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LostBabygirl3489

LostBabygirl3489

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So today I realized that I'm being too idealistic with the person that I would like to have...I always complain that people, especially men, have their ideals set too high in what they want with a partner but I am at fault, too. So I'm a huge hypocrite. I write all these stories of men and women who are dominant yet gentle and sweet and I wonder to myself if I will ever find someone like that...am I ready for that sort of relationship? I say no but is anyone ever ready for anything? And the people that I do end up connecting with, especially men, are always married or in a relationship. And I'm sorry but I don't want to be someone's dirty little secret. I'm sorry for all the posts...I guess I have a lot on my mind lately.
 
Maybe it isnt your time at the moment.
The relationship will find you when the time is right
 
LostBabygirl3489 said:
So today I realized that I'm being too idealistic with the person that I would like to have...I always complain that people, especially men, have their ideals set too high in what they want with a partner but I am at fault, too. So I'm a huge hypocrite. I write all these stories of men and women who are dominant yet gentle and sweet and I wonder to myself if I will ever find someone like that...am I ready for that sort of relationship? I say no but is anyone ever ready for anything? And the people that I do end up connecting with, especially men, are always married or in a relationship. And I'm sorry but I don't want to be someone's dirty little secret. I'm sorry for all the posts...I guess I have a lot on my mind lately.
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No, you are not being either unrealistic or over realistic. You are "chazing rainbows", espacially online. You can & will meet someone you deserve and/or deserves you. You nees to stop putting yourself down. There are too many negative people in the world that will take advantge of that. You are a beautiful, sexy, witty, smart, funny young woman. That is the most important thing to remember.... BIG, HUGS, KISSES TO YOU!!!!!!
 
LostBabygirl3489 said:
So today I realized that I'm being too idealistic with the person that I would like to have...I always complain that people, especially men, have their ideals set too high in what they want with a partner but I am at fault, too. So I'm a huge hypocrite. I write all these stories of men and women who are dominant yet gentle and sweet and I wonder to myself if I will ever find someone like that...am I ready for that sort of relationship? I say no but is anyone ever ready for anything? And the people that I do end up connecting with, especially men, are always married or in a relationship. And I'm sorry but I don't want to be someone's dirty little secret. I'm sorry for all the posts...I guess I have a lot on my mind lately.
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I hope you do find that person you are looking for, as previously said everyone has eyes for a certain person and there is nothing wrong with that.
 
Fate is the dice i roll.. I found that when i was putting myself out there and letting it be known what my preferences were, i met some really fun people but some real deceivers, who'd pretend to be something they weren't. Time soon wore thin on the act and true colours shone through..
As i meander through life now, doing what i enjoy when i can, some people stand out and become worth pursuing.
I hope you find what it is that you seek.
 
Every one of us are hypocrites is one way or another. It's human nature for us to contradict ourselves.
The search can sometimes feel unending, however when the time is right, a relationship will find you as opposed to the other way around.
I suggest you enjoy the single life for what is has to offer.:D

P.S. Not all married men are looking to cheat, we sometimes just like to look.:cool:
 
LostBabygirl3489 said:
So today I realized that I'm being too idealistic with the person that I would like to have...I always complain that people, especially men, have their ideals set too high in what they want with a partner but I am at fault, too. So I'm a huge hypocrite. I write all these stories of men and women who are dominant yet gentle and sweet and I wonder to myself if I will ever find someone like that...am I ready for that sort of relationship? I say no but is anyone ever ready for anything? And the people that I do end up connecting with, especially men, are always married or in a relationship. And I'm sorry but I don't want to be someone's dirty little secret. I'm sorry for all the posts...I guess I have a lot on my mind lately.
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Hang in there... We're all looking and waiting for someone.
 
No you aim for the top then slowly learn what may be off. But just keep your ideals high in what you want in a man lady.
 
LostBabygirl3489 said:
So today I realized that I'm being too idealistic with the person that I would like to have...I always complain that people, especially men, have their ideals set too high in what they want with a partner but I am at fault, too. So I'm a huge hypocrite. I write all these stories of men and women who are dominant yet gentle and sweet and I wonder to myself if I will ever find someone like that...am I ready for that sort of relationship? I say no but is anyone ever ready for anything? And the people that I do end up connecting with, especially men, are always married or in a relationship. And I'm sorry but I don't want to be someone's dirty little secret. I'm sorry for all the posts...I guess I have a lot on my mind lately.
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You shouldn't be someone's secret side piece. You deserve better than that.

