Looking for a smart, funny and adventurous young lady for a double D/s experience

[Mindfondler]

Edit: .Please note (as stated later below) that we are seeking someone in a European time zone. Thanks!

Who are we?

Mrs MF and I are a married and kinky M/F couple from the UK. We play regularly together in person as Dom and sub, and we're now keen to team up to "double dominate" another sub online.

Don't be deceived! We're both outwardly polite but inwardly naughty. There's nothing that we'd enjoy more than imposing our wicked whims on a squirming sub. We have a long list to work through!

What are our BDSM roles?

I bring the male dominance in a "Daddy Dom" style: caring and nurturing but firm. Mrs MF is a "switch": she's warm and kind too, but her angelic exterior conceals an inner sadistic streak.

Who are you?

For our preferred dynamic, we're seeking a heterosexual or bisexual girl, aged 18-45 years, with pent-up submissive desires that we can work together to unlock. You'll need to be in a Western European time zone and able to hold conversations in English. You don't need any prior experience of BDSM, but it's fine if you do have it. Oh... and you'll need a light and zany sense of humour to get through the ordeals that we set!

What you get:

• two online friends who will be naughty with you
• online fun to fit around real-life commitments
• a deeper connection, beyond kink, with us

What Mrs MF and I get:

• a willing sub on whom we can inflict our devilish schemes
• online fun to fit around real-life commitments
• a deeper connection, beyond kink, with a new friend

How would it work?

We'd start by having a series of chats to get to know each other, to understand what makes us "tick" and to decide whether to take things any further. Much depends on chemistry! It's possible to have a "platonic" D/s dynamic for our joint online interations, but a sexual edge might be delightful for all of us.

Please understand that online D/s play is difficult! As ever, communication is key. We can use Private Messaging and e-mail for off-line task setting and reporting, but we'll also need to communicate regularly in real time (e.g. Hangouts for instant messaging and voice chats) to keep things alive. We're not expecting camming or regular pictures, but an exchange of (tasteful) photos early on would be nice to build familiarity.

As an example, Mrs MF and I would set you a task to carry out at your own convenience, which would involve you in yielding a measure of control to us. You would be required to complete the task to the best of your abilities and then report back to us on the outcome, including your honest reflections on the feelings that you experienced. We would then use your feedback to calibrate future tasks that stretch you whilst remaining within your limits.

Realistically, there will be "hits" and "misses" during this process. Before we start trying to push your submissive buttons, it's best that we spend time up-front getting to know you, your preferences and your desires. Mrs MF and I are expecting to enjoy that intriguing phase of mutual exploration and the resulting friendship just as much as the kinky play.

If we "click" in the right way, then we can have lots of varied fun together.

What limits would apply?

In our physical BDSM play, Mrs MF and I prefer gentler activities: light bondage and discipline (ropes, cuffs, light flogging), sensation play (e.g. ropes, wax, ice, blindfold), sensual stimulation (e.g. pinwheels, violet wand, tickling). Hard limits for us include blood, scat and breath play.

Similarly, in the mental domain (more applicable to online play), we enjoy teasing, anticipation, edge play and mild embarassment. Hard limits for us include serious humiliation, degradation and fear play. In our play, something is wrong if we're not giggling at regular intervals (I still struggle to hold my "serious Dom" face).

How do I get in touch?

Send me a Private Message! Mrs MF and I will (only) take that as an invitation to have a chat with you about the possibilities. Please include any initial questions that you'd like us to answer for you.

We look forward to any replies!

All the best.

MF (and Mrs MF)
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[Blue]

I haven't met these two personally but I can vouch with no uncertainty that they don't think very highly of the egomaniacal pseudo-doms who lurk underneath the proverbial floorboards, grasping at the ankles of men and women who start to experiment with their submissive side.

If you're one of said 'rookies', they'd be a safe foothold for you to get more personally acquainted with BDSM. Definitely safer than risking it with some faceless goon who "wants to show [you] more of this strange world..."

Mindfondler's stomping ground for research:
http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=955842&page=103

 

[LucyBee01]

MF and Mrs MF are both lovely. I know them in real life and they are both kind, thoughtful people with definite mischievous streaks!

MF, I hope you and Mrs MF find a sub who connects well with you both so you can all have lots of fun exploration

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Mindfondler]

Many thanks to Consilience, LucyBee01 and Gianbattista for those warm and supportive comments — much appreciated!

Just to say that Mrs MF and I are still seeking a compatible female submissive to join us in our play: either online if you're in a similar time zone (UK or Europe) or potentially in person if you're near us in the UK. If you're interested, then please do get in touch!
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[LostBabygirl3489]

You two sound lovely...I don't really do the online play, but if I was in the UK I'd offer myself. I hope you find someone soon.

