Husband only wants to know about it...

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New here and first time post. Not long ago my husband and I started sharing some fantasies. I confessed I had thought about sex with multiple men. Him and somebody else.

Since then he's mentioned he likes the idea and would be ok with it. In fact, it's a major turn on for him. Although, he doesn't want to watch or be a part of it. He only wants me to come home to him and tell him about it.

Is that a common thing?
 
Depends who you talk to.

Not really though.

And of course, since it started as sharing fantasies, you could come home some night AS IF you'd just been dp'd by two virile and insatiable guys who picked you up at a bar and screwed your brains out. Tell him ALL ABOUT IT and see if he still likes the idea.
 
Common? In the general population, no. Even among the Lit horndawgs, most want to watch. I'm with your hubby, though. That makes two.
 
New here and first time post. Not long ago my husband and I started sharing some fantasies. I confessed I had thought about sex with multiple men. Him and somebody else.

Since then he's mentioned he likes the idea and would be ok with it. In fact, it's a major turn on for him. Although, he doesn't want to watch or be a part of it. He only wants me to come home to him and tell him about it.

Is that a common thing?

You will hear plenty of suggestions and explanations by our own experiences and stories. It is a complex subject, but if all cards are played in the right order, this maybe the beginning of different lifestyle...swinging comes to mind...but only and only if you both trust and love each other this can happened....Good luck and hopefully this will be win/win for both of you....
xx
Valdo
 
New here and first time post. Not long ago my husband and I started sharing some fantasies. I confessed I had thought about sex with multiple men. Him and somebody else.

Since then he's mentioned he likes the idea and would be ok with it. In fact, it's a major turn on for him. Although, he doesn't want to watch or be a part of it. He only wants me to come home to him and tell him about it.

Is that a common thing?

is it common thing...: NO. Like every relationship, especially marriage, communication is key. You may come home with cum stuck to your body or dripping from your pussy. Already to tell him, and he hits the ceiling... He thought this was just 'Fantasy'
I would make absolute certain...this is the door he wants to go through...
 
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is it common thing...: NO. Like every relationship, especially marriage, communication is key. You may come home with cum stuck to your body or dripping from your pussy. Already to tell him, and he hits the ceiling... He thought this was just 'Fantasy'
I would make absolute certain...this is the door he wants to go through...

I'm with Klippert, be absolutely certain before proceeding
 
"I'm with Klippert, be absolutely certain before proceeding"

Toothpaste is tough to put back in the tube.
 
is it common thing...: NO. Like every relationship, especially marriage, communication is key. You may come home with cum stuck to your body or dripping from your pussy. Already to tell him, and he hits the ceiling... He thought this was just 'Fantasy'
I would make absolute certain...this is the door he wants to go through...

I'll agree with this as well. Be sure your husband knows what's going to happen with another man before you leave the house.
 
He only wants me to come home to him and tell him about it.

Is that a common thing?

Probably not. Probably no more common than the husband who, on being told about it, hands over the divorce papers, sighing 'got rid of her at last'.
 
Probably not common as others have said...but I'm with him. If my wife and I ever move from fantasy to reality, I'd prefer to hear about it after the fact. If it happens I'll probably be with her because that is how she'd be more comfortable.
 
I for one likes to hear about it...the whole thing, her going out, waiting for her to return horny the whole time. Finally hearing her walk into the door...Listening to her, smelling her, tasting her...
 
Depends who you talk to.

Not really though.

And of course, since it started as sharing fantasies, you could come home some night AS IF you'd just been dp'd by two virile and insatiable guys who picked you up at a bar and screwed your brains out. Tell him ALL ABOUT IT and see if he still likes the idea.
That is a phenomenal idea.
 
I agree with everyone else here. Proceed with caution and be certain this is something you both want. Test things a bit perhaps by pretending to have anonymous sex and tell him a story based on that. If that turns him on, you'll confirm your understandings. If not, you can confess that it's a story and keep it on the fantasy level. You could even take it a step further by going out to a bar and mutually choosing someone to fantasy fuck. Best of luck to you and keep us posted!
 
