Wanted: American online Daddy for email D/s

[BrainySlut]

Wanted: American online Dominant for email D/s

I have this thing for exchanging D/s emails/KIK messages with well educated, dominant, and (for some reason I can't quite explain...) American men.

I am female, and submissive.

I must stress that this is a fantasy-only pursuit. I've got no real interest in your real life biography - shape/size/age/race/religion/marital status etc.

But you must write with authority, and demand high standards in our correspondence from the start.

You must be detailed, strict, and not like being told what to do. You must be in control. Reading "you must" from me would not be acceptable to you. I'd be punished for suggesting what you must do. And maybe even punished for suggesting that I deserve punishment.

I'd certainly be scolded for veering off topic. BUT

Whilst you have a firm and unwavering hand, you are also very gentle and loving. You are essentially nurturing and kind. Not an asshole angry Dom who just shouts and wallops people. If you punish me, I know exactly why, and deserve it. I have unlimited respect for you because you are so strong and controlling, and know just how to (not sure if this is the right word...) manipulate me. In a way that's kind of beautiful and fucked up. By which I guess I mean dark. Some would call it dark.

I'm frightened of you, but more frightened of disappointing you. Pleasing you is my addiction. Feeling safe in your arms and also vulnerable to your will and every whim.

You're likely to be a Daddy Dom - in my limited experience this is generally the most likely fit - although maybe you are a different style of Dom and I need to learn your expectations, rules, ways and preferences.

You are fun and funny. You have your own established real world life (as I do).

You are also maybe NONE of the things above, but just have that voice that grabs me and makes me want to be yours. Like - I don't have this fixed idea - I'm just cobbling together a list of wants. Which is dumb, because I don't want my wants to be a factor. Ultimately, it's all about you. I guess the one thing you definitely do is define how it's gonna be between us. I'm not that experienced and wanna learn. I don't mind being told to shut up and listen. I don't mind that at all.

Haha, I should have just written "wanted - articulate American guy with a plan"

 

[Prince Albert]

If still looking, please read some of my posts & contact me.

 

[FluteMaster]

Good luck in your search.

I'm looking for something real-life from a UK girl, but it's kinda nice to see a UK girl on the BDSM threads.

 

[BrainySlut]

Widening the search

Ok I've realised the American thing isn't essential. Neither is the male thing - I'm potentially open to anyone who likes reading and writing, and who is very particular about the stuff he/she/it/they writes to me, and even more particular about what and how I reply to him/her/it/them.

But I'm looking for fantasy only. Please don't write if you are wanting to form a real-life relationship, or be sent pics or Skype etc. I find restricting contact to emails and written-only live chat intensifies some aspects of what I'm looking for. Like, something purely mental I guess. And totally secret and based on trust and a perfect and powerful fit of minds.

Many people will find this not tangible/visible enough. But I know there are people out there who seek this form of complexity and intensity - I read and listen to your stories on lit. often! The kind of blind and other worldly trust involved in a written relationship just totally puts me in a submissive trance - you trust my submission, I entrust you with my body, my full attention, soul, mind, whichever aspects of my real self you want to take over, own, dictate, modify and dominate. You can totally rebuild me if you want. I just want someone to take over.

If you need constant pics and or vids as proof of my submission don't contact me. I'm a hugely open and genuine person, who is looking for a long term, intricate and carefully spun parallel life, with a deep rooted desire to surrender to someone very privately and sincerely.

That's not to say I won't fully submit my body and mind in reality as a response. I guess I'm just looking for a voice. An all knowing, all encompassing voice to slowly and skilfully seep into my mind like a soothing but wicked gas, and slowly take me over and fully own me and my life. I don't have a sense of identity or focus. I want you to be it. I feel lost and empty and need someone to focus all my private and most secret attention on, and to share something intense and profound with someone who can lead me there. I need to fear you.

Yes, it's late and I've essentially just spewed a one-sided wish list, which feels both needy and vague at the same time. It's missing your list of wants and demands. If you see anything in the above that resonates, maybe drop me a line.

 

[BrainySlut]

Bumper Friday

I'm bumping this, mainly for the second post rather than the first, which was kind of specific and part of a grieving process.

These posts sound misleadingly needy and dicatative. They are only attempts to allude to previous glimmers of sublimation. I wouldn't know how to move on from these words, or what to move on to, I follow.

If you see the raw ingredients you need to manipulate me into something you want, please dm.

 

[*professorx*]

I'm bumping this, mainly for the second post rather than the first, which was kind of specific and part of a grieving process.

These posts sound misleadingly needy and dicatative. They are only attempts to allude to previous glimmers of sublimation. I wouldn't know how to move on from these words, or what to move on to, I follow.

If you see the raw ingredients you need to manipulate me into something you want, please dm.

mind control


to delve into your psyche ,,,,, to arrange all the pretty flowers you hold......into a captivating bouquet

i see you edited your post today

 

[RacyWilde]

WOW! I think what you have written here is absolutely fantastic. I wish I could be the man for you.

