Waiting Patiently...

[LostBabygirl3489]

I used to think I was full of emptiness...but I was wrong. I'm full of love and affection...I just haven't found the right person yet. The good thing is that I'm patient...and I know that I won't find him/her if I avidly search. I've been pretty quiet lately, reflecting on the past, and I've been thinking about how unlucky I've been with my past relationships. But I won't close my heart...I'll just be more careful. I'm not perfect but I'm very kind and sweet...people like me get taken advantage of, but maybe one day I will find someone gentle like myself.

I love this quote by D.H. Lawrence because it's exactly how I feel: One must learn to love, and go through a good deal of suffering to get to it... and the journey is always towards the other soul.

xx

 

[tallman3333]

I used to think I was full of emptiness...but I was wrong. I'm full of love and affection...I just haven't found the right person yet. The good thing is that I'm patient...and I know that I won't find him/her if I avidly search. I've been pretty quiet lately, reflecting on the past, and I've been thinking about how unlucky I've been with my past relationships. But I won't close my heart...I'll just be more careful. I'm not perfect but I'm very kind and sweet...people like me get taken advantage of, but maybe one day I will find someone gentle like myself.

I love this quote by D.H. Lawrence because it's exactly how I feel: One must learn to love, and go through a good deal of suffering to get to it... and the journey is always towards the other soul.

xx

I don't know why you have been unable to find your right person. You are stunning! So pretty, and I love your short hair.

I'm an older man, old enough to be your father. And sadly I'm about 3000 miles away from you, otherwise, I would be very interested in meeting you (provided you would enjoy the company of a distinguished older man).

I hope you have a good time tonight!

 

[cliteatingman]

Beautiful!!!

I used to think I was full of emptiness...but I was wrong. I'm full of love and affection...I just haven't found the right person yet. The good thing is that I'm patient...and I know that I won't find him/her if I avidly search. I've been pretty quiet lately, reflecting on the past, and I've been thinking about how unlucky I've been with my past relationships. But I won't close my heart...I'll just be more careful. I'm not perfect but I'm very kind and sweet...people like me get taken advantage of, but maybe one day I will find someone gentle like myself.

I love this quote by D.H. Lawrence because it's exactly how I feel: One must learn to love, and go through a good deal of suffering to get to it... and the journey is always towards the other soul.

xx

 

[ArthurW]

Read what you wrote but I think your in the wrong section. Most of them here ask for something and it's not love. Sorry to say. You take your time. Here you get rid of frustrations. What ever they may be. I wish you luck on your quest.

 

[MrGoatee]

The people you like come from the most unexpected places xx

 

[ssremember129]

I used to think I was full of emptiness...but I was wrong. I'm full of love and affection...I just haven't found the right person yet. The good thing is that I'm patient...and I know that I won't find him/her if I avidly search. I've been pretty quiet lately, reflecting on the past, and I've been thinking about how unlucky I've been with my past relationships. But I won't close my heart...I'll just be more careful. I'm not perfect but I'm very kind and sweet...people like me get taken advantage of, but maybe one day I will find someone gentle like myself.

I love this quote by D.H. Lawrence because it's exactly how I feel: One must learn to love, and go through a good deal of suffering to get to it... and the journey is always towards the other soul.

xx

Don't be in a rush to find someone or hold everyone up to a standard. You might find in your haste you "found" the wrong person and in the desire to "measure up" you may be using an inaccurate or incorrect ruler. Best of success.

True love and lasting happiness seems for me to involve old souls seeking each other along a journey that at never predictable ...

 

[xPassionx]

I used to think I was full of emptiness...but I was wrong. I'm full of love and affection...I just haven't found the right person yet. The good thing is that I'm patient...and I know that I won't find him/her if I avidly search. I've been pretty quiet lately, reflecting on the past, and I've been thinking about how unlucky I've been with my past relationships. But I won't close my heart...I'll just be more careful. I'm not perfect but I'm very kind and sweet...people like me get taken advantage of, but maybe one day I will find someone gentle like myself.

I love this quote by D.H. Lawrence because it's exactly how I feel: One must learn to love, and go through a good deal of suffering to get to it... and the journey is always towards the other soul.

xx

The big question is: WHERE are you searching and in what FORM of love you're looking for?

