I'm slightly torn...

[lady_jennaxx]

It feels somewhat conflicted when you consider yourself a strong-willed, independent woman who is confident in her abilities and desires, yet part of the concept of having a "Daddy" in a sexual relationship appeals to you.

Let me clarify before going any further. I'm not fantasizing about any kind of incest. "Daddy" isn't related to me, nor do I want him to be. I'm not looking to be controlled in my day-to-day life. I'm not longing to dress up as a school girl in pigtails and knee socks. But sometimes, the thought of a man who is confident in his sexual prowess, knows what he has to offer and knows that he can provide her with that comfort zone, so she can allow herself to be a little vulnerable, is sexy to me. Is it possible to find men my age, or younger, that have those qualities/abilities?

Before I get inundated with PMs from "Daddies" who are looking for their bad little girl, please note, I'm not looking for any kind of D/s relationship, online or anywhere else. I'm not interested in being introduced to the lifestyle; no offense meant to those who live it, it's just not my thing. I just wonder if it's odd to enjoy part of that fantasy without wanting it to be all encompassing?

 

[tw63]

Get the needle out

Don't be torn. I have many of those feelings (for different things) but I'm learning it is not just normal - its almost everyone that has them. So consider yourself in good company and fantasize away.

PS
Feel free to write about them! ;-)

 

[SpunFun]

It's fun to play .enjoy yourself to the fullest .because why not?

 

[Carnevil9]

I think it is actually pretty common to fantasize about things that are the opposite of our normal life. That's what makes it fun and different! Think of the stereotype of the wealthy businessman or powerful politician who gets off on being dominated by a sexy domme in private - it's the turnaround, the escape from normal life, that makes it kinky.

 

[lydia_kitty]

I think it's very natural! I'm a very independent woman, but in the bedroom I just want a release. It's relaxing for me to let down my guard and let a man (Daddy, Dom or just assertive) take charge in the bedroom. Go with it!

 

[HeyAll]

A female mma fighter in the UFC recently called herself a bad-ass (or whatever) in real life, but submissive in the bedroom, saying the guy better take charge.

It's a common thing for powerful male business to prefer dominant women in the bedroom who take control.

People like the opposite. If you take charge all day, you want to release that control in the bedroom.

 

[vibes]

People like the opposite. If you take charge all day, you want to release that control in the bedroom.

^^^

This

But then again, everyone is different so it's not a golden rule. There you go

 

[dacoach44]

To flip?

Of course; it is fun to change roles. Who is hell does not get tired of carrying the same face, the same effort, the same tasks that only get boring. Which of course begs the question, is your partner nimble enough of mind to pull it off?

 

[lady_jennaxx]

Thanks for all that feedback, it's greatly appreciated

 

[Interested_Girl]

Yeah, honestly, this is probably one of the most common turn on's for both men and women.

I can completely relate (not to the Daddy thing (personally, this turns me off)), but wanting to be with someone who has complete control over you.

For women of a certain caliber, this type of interest is not only desired, it is almost a necessity. Young, educated, well read, well traveled, makes good or great money, have a certain amount of power in their everyday lives, men desire them, women want to be them...and then you get home....and all you want is someone to not notice any of those things, and just fucking MAN UP.

Don't be torn. Be desirable. Make those things happen for you.

 

[live4thebj]

It feels somewhat conflicted when you consider yourself a strong-willed, independent woman who is confident in her abilities and desires, yet part of the concept of having a "Daddy" in a sexual relationship appeals to you.

Let me clarify before going any further. I'm not fantasizing about any kind of incest. "Daddy" isn't related to me, nor do I want him to be. I'm not looking to be controlled in my day-to-day life. I'm not longing to dress up as a school girl in pigtails and knee socks. But sometimes, the thought of a man who is confident in his sexual prowess, knows what he has to offer and knows that he can provide her with that comfort zone, so she can allow herself to be a little vulnerable, is sexy to me. Is it possible to find men my age, or younger, that have those qualities/abilities?

Before I get inundated with PMs from "Daddies" who are looking for their bad little girl, please note, I'm not looking for any kind of D/s relationship, online or anywhere else. I'm not interested in being introduced to the lifestyle; no offense meant to those who live it, it's just not my thing. I just wonder if it's odd to enjoy part of that fantasy without wanting it to be all encompassing?

Absolutely not weird in anyway. I had a gf that later was a fuck buddy that confessed having a daddy fetish and even admitted to masturbating in front of her father 2xs. She used to pretend I was daddy and boy the fun we had with that. Nothing wrong with it at all.

We all have our things sort of speak. Embrace it.

 

[Hipshot1554]

Don't we take vacations to places where we don't necessarily want to live...?

 

[oOMinxOo]

A female mma fighter in the UFC recently called herself a bad-ass (or whatever) in real life, but submissive in the bedroom, saying the guy better take charge.

It's a common thing for powerful male business to prefer dominant women in the bedroom who take control.

People like the opposite. If you take charge all day, you want to release that control in the bedroom.

^^^

This

But then again, everyone is different so it's not a golden rule. There you go

I agree with these sentiments as well.