You've given great insight into the submissive mind here. I've always been perplexed by it. I would never want to be that vulnerable, to give up my will to another. I'm not brave enough and I'm too rebellious. I'm like an eternal flame - I will burn you if you don't know how to handle me. I might flicker and bend to the wind, even smoulder, but my fire will never be extinguished. However, the way you describe yourself is so serene... calming... peaceful.

I had a Dom that could calm the embers of my soul into a purring stillness. He'd make me stop, center and then pull me into him. The comfort I felt from him was beyond imaginable. The feel of your words reminds me of his power. Are you sure you are not a Domme in disguise .

I think as a bratty switch, I still want what you want, but I'd want to drive my Dom mad first, taking him to the brink just to see how far he would go for me, before offering my total submission. And my submission would be fleeting, he would have to earn it again and again... until he would learn to harness my fire, not try to tame it.

I do hope you find what you are looking for (I'd be almost jealous if you do ). But, I do think the intensity and deepness you seek cannot possibly be fulfilled without a real life application.

I have this thing for exchanging D/s emails/KIK messages with well educated, dominant, and (for some reason I can't quite explain...) American men.

I am female, and submissive.

I must stress that this is a fantasy-only pursuit. I've got no real interest in your real life biography - shape/size/age/race/religion/marital status etc.

But you must write with authority, and demand high standards in our correspondence from the start.

You must be detailed, strict, and not like being told what to do. You must be in control. Reading "you must" from me would not be acceptable to you. I'd be punished for suggesting what you must do. And maybe even punished for suggesting that I deserve punishment.

I'd certainly be scolded for veering off topic. BUT

Whilst you have a firm and unwavering hand, you are also very gentle and loving. You are essentially nurturing and kind. Not an asshole angry Dom who just shouts and wallops people. If you punish me, I know exactly why, and deserve it. I have unlimited respect for you because you are so strong and controlling, and know just how to (not sure if this is the right word...) manipulate me. In a way that's kind of beautiful and fucked up. By which I guess I mean dark. Some would call it dark.

I'm frightened of you, but more frightened of disappointing you. Pleasing you is my addiction. Feeling safe in your arms and also vulnerable to your will and every whim.

You're likely to be a Daddy Dom - in my limited experience this is generally the most likely fit - although maybe you are a different style of Dom and I need to learn your expectations, rules, ways and preferences.

You are fun and funny. You have your own established real world life (as I do).

You are also maybe NONE of the things above, but just have that voice that grabs me and makes me want to be yours. Like - I don't have this fixed idea - I'm just cobbling together a list of wants. Which is dumb, because I don't want my wants to be a factor. Ultimately, it's all about you. I guess the one thing you definitely do is define how it's gonna be between us. I'm not that experienced and wanna learn. I don't mind being told to shut up and listen. I don't mind that at all.

Haha, I should have just written "wanted - articulate American guy with a plan"

 

[ArthurW]

Lot of US daddy's here so you have a lot to choices. A plan means nothing with out what you are really into beyond your daddy being a Dom. As one we can cause a problem so you need to think of limits and safe word for your safety. You have fun and I wish you all the best.

 

[JamieJ424]

I'm totally all that stuff you said, or whatever. I'm super mean and strict and like...mean. Seriously. I mean like I'll punish you and stuff. Way punish you. That thing you said, whoa. That set me off. I like smashed my um...bed. It's smashed now cause I was like way mad and stuff. I had to back up and be like whoa dude. Chill.

But I have like a question? Um...like if we...I mean like if I like punish you or whatever? How does that even work if like you're just like...reading an email. Are you reading it going 'oh dude! I'm so punished or whatever! This is exactly what I wanted! Seriously all my dreams are coming true right now!'

 

[Blase]

But I have like a question? Um...like if we...I mean like if I like punish you or whatever? How does that even work if like you're just like...reading an email. Are you reading it going 'oh dude! I'm so punished or whatever! This is exactly what I wanted! Seriously all my dreams are coming true right now!'

Yeah, that's what I love about all these "I want an incredibly intense and real connection, just with nocamnopicsnovoicenonothing" ads. Sure, fine, I love a good exercise in creative writing, and I guess pretending that you're having a D/s relationship with someone who is probably pretending to be female just makes it all the more creative. .

But... yeah. If you really do want an intense connection with someone, placing an ad like this is simply shooting yourself in the foot before you even get started, in my opinion. How likely do you think it is that anyone with any significant experience with or talent for D/s will bother with a situation where they might as well be writing fiction?

Better to just be honest and say that you want to explore D/s through roleplay. Then if your fictional exploration leaves you wanting more, do your due diligence; read the voluminous material that is out there, talk to people on the boards, learn how to guard your safety, and at some point... take your courage in hand and own your desires.

Because life will let you sit and watch your dreams float by, if you insist on remaining passive. It will let you sit and pretend you have something, when you have nothing.

Just beware, because one day, pretending may no longer be enough. And by then, it may be very hard to fix.