Dating

[HayleyLuvsSex]

Can't sleep so here's a dating question to PM me about:

On a first date, who pays? Should the man pay? Should the woman pay? Should it be split 50/50? Should the person who asks pay? It seems to be a interesting topic with lots of heated argument from some people. Personally , I think it should be split 50/50. What are your thoughts?

 

[SexyguynSeattle]

I guess I am old fashioned because I would pay unless it seemed to bother the person I was with. If so then split it.

 

[kismet999]

The person that initiated the date should pick up the check. Diplomacy can ensue.

 

[shewantsmore]

Think on first date he should pay but if theres a follow up dates should be 50/50

 

[LWulf]

I've always felt that women feel like there is something expected of them if you pay for the first or any date.

I just say "I can get this if you don't mind..." I like to be traditional, but handle it from a casual perspective.

Now you didn't ask this, but if I go hang with some friends, then it's usually 50/50 unless one of us invites the other to go to someplace. Then the invitee has the onus on them.

edit: when I say 50/50 it means pay your own way. rarely is it ever fair to 50/50 split. Invariably someone buys quail eggs while I got a simple Grand Slam with senior coffee.

 

[AussieAussieOiOi]

I'd say 50/50.

However, in my experience, I've always paid for the girl. Had a few act not so nice after doing so but didn't stop me doing it.

 

[geronimo_appleby]

I'd say 50/50.

However, in my experience, I've always paid for the girl. Had a few act not so nice after doing so but didn't stop me doing it.

hey, if you've paid for her, she should act nice. unless you want it humiliation style.

 

[PetRoto]

In my opinion the person who should pay is the person who asked the other out.

 

[AussieAussieOiOi]

hey, if you've paid for her, she should act nice. unless you want it humiliation style.

I still paid because I knew it would make her simmer inside, and shout PATRIARCHY at me. She didn't though, but she was fuming at the fact I paid. I bet if I offered to 50/50 it she would have still gotten mad

 

[monanympho]

Whoever asked for the date should pay.

 

[PetRoto]

I'd say 50/50.

However, in my experience, I've always paid for the girl. Had a few act not so nice after doing so but didn't stop me doing it.

I don't get that. Why would someone get mad if you paid for them?

 

[HayleyLuvsSex]

I don't get that. Why would someone get mad if you paid for them?

I don't get it either.

 

[AussieAussieOiOi]

I don't get it either.

Ditto..

I honestly have no idea, kinda bugs me too be honest. If someone said to me "oh I'll pay for dinner". I wouldn't bat an eye, I'm all for it lol.

 

[Britishguy1]

If you get all dressed up, take a women to a nice place for dinner and then ask to go dutch....Wouldn't that make you look a bit cheap?

 

[HayleyLuvsSex]

If you get all dressed up, take a women to a nice place for dinner and then ask to go dutch....Wouldn't that make you look a bit cheap?

No, I don't think so.

 

[geronimo_appleby]

If you get all dressed up, take a women to a nice place for dinner and then ask to go dutch....Wouldn't that make you look a bit cheap?

depends on how much a cabin costs on the ferry across to the hoek.

 

[AussieAussieOiOi]

If you get all dressed up, take a women to a nice place for dinner and then ask to go dutch....Wouldn't that make you look a bit cheap?

Not really...

 

[Bigspurt]

Depends. If it's just a "lets go grab a bite to eat and a movie" Maybe dutch.

If I'm serious about a formal dressed up date and it was my idea and my choice of restaurant, I'm paying. If she protests maybe she can help out with the tip.

 

[AussieAussieOiOi]

Depends. If it's just a "lets go grab a bite to eat and a movie" Maybe dutch.

If I'm serious about a formal dressed up date and it was my idea and my choice of restaurant, I'm paying. If she protests maybe she can help out with the tip.

If someone protests my generosity I can say with certainty that'd I'd let them foot the bill.

 

[geronimo_appleby]

If someone protests my generosity I can say with certainty that'd I'd let them foot the bill.

are you near Freo? i'm there in late july if you wanna show me around and buy me stuff.

 

[lovecraft68]

Surprised no one's mention it depends how the date goes. If it was awkward, no chemistry, you know there will not be a second date then suggestion dutch may not be a bad idea and the woman will be cool with it because she won't feel some type of obligation for another date because you paid.

 

[AussieAussieOiOi]

are you near Freo? i'm there in late july if you wanna show me around and buy me stuff.

I live in QLD But If I was in freo you could bet I would!

 

[HayleyLuvsSex]

Surprised no one's mention it depends how the date goes. If it was awkward, no chemistry, you know there will not be a second date then suggestion dutch may not be a bad idea and the woman will be cool with it because she won't feel some type of obligation for another date because you paid.

That's a very good point. I like to pay half because I don't feel obligated to do something either way, whether that be sex or a second date.

 

[AussieAussieOiOi]

That's a very good point. I like to pay half because I don't feel obligated to do something either way, whether that be sex or a second date.

My honest reaction would be to just pay so I can get out of there without the ensuing awkwardness of an already awkward date. I'd never leave a date halfway through though, I always go to the end but once the dinner is finished and we've decided to leave, and the date was bad or just not up to par, I pay and leave, saying easy goodbyes and simple kiss on the cheek. Usually they don't text/call back afterwards.

 

[lovecraft68]

That's a very good point. I like to pay half because I don't feel obligated to do something either way, whether that be sex or a second date.

I haven't been single in 16 years so I'm sure the dynamic has changed, especially with many meeting through online sites first

But I always paid even if the date wasn't great, because I asked and I'm old school and think the guy should, but I never did it to 'get' anything, just figured it was the classy thing to do. I mean hey, at the least it was a night out with someone.