What are your rules for a married MMF Threesome?

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what are the dos and donts of a MMF 3some? Anyone can answer,but Im more interested in the straight husbands perspective.
 
what are the dos and donts of a MMF 3some? Anyone can answer,but Im more interested in the straight husbands perspective.
How do you have an MMF if either of the males is "straight". In a MMF one of the males is fucking the other while he is fucking the female. If both males are fucking the female that is MFM.
 
How do you have an MMF if either of the males is "straight". In a MMF one of the males is fucking the other while he is fucking the female. If both males are fucking the female that is MFM.

Ok, then thats what I mean
 
I've been lucky enough to play with a number of couples in recent years, playing the part of the second male. Not so much rules, but things I look for are:

1. I like hubby to be orally bi at least. That opens up more possibilities and means we'll be relaxed in close quarter situations.

2. I like the wife to be responsive to man-on-man interaction. It's a big turn-on to see her relaxing after a good fuck, playing with herself with or without a toy while enjoying the spectacle of her hubby having sex with me.

3. The couple to have had previous experience of MMF play. I only play with mature couples, late-40's and older generally, which usually means they've been around the block a few times.

4. I accept couples often want to keep something back just for the two of them - in my experience this is often anal sex, which is reserved for hubby only. However I do like to share a degree of intimacy and if a couple refuse to let the wife snog with me then that's a no-no for meeting. I always check when we're planning a meet for the first time. During the meet itself it always works better if the couple make me feel like I virtually have equal status with hubby - purely for the purposes of sex. If they are too close and all over each other then I feel less comfortable.
 
Our rules are pretty simple.

If anyone is uncomfortable we stop.

No guy-on-guy action, incidental contact is OK.

Condoms are required.
 
I've been lucky enough to play with a number of couples in recent years, playing the part of the second male. Not so much rules, but things I look for are:

1. I like hubby to be orally bi at least. That opens up more possibilities and means we'll be relaxed in close quarter situations.

2. I like the wife to be responsive to man-on-man interaction. It's a big turn-on to see her relaxing after a good fuck, playing with herself with or without a toy while enjoying the spectacle of her hubby having sex with me.

3. The couple to have had previous experience of MMF play. I only play with mature couples, late-40's and older generally, which usually means they've been around the block a few times.

4. I accept couples often want to keep something back just for the two of them - in my experience this is often anal sex, which is reserved for hubby only. However I do like to share a degree of intimacy and if a couple refuse to let the wife snog with me then that's a no-no for meeting. I always check when we're planning a meet for the first time. During the meet itself it always works better if the couple make me feel like I virtually have equal status with hubby - purely for the purposes of sex. If they are too close and all over each other then I feel less comfortable.

Your rules kind of follow with ours. We're older (well, I am), so someone age appropriate but with my wife being 15 years younger, our age is 30 or so up to and even older than I am. We don't kiss others, and my wife doesn't do anything back door except rimming, so back door play for her is also reserved for me. Other than that, as above if we're al having fun pretty much anything else goes. We also look for compatibility, discretion and cleanliness are tops too. Not fond of it being a secret from the third's wife or partner. We are pretty picky, but if our list can be checked off in more places than not, we'll pursue playing. We only do MMF also.
 
Rule Number One:

I'm the boss and set the rules.

Rule Number Two:

When in doubt, refer to Rule Number One. :devil:

Oh, and it's always with another man and his wife.....I am estranged from my own.
 
My wife would never want this and so be it. If I were free to be the other man for some other couple, I would approach the opportunity thus:

This is primarily about the woman experiencing a whole other level of arousal and pleasure and that is the 'end' I would be servicing; my pleasure and the husband's pleasure would be in our together achieving her extreme pleasure.

At all stages I would be subject to her and their invitation and or refusal without question and within boundaries that had previously been agreed, while hoping to have opportunity to be imaginative in initiating things as any good stud does.

But ... for me this is a fantasy which I enjoy exploring and leaving in fantasy-land.
 
Take the time to understand us and what we want - we are real people, not porn stereotypes.

I am in charge. We know what is right for us and we have the most to lose in relationship terms. I won't tolerate a 3rd person imposing their approach......other than as role play and after getting to know us well.

Cleanliness

Discretion

Attitude - this needs to be consensual and respectful (even the kinky parts)

No homophobia - that means not just tolerating but accepting
 
I don't think that my wife would ever entertain having another man or woman with us. Ever.

That said I do fantasize about it. Not so much having sex with the guy, I'm pretty straight, but the fantasy is for me to be on the bottom with the woman on top in a 69 on top with the other guy fucking her right above my face. Maybe while I lick her clit. I'm sure that I would get a little cock in the process and likely some cum. If he pulled out and stuck it into my mouth I would gladly do cleanup.
 
No homophobia - that means not just tolerating but accepting

Since this seems to be a thread in which precise definitions matter, it may be worth pointing out that the meaning of 'homophobia' according to my dictionary, is 'a fear or hatred of homosexual people'. According to your definition of the word, anyone who is straight is homophobic, which is both nonsense and insulting. If someone does not want to have sex with a person of the same sex that does not make them homophobic. I prefer not to drink alcohol; that does not mean that I hate everyone who does.

What you mean is that you want someone who is actively bi.
 
what are the dos and donts of a MMF 3some? Anyone can answer,but Im more interested in the straight husbands perspective.

I found the rules are pretty much the same no matter which 3-way you are doing.

In the end, I found the rules are based on what is the couple's preference. For instance I heard more times than not the butt is only for the hubby, but the G-BANG I setup I had the guys only do it in her behind. I said her mouth and pussy is mine.

Then there was the 3-way I was in which was FF and the girl broke up with me a few days later for I started to make out with her friend after the sex. I didn't see the issue since we all did the nasty.

Then there was the MMF I was in. Rule: no crossing swords and try to avoid looking down.
 
Since this seems to be a thread in which precise definitions matter, it may be worth pointing out that the meaning of 'homophobia' according to my dictionary, is 'a fear or hatred of homosexual people'. According to your definition of the word, anyone who is straight is homophobic, which is both nonsense and insulting. If someone does not want to have sex with a person of the same sex that does not make them homophobic. I prefer not to drink alcohol; that does not mean that I hate everyone who does.

What you mean is that you want someone who is actively bi.


No that is not what I mean.

My husband is bi-sexual. I suppose I could have said bi-sexual phobic but I think it is reasonable to say that most men who are homophobic will have an equally negative view of a bi-sexual man. If a man feels this way he is not a good fit for a MMF encounter with us.

If he is not interested in sexual interaction with my husband that is just fine and we would not assume him to be homophobic. I only require that he deal with that interaction respectfully and not pass judgment.

I offered no definition of homophobic nor did I state or imply that a man who doesn't want to have sex with my husband is homophobic. I used the word accepting as in accepting my husband's sexuality without judging not as in accepting his dick in your ass.
 
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Our rules are simple everyone is comfortable, everyone enjoys themselves and cleanliness and respect are a must. If one partner isn't happy wth something then it stops. There's no point in continuing if one of the three is not happy with something, you can feel the vibe straight away and it taints the situation. That being said if you're open and honest with the third person from the start then everyone knows what they want and what they're comfortable with, by the time anything sexual happens everyone knows their limits and a good time is had by all. It really is a matter of good communication in the end
 
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