So all I can think about is being dominated

[Looking2learn]

For as long as I can remember, I have liked for the woman to take charge in the bedroom. As I have gotten older the more this desire has grown. I was married about 13 years ago and not long into the marriage I had my wife wearing a strap-on, neither of us had ever done anything like this before, but she made me suck her cock and then, I will never forget her saying " I am fucking my husband!" And she was, and we did this for several years on and off. We recently separated but are trying to work things out, not very good, but trying. The problem is, all I can do is think about be a sub to her or any woman for that matter. And I don't know what to do, the more I read and look at personals, the more I want to see a beautiful woman, wearing a strap-on, and telling me how she wants to slide in me and make me hers..... What to do?

 

[MeekMe]

I'm unclear on what the problem is. You have an ex that you're working on getting back together with and you keep thinking about either her or "any woman" pegging you.

In all honesty, if any woman would do, why work it out with your ex when you say that isn't going well?

 

[cookiecat]

Are you confusing submission with getting fucked in the ass? Or is there an element of wanting to be "forced" to take it, suck it.

Separate the two issues. Get back together with your ex because you dig her, not because she's the only woman who ever put on a strap on and fucked you.

Don't think with your cock. Or your asshole or whatever. I've had lust cloud my good judgement.

Good luck.

 

[Kantarii]

Are you repressing some deeper thoughts such as wanting to explore submission with another man and take a real cock in your ass? Most women aren't dominant by nature, just as most men aren't submissive by nature. Sure there are things that are intriguing going against what nature intended. That's why we have the term "fantasy".

 

[SpunThings]

Are you repressing some deeper thoughts such as wanting to explore submission with another man and take a real cock in your ass? Most women aren't dominant by nature, just as most men aren't submissive by nature. Sure there are things that are intriguing going against what nature intended. That's why we have the term "fantasy".

How do you know this?

 

[_Necrosomantic_]

Is your lust worth not fixing your relationship?

I'm not judging, but seriously asking.

Either don't let your desires overcome your loving her enough to try working things out, or come to terms with your relationship being over, bury it as best you can, and move on. Running out and doing something on impulse without first setting things straight isn't going to help you, but neither is putting bandages on something that bled out long ago.

You need to decide friend. Then you can worry about finding someone else to scratch your particular itch.

 

[policywank]

I don't quite know what you mean by "the problem is.....".

In terms of roles and sexual preferences, it sounds like you know what you want. That is more than a lot of people can say and there is nothing you can do change those urges even if you wanted to. Take that clarity and build on it.

As others have said, seek productive closure one way or another with your ex. If that relationship can endure then that is great. Use this opportunity to communicate and be honest.

If not, you are back on the market with a clear understanding of what you want. Maybe it will be a challenge to find a woman who wants to dominate you. Or maybe it won't. Either way denial is pointless.

 

[cookiecat]

My guess is the OP isn't coming back. Maybe a wank post?

I hope he does, I always like to hear how things work out.

 

[twister947]

My guess is the OP isn't coming back. Maybe a wank post?

I hope he does, I always like to hear how things work out.

Wanking is good.

 

[cookiecat]

Wanking is good.

Super good!

I think it's the nature of the beast that we reply with all these thoughtful suggestions and the OP never comes back. Happens a lot.

There needs to be a wank button. "I'm posting this just to get off! Don't bother putting time in to a reply!!"