Looking for Something that Probably Doesn't exist

[EllAyyBee]

I'm looking for someone I can become close with on a personal and emotional level. I am married. We have an open marriage, but what I'm looking for isn't exactly physical. I am a long- time sufferer of poor self-image, low self-confidence, and issues with self-worth. My husband doesn't really do much to help with any of that. I need a friend that I can be close with and trust enough to be truly open. I know when I have someone like that in my life, I'm able to bloom.

My ideal friend is someone in the same boat, who isn't looking to meet and hook up. He should be respectful and not rush to talk crude. He is also looking to connect emotionally with someone in order to fill that void. He understands the concept of friends first and strictly platonic and isn't just using this contact as another method of finding a booty call. He is smart, kind, funny, and patient.

Here's hoping.

 

[Bluespark]

I'm looking for someone I can become close with on a personal and emotional level. I am married. We have an open marriage, but what I'm looking for isn't exactly physical. I am a long- time sufferer of poor self-image, low self-confidence, and issues with self-worth. My husband doesn't really do much to help with any of that. I need a friend that I can be close with and trust enough to be truly open. I know when I have someone like that in my life, I'm able to bloom.

My ideal friend is someone in the same boat, who isn't looking to meet and hook up. He should be respectful and not rush to talk crude. He is also looking to connect emotionally with someone in order to fill that void. He understands the concept of friends first and strictly platonic and isn't just using this contact as another method of finding a booty call. He is smart, kind, funny, and patient.

Here's hoping.

As a fellow low self-esteem sufferer I wish you luck in your search for a friend.

 

[EllAyyBee]

As a fellow low self-esteem sufferer I wish you luck in your search for a friend.

Thank you I figure if I'm just completely honest, maybe I'll get lucky.

 

[Bluespark]

Thank you I figure if I'm just completely honest, maybe I'll get lucky.

Honesty is always the best way to start.

 

[LostBabygirl3489]

Hey dear....you sound so lovely. I have the same issues as you. If you ever need someone to talk to, I am here. You deserve someone lovely and patient.

 

[RuneBlade]

Damn my rush to always talk crude. :|

 

[EllAyyBee]

Hey dear....you sound so lovely. I have the same issues as you. If you ever need someone to talk to, I am here. You deserve someone lovely and patient.

Thank you so much.

 

[JTS4jo]

Hi Ell,

I do exist and I am not a unicorn. I am also in an open marriage and suffer from some of the same things you describe as far as self esteem goes. I am male, and would love to chat anytime you have something on your mind. I prefer PM but will chat on the boards if you prefer, but am not as open here.

 

[sexywriterfla]

Welcome to Lit. We all have issues, so you're not alone.

 

[Broken_Knight21]

I'm here if you need me. I sent you a pm but it didn't get through I suppose.

 

[Dirtytalker27]

You'll find friends here

Lots of friends here (I'm just a lady being supportive). (Some guys are turds.. ) but I've found a lot of genuinely nice and fun guys to talk to.. hope you find him.

 

[EllAyyBee]

Lots of friends here (I'm just a lady being supportive). (Some guys are turds.. ) but I've found a lot of genuinely nice and fun guys to talk to.. hope you find him.

It's been very nice so far. I've had a few creeps who obviously didn't read the post. But I've gotten a lot of very nice, supportive messages. Including yours

 

[JTS4jo]

Hi Ell

Glad you are finding some of the decent people on lit. offer stands if you ever want to chat.

 

[LIVINRFANTASIES]

Never give up. We live on hope and fantasy. This place is like an overflowing outhouse. Once you wade thru the shit you will find greener pastures and friendly members.

 

[EllAyyBee]

Never give up. We live on hope and fantasy. This place is like an overflowing outhouse. Once you wade thru the shit you will find greener pastures and friendly members.

No one told me to bring a pair of waders when I signed up. The shit is deep and wide, but I will prevail! Or fall flat on my face. One or the other.

 

[LIVINRFANTASIES]

No one told me to bring a pair of waders when I signed up. The shit is deep and wide, but I will prevail! Or fall flat on my face. One or the other.

