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mnbreastluver
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Wear something sexy. Tell him your sorry and it won't happen again. Then get down on your knees and give him the best oral sex of his life. Hard to get mad when your doing that. Just my thought. I hope it works out for you. Good luck.
Palamino19
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Be careful. If this is something that happens a lot, using sex as an out can make him associate the two, and poison your sex life.
Think of it in terms like this: how much debt did I create? Will a blowjob today cover a year of debt? Probably not. But, it's not uncommon for marriages to go through this.
I had 15 years of debt piled on in a day. There's no sex act that was gonna solve that. Actual communication and actually recognizing how serious the problem really is or isn't will go way further than any sex.
My case is fairly extreme, although there is no shortage of guys who face long term debt due to this kind of thing.
If it's just tight for a month due to this, then blowjobs may be appropriate. If it's credit that won't be paid off for a long time, then it's serious, and, if it is common, is a threat that sex will never solve.
Sorry to get all serious, your situation may totally not be that kind of thing, I'm just making sure someone says, if the spending your talking about is serious and habitual, then it is a problem sex can't solve except in the short term. That said, if that is the case, the least he deserves is a blowjob, and a seriously good one delivered with all your heart.
Unless you both do it. Then he can't really complain. Though a blowjob might be nice anyway, as long as he returns the favor when he spends on silly stuff.
Think of it in terms like this: how much debt did I create? Will a blowjob today cover a year of debt? Probably not. But, it's not uncommon for marriages to go through this.
I had 15 years of debt piled on in a day. There's no sex act that was gonna solve that. Actual communication and actually recognizing how serious the problem really is or isn't will go way further than any sex.
My case is fairly extreme, although there is no shortage of guys who face long term debt due to this kind of thing.
If it's just tight for a month due to this, then blowjobs may be appropriate. If it's credit that won't be paid off for a long time, then it's serious, and, if it is common, is a threat that sex will never solve.
Sorry to get all serious, your situation may totally not be that kind of thing, I'm just making sure someone says, if the spending your talking about is serious and habitual, then it is a problem sex can't solve except in the short term. That said, if that is the case, the least he deserves is a blowjob, and a seriously good one delivered with all your heart.
Unless you both do it. Then he can't really complain. Though a blowjob might be nice anyway, as long as he returns the favor when he spends on silly stuff.
twister947
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I'm with Pal...sex won't fix that kind of irresponsible spending. Grow up, and be a team member.
Oops. Sounds like some crap coming your way!
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I think you just need to sit down and talk. Hopefully you have the ability to communicate well
Good Luck 
Palamino19
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I feel like I've betrayed my ideals by talking someone out of using blowjobs as a solution to all problems.
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If her spending money made me get more blowjobs, I'm all for it... just make sure we don't go broke
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This confirms my initial reaction. Offer to destroy the credit card and use only a debit card in the future. The only time you absolutely must have a credit card these days is when traveling. Hotels do not like to accept payment by debit card as they become liable for any losses they incur. When a customer uses a credit card, the credit card makes payment to the hotel and then is responsible for getting payment from the hotel guest. Therefore, switching to a debit card will guarantee that you can not spend money you and he do not have.
It won't be easy, but what you did was somewhat dishonest and it's going to take some work to repair the damage to your relationship.
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Sorry but I have had this happen in a same but different manner. My wife retired before I was ready for her to do so. It had to do with household income. It seems selfish to me that she did it because nothing changed when she retired. The same chores that didn't get done before are still not done and she runs out of money constantly because free time is spend time. It does not
Leave a good feeling. A rocky discussion is about to happen I feel.
Leave a good feeling. A rocky discussion is about to happen I feel.
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That dear lady is most important. Communication above all else.
fetishguy312
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I'm just trying to figure out where the fetish is in this situation
kinkymindnbody
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Honesty,First and Foremost!
I was married for many many years. I let my ex take care of the finances because i was working out of town plus I had my own business. I always gave her my pay check and there should of been plenty of money. She always complained of never having enough money.
I always had money hidden from my business mad money for emergencies. I would regretfully hand it over till we would sit down and have a blow out over finances. Even then I didnt get the full scoop. I finally got the full scoop when she was hit head on by a car and I took over the finances. I will spare you the gory details but it was a disaster. Bills were month behind. She had loans out everywhere. She had let insurances lapse. Why just to spend the money on herself. Sadly she had nothing to show for the money.
Honesty as painful in the short term is the best answer in the long term.If you want your marriage to survive and you love your husband you will take what might be coming! Good luck we all have been there at one time in our life.
I was married for many many years. I let my ex take care of the finances because i was working out of town plus I had my own business. I always gave her my pay check and there should of been plenty of money. She always complained of never having enough money.
I always had money hidden from my business mad money for emergencies. I would regretfully hand it over till we would sit down and have a blow out over finances. Even then I didnt get the full scoop. I finally got the full scoop when she was hit head on by a car and I took over the finances. I will spare you the gory details but it was a disaster. Bills were month behind. She had loans out everywhere. She had let insurances lapse. Why just to spend the money on herself. Sadly she had nothing to show for the money.
Honesty as painful in the short term is the best answer in the long term.If you want your marriage to survive and you love your husband you will take what might be coming! Good luck we all have been there at one time in our life.
