than how you come across in a cold-call PM, and that emphasizing body parts as a first impression enrages at worst, causes giggles at best, and could negate any strengths you may have in your personality.

 

[Shadoleopard]

Kinda what I was thinking Y.

 

[barefootgirl69]

I know better than to show face or body. so as to forestall nausea. So this is all a moot point for me. If you do want to show face, put it in the av or profile, so one can come upon it and perhaps be attracted it, without it feeling like a hard sell.

And two things I perhaps know about the women of Lit: that they value how you come across in threads more than how you come across in a cold-call PM, and that emphasizing body parts as a first impression enrages at worst, causes giggles at best, and could negate any strengths you may have in your personality.

I adore you and have, as yet, to see anything except your sunshiney personality.

 

[ydahecnot]

Kinda what I was thinking Y.

That my face or body would cause nausea?

OK, it's true, but still....

 

[mickyp123]

What about a dick covered in glitter and cumming a rainbow

 

[ElsieElsewhere]

I know better than to show face or body. so as to forestall nausea. So this is all a moot point for me. If you do want to show face, put it in the av or profile, so one can come upon it and perhaps be attracted it, without it feeling like a hard sell.

And two things I perhaps know about the women of Lit: that they value how you come across in threads more than how you come across in a cold-call PM, and that emphasizing body parts as a first impression enrages at worst, causes giggles at best, and could negate any strengths you may have in your personality.

fucking this all day. this is why i am extremely skeptical of bold people with low post counts and old af join dates.

That my face or body would cause nausea?

OK, it's true, but still....

If that is you in your avatar, then I'd jump your bones.

 

[girlyboi85]

Just for the record: my avatar is awesome and I've never sent ANYONE - male, female, or undecided/fluid - a disrespectful PM.

 

[beachbaby179]

What about a dick covered in glitter and cumming a rainbow

THAT would be the exception to my "no dick pic"rule.

 

[ydahecnot]

fucking this all day. this is why i am extremely skeptical of bold people with low post counts and old af join dates.



If that is you in your avatar, then I'd jump your bones.

Alas, it's dangerous to get too close to me.

 

[Whispersweetly]

Alas, it's dangerous to get too close to me.

Lest our wings melt?

 

[SimplyMsT]

Sam, you could, y'know, put a pic in your profile if you want it seen on first meeting. Also, in some ways, isn't a chest shot kinda like a dick pic? It is still a braggy, look what I got thing that wasn't asked for.

Uhhhhh no a chest pic is NOT the same thing as a dick pic ...

Seriously?

 

[Shadoleopard]

I said in some ways kinda... Still shoving your body in someone's face, theoretically (usually) as a "See what I got? Be attracted by me!"...

 

[oldasspussy]

I hear you. I actually think it freaks some people out to see a face picture in an introductory email. And I agree with you to a point and bout the body pic - it is sort of braggy. I'm certainly not sending a dick pic....so it leaves me wondering if an intro pic is even wise. The point is to connect and chat. Looks are part of it. Oy! Now I don't know what to do! Haha

I don't think you should send any pics unless someone asks for one, nor should you put them on the spot & ask if they'd like to see one.

 

[Leigh81]

I don't think you should send any pics unless someone asks for one, nor should you put them on the spot & ask if they'd like to see one.

This^^^
Why do guys feel the need to send a pic??
I really don't see the point of sending a pic at all, at least until you get to know the person if that's what both agree on. I prefer a nice classy pic in an Av or a profile myself.
If you're looking for someone the Personals are that-a-way >>>

L

 

[Eva_Star]

This^^^
Why do guys feel the need to send a pic??
I really don't see the point of sending a pic at all, at least until you get to know the person if that's what both agree on. I prefer a nice classy pic in an Av or a profile myself.
If you're looking for someone the Personals are that-a-way >>>

L

Eeeeee!! Your profile pic is everything! I want to snuggle her up!

 

[lovetopleasewomen]

This^^^
Why do guys feel the need to send a pic??
I really don't see the point of sending a pic at all, at least until you get to know the person if that's what both agree on. I prefer a nice classy pic in an Av or a profile myself.
If you're looking for someone the Personals are that-a-way >>>

L

could you possibly give some better directions? I followed your arrows & got lost, ended up in the flaming quagmire known as the GB. Don't need to do that again!

 

[Leigh81]

What's even worse is guys falling all over themselves for phonies on here. Use your brain & not your little head guys, seriously

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