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omg somebody who gets it! I feel like bad enough the days I don't get anything done because I just can't deal with it; I don't need the man who says he loves me coming home and yelling at me because I didn't fold the laundry or do the dishes.....

Yeah, I've been through that too. I can't cook, eat and clean up all within the span of a couple of hours. I do love to cook but it takes a lot out of me and yeah, I need to leave the shit in the sink for a while while I recoup. A couple of years ago my father was having some health issues so I moved in with him for a bit. His "wife" (hanger-on is more accurate, hereafter referred to as "it") is disabled too after a brain tumor so you'd think it would be a little more reasonable about this shit but when I fucking make it dinner and take care of shit around the house while it's out playing cards and hanging out with its ex-husband it comes home and gets pissed off that I left all the dishes and shit to get cleaned up in the morning. And that's after it leaves used tissues and shit all over the place. That's just gross. And then it gets all butthurt and cries big fat crocodile tears when I tell it to stop leaving the damn stove on or just wait to start drinking until AFTER it's done with it.

...Anyway, sorry. I'm a bit frustrated. EVERYONE hates my father's wife. It's making it hard on my dad because his own family doesn't want to be around him when it's there. They're not living together right now though so he seems a lot happier than he's been in years. They're not separated or anything but I hope they are soon. He doesn't deserve all that shit. I'm getting roped into its birthday party in a few days. I'm only going because I don't get to see my dad or my stepsister that often at the moment. I'm not going to spend a long time there.

I'm sure your husband has his own issues to deal with and he's stressed out too but I think maybe you just can't know how hard it gets when you're in poor health for a prolonged period unless it happens to you personally. Maybe it's hard to tell the difference between when you feel like shit or are just lazy but that's kind of part of the whole marriage thing. In sickness and in health is still part of that, I think. But I don't really know your situation or his so I don't want to say too much about it.
 
Yeah, I've been through that too. I can't cook, eat and clean up all within the span of a couple of hours. I do love to cook but it takes a lot out of me and yeah, I need to leave the shit in the sink for a while while I recoup. A couple of years ago my father was having some health issues so I moved in with him for a bit. His "wife" (hanger-on is more accurate, hereafter referred to as "it") is disabled too after a brain tumor so you'd think it would be a little more reasonable about this shit but when I fucking make it dinner and take care of shit around the house while it's out playing cards and hanging out with its ex-husband it comes home and gets pissed off that I left all the dishes and shit to get cleaned up in the morning. And that's after it leaves used tissues and shit all over the place. That's just gross. And then it gets all butthurt and cries big fat crocodile tears when I tell it to stop leaving the damn stove on or just wait to start drinking until AFTER it's done with it.

...Anyway, sorry. I'm a bit frustrated. EVERYONE hates my father's wife. It's making it hard on my dad because his own family doesn't want to be around him when it's there. They're not living together right now though so he seems a lot happier than he's been in years. They're not separated or anything but I hope they are soon. He doesn't deserve all that shit. I'm getting roped into its birthday party in a few days. I'm only going because I don't get to see my dad or my stepsister that often at the moment. I'm not going to spend a long time there.

I'm sure your husband has his own issues to deal with and he's stressed out too but I think maybe you just can't know how hard it gets when you're in poor health for a prolonged period unless it happens to you personally. Maybe it's hard to tell the difference between when you feel like shit or are just lazy but that's kind of part of the whole marriage thing. In sickness and in health is still part of that, I think. But I don't really know your situation or his so I don't want to say too much about it.

My husband is the one who works, so sometimes I think he forgets about my emotional problems and just wants me to pull my share of the weight. Which is understandable, no one person can do it all. But there are days that I just do not have the emotional energy to do anything except for take care of myself and our youngest daughter. He tries to be as understanding as he can, but he will never truly get what it is like to be emotionally ill.
 
Wish we could do something all together (with voice) and have fun sometime. Raise everyone's spirits. :rose:
 
:eek: probably shouldn't admit this, but I don't care.

never knew that he was saying Valerie in that song and it's the name of the song. How dumb. Lol

Actually I like it when other people make comments like this because then I don't feel like such an outsider.
 
My husband is the one who works, so sometimes I think he forgets about my emotional problems and just wants me to pull my share of the weight. Which is understandable, no one person can do it all. But there are days that I just do not have the emotional energy to do anything except for take care of myself and our youngest daughter. He tries to be as understanding as he can, but he will never truly get what it is like to be emotionally ill.

That's probably true. I mean obviously the kids are the most important thing because they can't fend for themselves so they need to be taken care of no matter what but we don't exactly educate people about what depression is like here so that makes it a lot harder. Most people just think you can be happy if you choose to be or it takes some set formula to do it. Like the whole "all you need is X and you'll be happy and fulfilled" thing. No, sunshine. Not how it works.
 
But, now I want a nap. Grocery shopping zaps the energy right out of me

Yep, it'll do that, I can deal with grocery shopping but detest shopping for clothes. When I do the clothes and shoes thing I check all the adds, compare to online prices and then get what I need as quickly as possible.
 
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