 

[Mindfondler]

You two sound lovely...I don't really do the online play, but if I was in the UK I'd offer myself. I hope you find someone soon.

Thank you very much for your warm wishes and your kind words. We feel encouraged by them.
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[LonelyLittleRed]

I wish you guys were in the states instead, all the fun seems to radiate from the UK. I'll give ya a BUMP and a wish of good luck!!

 

[Mindfondler]

I'll give ya a BUMP and a wish of good luck!!

Many thanks for those!

I wish you guys were in the states instead, all the fun seems to radiate from the UK.

Mrs MF and I are beginning to wish that as well! The interest in our advert seems to originate from beyond the UK and Europe.

We already have good Lit friends on other continents. They're wonderful — we appreciate them a lot — and that's great apart from the time zone difficulties and the unlikeliness of us ever meeting face-to-face.
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[Mindfondler]

Intriguing! I've been running this advert for nearly three weeks now, but I haven't had any serious bites. On the other hand, Mrs MF has just posted a similar advert on Fetlife (on behalf of both of us, like this one) and has received six messages in three hours.

I'm wondering now whether the difference is:

• Fetlife is a better place for us to search for UK subs
• Personals ads originating from women are intrinsically trusted more than those from men

If it's the second reason, then it's difficult for me not to take that personally, as I've done my best throughout my time on Lit to show myself as open and trustworthy.

Either way, I'm going to call now for any last orders on this advert.
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[AKS]

Intriguing! I've been running this advert for nearly three weeks now, but I haven't had any serious bites. On the other hand, Mrs MF has just posted a similar advert on Fetlife (on behalf of both of us, like this one) and has received six messages in three hours.

I'm wondering now whether the difference is:

• Fetlife is a better place for us to search for UK subs
• Personals ads originating from women are intrinsically trusted more than those from men

If it's the second reason, then it's difficult for me not to take that personally, as I've done my best throughout my time on Lit to show myself as open and trustworthy.

Either way, I'm going to call now for any last orders on this advert.
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I've found even as a female here, responses are lacking. Good luck on your search.

 

[Aphro]

Intriguing! I've been running this advert for nearly three weeks now, but I haven't had any serious bites. On the other hand, Mrs MF has just posted a similar advert on Fetlife (on behalf of both of us, like this one) and has received six messages in three hours.

I'm wondering now whether the difference is:

• Fetlife is a better place for us to search for UK subs
• Personals ads originating from women are intrinsically trusted more than those from men

If it's the second reason, then it's difficult for me not to take that personally, as I've done my best throughout my time on Lit to show myself as open and trustworthy.

Either way, I'm going to call now for any last orders on this advert.
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Don't take it personally, MF.

Remember, the woman you both seek is likely going to have a strong bisexual interest, in order to desire such a union as you propose. Therefore, it makes a great deal of sense that a bisexual sub woman would gravitate to an advertisement written by a Domme. Also, it proves to the women that Mrs. MF is, in fact, on board with this, and it is not just you, the male Dom, trying to wheedle his way into a threesome that his wife is reluctant to have.

You always come across as very honest and open in your writing, from what I have read. I believe Mrs. MF had greater response because of the reasons I mentioned.

Best of luck to you both!

 

[Mindfondler]

Don't take it personally, MF.

Remember, the woman you both seek is likely going to have a strong bisexual interest, in order to desire such a union as you propose. Therefore, it makes a great deal of sense that a bisexual sub woman would gravitate to an advertisement written by a Domme. Also, it proves to the women that Mrs. MF is, in fact, on board with this, and it is not just you, the male Dom, trying to wheedle his way into a threesome that his wife is reluctant to have.

You always come across as very honest and open in your writing, from what I have read. I believe Mrs. MF had greater response because of the reasons I mentioned.

Best of luck to you both!

Thanks for your good wishes. I take your point about Mrs MF's posting providing proof to women that she is on board. In an ideal world, I'd expect this to operate symmetrically (i.e. what about proof that *I'm* on board when she places the advert?) but I guess that's not realistic. In the end, I'll take the pragmatic line and go with whatever works.

I've found even as a female here, responses are lacking. Good luck on your search.

Thanks for that reassurance (although commiserations with your own similar lack of responses) and for your good wishes.

It seems that the Literotica forum is too broadly drawn to be a productive arena for more specialised personals adverts such as ours. Mrs MF and I have already had much greater success in getting replies to similar adverts on Fetlife — and that's within hours rather than weeks. Also, we haven't so far had any of the kneejerk "one hand typist" responses that we feared, which therefore appear to be more prevalent on Lit. *shrugs*

Note: Mrs MF and I are still open to expressions of interest!
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