And yeah, there are dominant men who are kinky but sweet. Honest, we're out there.
 
Thank you everyone for your kind comments. I guess I feel like I don't have a chance. Online, people see me as hot and attractive but in reality I have a tummy that is the last thing to be going, apparently. My breasts have gotten much smaller, even my fingers and feet have gotten smaller. There are so many women out there that are so fit and sexier and I can't compete with that. I can't tell you all the times people have met me in person and have been disappointed. So I don't really see anything happening.
 
LostBabygirl3489 said:
Thank you everyone for your kind comments. I guess I feel like I don't have a chance. Online, people see me as hot and attractive but in reality I have a tummy that is the last thing to be going, apparently. My breasts have gotten much smaller, even my fingers and feet have gotten smaller. There are so many women out there that are so fit and sexier and I can't compete with that. I can't tell you all the times people have met me in person and have been disappointed. So I don't really see anything happening.
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Your writing is soooo hot and sexy! Few women can compete with that! If you are half as good at giving head as you are at writing about it, you're amazing! Not many women can compete with that!
 
cliteatingman said:
Your writing is soooo hot and sexy! Few women can compete with that! If you are half as good at giving head as you are at writing about it, you're amazing! Not many women can compete with that!
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Okay you have a good point....and yes my fiction reflects reality. :)

Thank you dear.
 
Unfortunately, Literotica is a sea of married men or attached men who aren't getting what they want in real life. Don't feel bad...you'll find someone when it's the right time.
 
Hmm.. "too idealistic"? No, but perhaps a trifle impractical. So, you're a hypocrite. You aren't perfect, you don't have perfect reason and rationale. Oh well. Lucky thing you're human.

To strive for what is ideal is exemplary, but to expect that life to be idyllic isn't rational. Why don't you find a good person first, Someone who cares for you. Someone who thinks of themself a little less than they think of you. Then try to get the kinks to align. Or, try to find someone that will try to fulfill your kinks as much as you try to fulfill theirs.

THAT'S called a relationship. That's someone who's worth having around for a lifetime.

Kudos for not wanting to be someone's dirty little secret.

Edit: I gotta remember to take out the arrow out of my avatar. Anytime I quote someone, it looks like I'm pointing it at them
 
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'Compete'....... Hmmm you know that the purpose of competing is to go up against others for prizes... Some people would want the $4000 dress, others would rather the contents of the dress and maybe even the mind,heart and soul of those contents... In matters of pure heart and soul we are all naked and equal,regardless of form, therefore whats important is finding the ying to your yang, the peas to your carrots and just as there are rainbows: there is someone,somewhere.. Competing for that is to have lost before you have begun.... Be yourself and love yourself and others will love you for whatever you are.
Now im off to take my own hypocritical advice:D
 
I know it is easier to say than to do but you have to quit comparing yourself to others. We are all individuals and can only strive to be the best that we can be, for ourselves.

There isn't 1 person on this site or any other for that matter, that can say without a shadow of a doubt that they are 100% content with who they are. If they do, then they are lying.

Here is how I look at it. As there is no one else paying my bill's or living my life, I don't care what they think:D

Chin up, chest out and back straight.
 
pmichael said:
I know it is easier to say than to do but you have to quit comparing yourself to others. We are all individuals and can only strive to be the best that we can be, for ourselves.

There isn't 1 person on this site or any other for that matter, that can say without a shadow of a doubt that they are 100% content with who they are. If they do, then they are lying.

Here is how I look at it. As there is no one else paying my bill's or living my life, I don't care what they think:D

Chin up, chest out and back straight.
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I'll try...maybe one day I'll achieve it.
 
Well thank you everyone for the constructive criticism. Obviously I have issues, I know we all do, but like I said before I've never felt comfortable in my skin and I have to silence the voices from the past, all those people that told me I'm ugly and stupid to my face. Those things never stop haunting you, but you can heal from them. You can't just wake up one day and have 100% confidence. It doesn't work that way. It will take me a long time but I know I can.
 
LostBabygirl3489 said:
Well thank you everyone for the constructive criticism. Obviously I have issues, I know we all do, but like I said before I've never felt comfortable in my skin and I have to silence the voices from the past, all those people that told me I'm ugly and stupid to my face. Those things never stop haunting you, but you can heal from them. You can't just wake up one day and have 100% confidence. It doesn't work that way. It will take me a long time but I know I can.
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Well, that is a good start!:rose:
 
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