New here and first time post. Not long ago my husband and I started sharing some fantasies. I confessed I had thought about sex with multiple men. Him and somebody else.

Since then he's mentioned he likes the idea and would be ok with it. In fact, it's a major turn on for him. Although, he doesn't want to watch or be a part of it. He only wants me to come home to him and tell him about it.

Is that a common thing?

My wife has only played a very little bit. She absolutely refuses to be watched and we settled on me waiting. I have to tell you it has been extraordinarily exciting...remember that our minds are our biggest sexual organs.

Combining anticipation, anxiety, desire, etc. in equal parts waiting at home, and then when she comes home and teasingly reveals details over several hours...WOW!
 
My wife has only played a very little bit. She absolutely refuses to be watched and we settled on me waiting. I have to tell you it has been extraordinarily exciting...remember that our minds are our biggest sexual organs.

Combining anticipation, anxiety, desire, etc. in equal parts waiting at home, and then when she comes home and teasingly reveals details over several hours...WOW!

The next time my wife has sex with another man she'll be doing it with my full blessing. I want to watch her get fucked. But I understand that her comfort level just isn't going to be there for that first while to allow my presence when she gets naked with him. As you said, our brains are the biggest sex organ we have. The whole night I'll be crawling the walls. I'm sooooo looking forward to it.
 
i think its a small minority ,

most of the married couples ive been with the guy wants to join in or at least watch
 
Here's a baby step for you to try...have some form of cyber sex with another guy. We came to Lit to indulge my fantasy of people seeing my wife in lieu of her actually being with a guy like I truly want. She had fun and talked to some guys. This progressed to her and I having sex while she chats on Kik with the guy. This was a good way to see how we each felt about it. Next, she took the step of having Kik sex with a guy, as well as a woman, where she talked about a threesome, but I wasn't there. She enjoyed it. Then she moved to flat out Kik sex with a guy where I wasn't even mentioned. She said she felt guilty afterwards, but enjoyed the experience. We don't know if we'll ever go as far as her being with someone else in real life, but I'm comfortable with the k owl edge that I'll be fine with it if it ever happens.
 
I am a husband who doesn't want to watch in real time, but I want to hear all about it. Pics or videos would be great.
 
Seems strange to me but everyone like something different. If my SO was getting it on with other guys, I would definitely want to watch (or participate). I admit, I wouldn't mind hearing about it from her, but not if I knew it was going on. I could see it leading to some very hot love making.
 
You will hear plenty of suggestions and explanations by our own experiences and stories. It is a complex subject, but if all cards are played in the right order, this maybe the beginning of different lifestyle...swinging comes to mind...but only and only if you both trust and love each other this can happened....Good luck and hopefully this will be win/win for both of you....
xx
Valdo

Thank you for the advice. I don't want to move too fast om this as it is all new. Enjoying all the advice and point of view of others.
 
Seems strange to me but everyone like something different. If my SO was getting it on with other guys, I would definitely want to watch (or participate). I admit, I wouldn't mind hearing about it from her, but not if I knew it was going on. I could see it leading to some very hot love making.

I think I would prefer him not to be there until we decided we wanted to go further. I think I might feel nervous with him there.
 
Here's a baby step for you to try...have some form of cyber sex with another guy. We came to Lit to indulge my fantasy of people seeing my wife in lieu of her actually being with a guy like I truly want. She had fun and talked to some guys. This progressed to her and I having sex while she chats on Kik with the guy. This was a good way to see how we each felt about it. Next, she took the step of having Kik sex with a guy, as well as a woman, where she talked about a threesome, but I wasn't there. She enjoyed it. Then she moved to flat out Kik sex with a guy where I wasn't even mentioned. She said she felt guilty afterwards, but enjoyed the experience. We don't know if we'll ever go as far as her being with someone else in real life, but I'm comfortable with the k owl edge that I'll be fine with it if it ever happens.

Thank you. Baby steps sound good to me. Exciting yet not physical yet until we know thats where we are headed.
 
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