Feeling Lost These Days

[LonelyLittleRed]

First off no disrespect to the mature ladies and gentlemen i have spoken with and am still speaking to, you are lovely and caring people. But other than you the rest of this site seems to be a domestic violence TV series, a dateline episode, or something of ?6. What happened to treating a women as a lady, of romance like back in the days of the round table or shakespherean era. I guess I'm just lost and stuck in the wrong time or I'm a hopeless romantic, but i think that should be a good thing. I just wish there were like - minded individuals within my age group.

 

[SheLikes2Watch]

I'm sure there are romantic, respectful guys out there.

I just don't know that they hang out on here.

I kid!

I'm sure it's just a question of kissing a lot of frogs to find your prince.

Don't give up hope. Maybe they've just been waiting for this post to show them where you are.

 

[Superman2008]

First off no disrespect to the mature ladies and gentlemen i have spoken with and am still speaking to, you are lovely and caring people. But other than you the rest of this site seems to be a domestic violence TV series, a dateline episode, or something of ?6. What happened to treating a women as a lady, of romance like back in the days of the round table or shakespherean era. I guess I'm just lost and stuck in the wrong time or I'm a hopeless romantic, but i think that should be a good thing. I just wish there were like - minded individuals within my age group.

The problem is guys your age don't have respect for anything including themselves. Among many other things. It's only getting worse. I do hope you find what you're looking for, but I am not sure you're going to find here within the age group you're looking at. Good luck though.

 

[Badneighbor40]

These men exist, maybe fewer than in the past due to an excess of free porn, but they exist. The fact no one should date a person that doesnt treat them with respect. Also, if supply and demand has any relevance, you should note the number of men on here looking for women. Any woman posts "I'm new here" and she is immediately drowned in dick pics. Therefore, you and any other women have all the power here and in the real world too, to select a partner. You do the choosing because there will always be a dozen men in line waiting. Recognize your power and do not accept anything less than what you want. Do not settle. You are worth more than that.

 

[1sickbastard]

For one thing, the "romance" you want is an illusion. It's emotional porn and exists only in story books and fantasy.

Sure, it reads great and makes for a wonderful story, but you gotta live in reality.

For another, as has already been pointed out, guys your age are either clueless, have figured this shit out, but ain't buying into it (because it's a sucker's bet and they know they're going to end up with the shit end of the stick) or they're playing along, trusting to fate and the whims of their SO, which means they're already in a relationship.

Good for you for having standards, but the "One" doesn't exist.
At best, you'll find a 0.7 and, when you squint so your vision is a little blurry, you'll be able to round up.

So, either deal with no one meeting your standards or alter your standards, or hold out until your "One" arrives.
But any way you choose, that's all on you.

 

[Badneighbor40]

For one thing, the "romance" you want is an illusion. It's emotional porn and exists only in story books and fantasy.

Sure, it reads great and makes for a wonderful story, but you gotta live in reality.

For another, as has already been pointed out, guys your age are either clueless, have figured this shit out, but ain't buying into it (because it's a sucker's bet and they know they're going to end up with the shit end of the stick) or they're playing along, trusting to fate and the whims of their SO, which means they're already in a relationship.

Good for you for having standards, but the "One" doesn't exist.
At best, you'll find a 0.7 and, when you squint so your vision is a little blurry, you'll be able to round up.

So, either deal with no one meeting your standards or alter your standards, or hold out until your "One" arrives.
But any way you choose, that's all on you.

Sorry Sick Bastard. I disagree. When I was that age, I was a romantic who believed in treating women well and being honorable and such. I still open doors for ladies and refer to women I dont know as "Miss", instead of "hey you" or "ma'am".

I dont believe Little Red is looking for Mr. Perfect to be her end all and be all. It sounds like she is just looking for a nice guy who doesn't start a conversation with "'sup slut?" and maybe kisses her before fucking.

Our society has gotten more coarse but maybe it is because we do not demand higher standards.

 

[1sickbastard]

Sorry Sick Bastard. I disagree. When I was that age, I was a romantic who believed in treating women well and being honorable and such. I still open doors for ladies and refer to women I dont know as "Miss", instead of "hey you" or "ma'am".

I dont believe Little Red is looking for Mr. Perfect to be her end all and be all. It sounds like she is just looking for a nice guy who doesn't start a conversation with "'sup slut?" and maybe kisses her before fucking.

Our society has gotten more coarse but maybe it is because we do not demand higher standards.

Oh, I've always, and still do, indulge in the social courtesies. But I don't expect it means anything except I'm acting like a gentleman.

But she's not interested in old farts like us, is she?

And how has that romantic thing worked out for you, mr hanging out on a porn site just like the rest of of here?

 

[LinusRules]

Sorry Sick Bastard. I disagree. When I was that age, I was a romantic who believed in treating women well and being honorable and such. I still open doors for ladies and refer to women I dont know as "Miss", instead of "hey you" or "ma'am".

I dont believe Little Red is looking for Mr. Perfect to be her end all and be all. It sounds like she is just looking for a nice guy who doesn't start a conversation with "'sup slut?" and maybe kisses her before fucking.

Our society has gotten more coarse but maybe it is because we do not demand higher standards.

I can't speak for them but I think part of what they're saying is this generation of younger people that grow up watching Girls Gone Wild are basically taught that's how you treat a woman.