You have the right attitude. If and when you fall hold your breath and swim. Everything exists in one way or another. Keep looking up.

 

[Bookishleigh]

No one told me to bring a pair of waders when I signed up. The shit is deep and wide, but I will prevail! Or fall flat on my face. One or the other.

Peruse the PG threads, check people's post history, etc. You can learn a lot about people by what they post - or don't. The lurkers who have been here for years but have minimal posts - question why.

But what you're looking for does exist - I found it, but that's not what I wanted. Maybe he'll reach out to you now.

 

[EllAyyBee]

Peruse the PG threads, check people's post history, etc. You can learn a lot about people by what they post - or don't. The lurkers who have been here for years but have minimal posts - question why.

But what you're looking for does exist - I found it, but that's not what I wanted. Maybe he'll reach out to you now.

Re: post count, I've been looking at that. I'm also working up the nerve to dive into non-personals threads to get my own count up. But that seems so invasive lol

 

[ArthurW]

Yes lady there are men like this out here a few and far between. Your looking for a friend. The rest may come or not but the friend will last as he wishes you all the best. To find out about you and what your dreams are.

 

[LIVINRFANTASIES]

Peruse the PG threads, check people's post history, etc. You can learn a lot about people by what they post - or don't. The lurkers who have been here for years but have minimal posts - question why.

But what you're looking for does exist - I found it, but that's not what I wanted. Maybe he'll reach out to you now.

At least you are looking. You will never find what you want sitting alone and waiting.
For us we need nothing except this place to share, read, and laugh. We try to ignore the negative posts and even laugh at them.
Though we are not religeous we believe in angels and karma.

 

[LIVINRFANTASIES]

Yes lady there are men like this out here a few and far between. Your looking for a friend. The rest may come or not but the friend will last as he wishes you all the best. To find out about you and what your dreams are.

Hi Arthur. We just left the Gainesville area and know there are good and bad people there, as they are everyplace. Good people attract good people, it's that simple.

 

[EllAyyBee]

At least you are looking. You will never find what you want sitting alone and waiting.
For us we need nothing except this place to share, read, and laugh. We try to ignore the negative posts and even laugh at them.
Though we are not religeous we believe in angels and karma.

I'm immune to the negative posts. It takes a lot of bitterness and anger to be an Internet troll. I just laugh at them and move on. They're not my target audience anyway.

 

[NightOfPassion2]

I'm looking for someone I can become close with on a personal and emotional level. I am married. We have an open marriage, but what I'm looking for isn't exactly physical. I am a long- time sufferer of poor self-image, low self-confidence, and issues with self-worth. My husband doesn't really do much to help with any of that. I need a friend that I can be close with and trust enough to be truly open. I know when I have someone like that in my life, I'm able to bloom.

My ideal friend is someone in the same boat, who isn't looking to meet and hook up. He should be respectful and not rush to talk crude. He is also looking to connect emotionally with someone in order to fill that void. He understands the concept of friends first and strictly platonic and isn't just using this contact as another method of finding a booty call. He is smart, kind, funny, and patient.

Here's hoping.

A zillion miles from home and I hope your find what I think many are here for. To quote a line from a movie that I applied to a guy "Hes a prince that thinks he's a frog". That person thats sees the prince or princess in us...makes the days and nights so much easier.

Heres to hope!

 

[Bookishleigh]

At least you are looking. You will never find what you want sitting alone and waiting.
For us we need nothing except this place to share, read, and laugh. We try to ignore the negative posts and even laugh at them.
Though we are not religeous we believe in angels and karma.

Oh, no...I am not looking. I have all that I need. Just wanted to offer some advice to the OP.

 

[ArthurW]

Hi Arthur. We just left the Gainesville area and know there are good and bad people there, as they are everyplace. Good people attract good people, it's that simple.

Yes there are LIVINRFANTASIES. Where abouts were you at around here? Right now we are having a lot of accidents with the out of town traffic of the new students at Santa Fe and University of Florida.