Regardless, I think there are many people in this community who would be your friend. I'm them.

 

[xPassionx]

I'm trying to start a community support system on lit. A safe haven for people to talk about personal troubles or stresses. If anyone or if anyone you think may benefit from this, please spread the word. Anyone's welcome as long as you agree to respect others. Thank you.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?p=79508820#post79508820

 

[refreshingbore]

Maybe don't sentimentalize/idealize relationships so much. When you meet someone, talk to them like they are another person, the same as you are with all of your flaws/boring stretches/awesome parts. Don't attempt to make relationships or people into some unattainable kewpie doll.

In other words, get over yourself? This site, if it's nothing else, is testimony to the fact of the frailty and tediousness of intimate human relationships. If you find your magic partner it can be sure that they will always disappoint you. (This is not a bad thing necessarily at all -- in fact it's likely good... but you have to be willing to go into the darkness as it were...)

Sorry if it sounds like I am picking on you -- that's not my intention. I do in fact believe that souls search each other out in some sense, but I think that particular D.H. Lawrence quote is a very glib way of putting it . Part of what we have to deal with as psychologically mature adults is that we may be drawn, under the canopy of Cupid's arrows, towards those who will, instead of instantly drawing us towards wholeness, rather collapse us into our own wounds, however unconsciously or unwittingly on our suitors' or would-be beloved's parts.

 

[LostBabygirl3489]

Maybe don't sentimentalize/idealize relationships so much. When you meet someone, talk to them like they are another person, the same as you are with all of your flaws/boring stretches/awesome parts. Don't attempt to make relationships or people into some unattainable kewpie doll.

In other words, get over yourself? This site, if it's nothing else, is testimony to the fact of the frailty and tediousness of intimate human relationships. If you find your magic partner it can be sure that they will always disappoint you. (This is not a bad thing necessarily at all -- in fact it's likely good... but you have to be willing to go into the darkness as it were...)

Sorry if it sounds like I am picking on you -- that's not my intention. I do in fact believe that souls search each other out in some sense, but I think that particular D.H. Lawrence quote is a very glib way of putting it . Part of what we have to deal with as psychologically mature adults is that we may be drawn, under the canopy of Cupid's arrows, towards those who will, instead of instantly drawing us towards wholeness, rather collapse us into our own wounds, however unconsciously or unwittingly on our suitors' or would-be beloved's parts.

Yes, get over myself. Thank you. I wish I could delete myself permanently from this site sometimes.

 

[frombehindyou]

Don't do that... you would be terribly missed....

 

[refreshingbore]

Admittedly, "get over yourself" is maybe an obnoxious way of phrasing things, and to be fair it is something others have said to me before in other contexts and which at the time I balked at. I guess it's kind of like telling someone to grow a thicker skin - there are issues with that on several levels. I mean, being sensitive is a great thing! If only there were more sensitive people in the world. Not to mention that spitting out that sort of unsolicited advice is unlikely to change anyone's perspective, at least in the moment...

The point I was trying to make is, maybe don't have such a precious attitude towards relationships and people? (And to be sure, you are a people!) I would gather that there are probably awesome people on here and shitty people on here and in-between people on here. And as likely as not sometimes all of the above in one person from moment to moment. There is no need to idealize or to dramatize. Just be real.

Leave here if you want, but at least make your own happiness a priority, rather than anything regarding what assholes like me might say!

Yes, get over myself. Thank you. I wish I could delete myself permanently from this site sometimes.

 

[thejabber27]

I used to think I was full of emptiness...but I was wrong. I'm full of love and affection...I just haven't found the right person yet. The good thing is that I'm patient...and I know that I won't find him/her if I avidly search. I've been pretty quiet lately, reflecting on the past, and I've been thinking about how unlucky I've been with my past relationships. But I won't close my heart...I'll just be more careful. I'm not perfect but I'm very kind and sweet...people like me get taken advantage of, but maybe one day I will find someone gentle like myself.

I love this quote by D.H. Lawrence because it's exactly how I feel: One must learn to love, and go through a good deal of suffering to get to it... and the journey is always towards the other soul.

xx

I'm not entirely sure what you're looking for but I feel this poem might help you along your way (it's translated from Chinese): "Let life be beautiful like summer flowers and death like autumn leaves.” ~Tagore.