Good for the OP expecting more for herself, she's just going to have to sift through more trash to find it.

 

[1sickbastard]

I can't speak for them but I think part of what they're saying is this generation of younger people that grow up watching Girls Gone Wild are basically taught that's how you treat a woman.

Good for the OP expecting more for herself, she's just going to have to sift through more trash to find it.

Yeah, that's pretty much what I was trying to get at.

 

[Badneighbor40]

Oh, I've always, and still do, indulge in the social courtesies. But I don't expect it means anything except I'm acting like a gentleman.

But she's not interested in old farts like us, is she?

And how has that romantic thing worked out for you, mr hanging out on a porn site just like the rest of of here?

The point of respect is that it is not an act, it is an internalized behaviour. The act is an end unto its self and not a means to an end.

Being a decent human being is working out for me just fine. I work 40+hours and have other commitments that preclude me from dating. This may be an adult site but this forum, for me at least, is more of a social area than porn. There are other, more tailored areas of the interwebz for that.

 

[Superman2008]

These men exist, maybe fewer than in the past due to an excess of free porn, but they exist. The fact no one should date a person that doesnt treat them with respect. Also, if supply and demand has any relevance, you should note the number of men on here looking for women. Any woman posts "I'm new here" and she is immediately drowned in dick pics. Therefore, you and any other women have all the power here and in the real world too, to select a partner. You do the choosing because there will always be a dozen men in line waiting. Recognize your power and do not accept anything less than what you want. Do not settle. You are worth more than that.

I wasn't going to mention porn but YES this is a reason as well.

 

[barefootgirl69]

The point of respect is that it is not an act, it is an internalized behaviour. The act is an end unto its self and not a means to an end.

Being a decent human being is working out for me just fine. I work 40+hours and have other commitments that preclude me from dating. This may be an adult site but this forum, for me at least, is more of a social area than porn. There are other, more tailored areas of the interwebz for that.

There are many sweet, decent, and respectful men of all ages here. I talk to men as young as 26, and as old as... well, age doesn't matter as much as enjoying someone in conversation, so I don't normally ask.

I completely understand the social aspect you're looking for. It's the reason I came here, but I also realize that it's probably not the place to find romance or more than friendship. . But it can happen.

 

[INeedLove]

Yeah, that's pretty much what I was trying to get at.

That's not how your post came across, Mr Grumpypants

There are many sweet, decent, and respectful men of all ages here. I talk to men as young as 26, and as old as... well, age doesn't matter as much as enjoying someone in conversation, so I don't normally ask.

I completely understand the social aspect you're looking for. It's the reason I came here, but I also realize that it's probably not the place to find romance or more than friendship. . But it can happen.

Well said, BFG.

Just to reiterate--To look at Lit as a romantic site or even a dating site is probably unrealistic. There are people who find love-but those instances are rare gems. Don't let this site lower your expectations, like others have said. You know what you want. You should stick to your guns. Best wishes in your search OP.

 

[ArthurW]

Sweetheart ( I am talking as a dad now ) I do not think you will find your Prince charming here. These men only want to get a piece. It is why this site is here. I think you will have better luck looking around where you live. Yes guys still open doors hold chairs kiss hands and treat you like a lady. I wish you all the best lady.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

That's not how your post came across, Mr Grumpypants



Well said, BFG.

Just to reiterate--To look at Lit as a romantic site or even a dating site is probably unrealistic. There are people who find love-but those instances are rare gems. Don't let this site lower your expectations, like others have said. You know what you want. You should stick to your guns. Best wishes in your search OP.

I was just going to tell Sickie to be sweet and squint at him..

I have a friend who keeps telling me that my pursuit is futile as well. I have a sister who tells me I'm crazy for thinking any man "really" wants to cuddle..
Nevertheless, I keep pursing what I feel should be my standards. If I find my match, great! If I don't? Not so great, but at least I didn't waiver.

The bar shouldn't be so high as to be unattainable, but that certainly doesn't mean you should drop it to the ground and accept whatever decides to crawl over it...

Good luck and cheer up

 

[LonelyLittleRed]

Thank you guys for you advice and a good confidence boost, but to be honest I'm not looking for love on here or the one, i know that is a very small nearly impossible thing to happen, but i am looking for a polite gentlemen to have conversations with. He maybe be older, that's to a lovely poster on this post of mine, I've realized it's just friendship anyhow. Thanks guys and gals

 

[Superman2008]

Thank you guys for you advice and a good confidence boost, but to be honest I'm not looking for love on here or the one, i know that is a very small nearly impossible thing to happen, but i am looking for a polite gentlemen to have conversations with. He maybe be older, that's to a lovely poster on this post of mine, I've realized it's just friendship anyhow. Thanks guys and gals

As long as you have a realistic view of what to expect. I do wish you well

 

[DonQuixoteindfw]

Thank you guys for you advice and a good confidence boost, but to be honest I'm not looking for love on here or the one, i know that is a very small nearly impossible thing to happen, but i am looking for a polite gentlemen to have conversations with. He maybe be older, that's to a lovely poster on this post of mine, I've realized it's just friendship anyhow. Thanks guys and gals

Never give up hope, that's one thing that keeps the Romantic's desire alive "hope". That being said PM sent