 

[DaddyAsh]

It feels somewhat conflicted when you consider yourself a strong-willed, independent woman who is confident in her abilities and desires, yet part of the concept of having a "Daddy" in a sexual relationship appeals to you.

Let me clarify before going any further. I'm not fantasizing about any kind of incest. "Daddy" isn't related to me, nor do I want him to be. I'm not looking to be controlled in my day-to-day life. I'm not longing to dress up as a school girl in pigtails and knee socks. But sometimes, the thought of a man who is confident in his sexual prowess, knows what he has to offer and knows that he can provide her with that comfort zone, so she can allow herself to be a little vulnerable, is sexy to me. Is it possible to find men my age, or younger, that have those qualities/abilities?

Before I get inundated with PMs from "Daddies" who are looking for their bad little girl, please note, I'm not looking for any kind of D/s relationship, online or anywhere else. I'm not interested in being introduced to the lifestyle; no offense meant to those who live it, it's just not my thing. I just wonder if it's odd to enjoy part of that fantasy without wanting it to be all encompassing?

No it is not odd, most powerful people in their lives are submissive at home, I used to have a little kitten, who ran her own million dollar a year business, but want to be treated as a pet, at home.

 

[Rom4nc3]

I couldn't agree more. I too am a confident independent woman but in the bedroom want to be dominated and lose control, switch off and have no control.

 

[Sheana_V]

I consider myself fierce and am a switch in the bedroom. Just make sure you have partners that are good with boundaries so that your sex life doesn't spill into real life

 

[Hulk781]

It's normal for a woman to be submissive to a King

Nothing wrong with that at all men are supposed to be aassertive, rugged, rugged, in comnand and able to satisfy his Queen with sexual aggression. Men are supposed to make women feel safe. Nothing liksa strong Queen being under a King.

 

[evest12]

not really

No ...I mean I understand why you think it might be conflicting but being taken care of is very basic and as an experienced "Daddy" I want to help my little girl know that she is safe, can trust me and the time we spend together is just for us....that's part of what I bring when I play Daddy...

 

[sidonie45]

I can relate to that part of a fantasy where you fantasise about being in a close and loving relationship with your dad that is beyond normal convention. But when I have, it certainly wasn't with my own father, who was quite violent, it's just the mental image of a 'father'.

I to am a strong willed independent woman. So what is the attraction? Perhaps it's the traditional role that a father represents, the protector, who provides those he loves with shelter and food, protects those he loves from harm, and ensures our wellbeing. And arent we thankful for it and what better way for a daughter to show her appreciation

Even us strong willed and independent women like to wallow in being loved, appreciated and comforted from time to time.

 

[Whiskey1965]

I can relate to that part of a fantasy where you fantasise about being in a close and loving relationship with your dad that is beyond normal convention. But when I have, it certainly wasn't with my own father, who was quite violent, it's just the mental image of a 'father'.

I to am a strong willed independent woman. So what is the attraction? Perhaps it's the traditional role that a father represents, the protector, who provides those he loves with shelter and food, protects those he loves from harm, and ensures our wellbeing. And arent we thankful for it and what better way for a daughter to show her appreciation

Even us strong willed and independent women like to wallow in being loved, appreciated and comforted from time to time.

Maybe that's why the older European couples would often refer to each other as Mama or Papa?
Or I could be just wrong, it happens!

It takes more strength to surrender yourself to your lover than to control one and when its returned such a wonderful feeling .

 

[sexymanlick69]

Mmm I would love to take control of a girl and have her cumming all nite

 

[Swinky]

I know that my girl feels much the same way, though she's a bit of a brat! When she calls me "Daddy", oooh...I get a shiver!

 

[Gwanji16]

Yeah, honestly, this is probably one of the most common turn on's for both men and women.

I can completely relate (not to the Daddy thing (personally, this turns me off)), but wanting to be with someone who has complete control over you.

For women of a certain caliber, this type of interest is not only desired, it is almost a necessity. Young, educated, well read, well traveled, makes good or great money, have a certain amount of power in their everyday lives, men desire them, women want to be them...and then you get home....and all you want is someone to not notice any of those things, and just fucking MAN UP.

Don't be torn. Be desirable. Make those things happen for you.

This is one of the best, most wise posts I have seen on this thread. I would add, though, in the interest of gender equity, there are times when men have the same needs and embrace sharing control in this way. For some, Dom/sub is a lifestyle. For others, like me, it is one tool in the toolbox, so to speak. Same with daddy/daughter, I guess, although that particular fantasy does nothing for me. I think the last line from this post says it all. Don't be torn. Be desirable. Make those things happen for you. I love this advice.

 

[sidonie45]

Maybe that's why the older European couples would often refer to each other as Mama or Papa?
Or I could be just wrong, it happens!

It takes more strength to surrender yourself to your lover than to control one and when its returned such a wonderful feeling .

I so love surrendering, Papa

 

[DemandingDaddy]

I've always been attracted to strong, smart mouthed women who happen to get off on begging for Daddy's cock in the bedroom. If you ever want some help philosophically working through it feel free to message me.

Promise not to ask for nudes.