 

[xPassionx]

I'm assuming that you're saying that since the world isn't going to take pity on someone because of there problems that we should all just pull our selves up by our bootstraps. And for the record, 'Get over yourself' makes you sound like
an asshole. If only we could just snap our fingers and fix everything, but healing and embracing yourself, both the good and the bad takes a lot of time. Maybe even the hardest thing ever for a person with low self-esteem to do. When people are struggling they need support, as in people who are compassionate and can understand why someone is having the problems that they're having, but support them in finding a way to cope with it so that they can take bake there life. When someone's in need and reach out for help, what they need is a leg up, and you're just putting your foot on her head and pushing her back down, whether you realize it or not.

LostBabygirl3489, there are people here that empathize with you and have faith in you. You're not your shortcomings and you're not your symptoms. Never be ashamed to ask for help. You owe it to yourself and no one else to be the best that you can be and love yourself, whether you're in a relationship or not. You have a place on lit and on this Earth.

Admittedly, "get over yourself" is maybe an obnoxious way of phrasing things, and to be fair it is something others have said to me before in other contexts and which at the time I balked at. I guess it's kind of like telling someone to grow a thicker skin - there are issues with that on several levels. I mean, being sensitive is a great thing! If only there were more sensitive people in the world. Not to mention that spitting out that sort of unsolicited advice is unlikely to change anyone's perspective, at least in the moment...

The point I was trying to make is, maybe don't have such a precious attitude towards relationships and people? (And to be sure, you are a people!) I would gather that there are probably awesome people on here and shitty people on here and in-between people on here. And as likely as not sometimes all of the above in one person from moment to moment. There is no need to idealize or to dramatize. Just be real.

Leave here if you want, but at least make your own happiness a priority, rather than anything regarding what assholes like me might say!

 

[refreshingbore]

I'm assuming that you're saying that since the world isn't going to take pity on someone because of there problems that we should all just pull our selves up by our bootstraps. And for the record, 'Get over yourself' makes you sound like
an asshole. If only we could just snap our fingers and fix everything, but healing and embracing yourself, both the good and the bad takes a lot of time. Maybe even the hardest thing ever for a person with low self-esteem to do. When people are struggling they need support, as in people who are compassionate and can understand why someone is having the problems that they're having, but support them in finding a way to cope with it so that they can take bake there life. When someone's in need and reach out for help, what they need is a leg up, and you're just putting your foot on her head and pushing her back down, whether you realize it or not.

I think I made it clear in my second response that such wasn't my intention.

But that aside, I don't think it's healthy or conducive in any way to dramatize one's problems. And if someone is struggling with psychological issues, then an anonymous-ish online discussion board might not be the best place to seek support and healing.

Sometimes people will wallow in their problems and vampirize well-intentioned folks' emotional resources. Including their own!

 

[xPassionx]

Sometimes people will wallow in their problems and vampirize well-intentioned folks' emotional resources. Including their own!

That doesn't mean we shouldn't show that we care or that we should just assume that she's just praying on others kindness or just looking for attention.

 

[refreshingbore]

I could care less. I'm just trying to score points in an argument.

That doesn't mean we shouldn't show that we care or that we should just assume that she's just praying on others kindness or just looking for attention.

 

[xPassionx]

I could care less. I'm just trying to score points in an argument.

You're profile thread says that you're into degrading and humiliating women, so that just goes to show what your intention here was. Do whatever you want. I'm gonna show my support.

 

[refreshingbore]

That's outrageous

Do whatever you want. I'm gonna show my support.

 

[refreshingbore]

Yeah, with consenting women who enjoy that. I'm not into white-knighting people or placing them on a pedestal when they are more than capable of taking care of themselves. Degradation and humiliation is great for the soul! You ought to try it sometime

You're profile thread says that you're into degrading and humiliating women, so that just goes to show what your intention here was. Do whatever you want. I'm gonna show my support.

 

[StainedCollar]

refreshing? hardly
insecure bully-bore, more

 

[refreshingbore]

ouch!

refreshing? hardly
insecure bully-bore, more