What does dominating somebody feel like?
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I doubt that there's a consistent answer to this.
I can only speak for myself, but for me it feels like an honour, a privilege, and something to be undertaken with great pride and care.
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I can only speak for myself, but for me it feels like an honour, a privilege, and something to be undertaken with great pride and care.
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It feels powerful, exciting, and arousing. It's different than submitting, but it's hard to describe how. It taps into something different for me.
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Very hard to describe, but I believe I once described it as something like pure ice cold glacial pleasure running through my veins while riding a rocket ship headed out of orbit 
Very, very different than the warm pleasurable buzz of sub space for me.
I love them both, and I'm glad I have experienced both extremes.
Very, very different than the warm pleasurable buzz of sub space for me.
I love them both, and I'm glad I have experienced both extremes.
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So...Blood replaced with freezing cold water.
Sounds delightful.
Blood replaced with pleasure, and it is.
And if you only want to knock it, why did you ask?
Blood replaced with pleasure, and it is.
And if you only want to knock it, why did you ask?
I was just joking.
I forget that the internet doesn't convey sarcastic tone.
Sorry.
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It feels like the way life should be. Everything else feels like I'm reading from a bad script.
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Like the rest I can only answer for Myself but it feels like:
Holding your breath for so long that you think your lungs are going to explode in your chest and then taking that one full, deep breath of fresh, cooling air.
It feels like what you imagine weightlessness to be where you are so light that everything feels correct with the world.
It feels like perfection and whatever you perceive perfection to be.
It feels like you've been starving for several days and now you're enjoying your favourite meal of all time with as much of it as you could possibly need. This one is a two-way street because as much as she feeds Me, I feed her.
It feels like how you might imagine that instant when the first person discovered music for the first time in the history of humanity.
Holding your breath for so long that you think your lungs are going to explode in your chest and then taking that one full, deep breath of fresh, cooling air.
It feels like what you imagine weightlessness to be where you are so light that everything feels correct with the world.
It feels like perfection and whatever you perceive perfection to be.
It feels like you've been starving for several days and now you're enjoying your favourite meal of all time with as much of it as you could possibly need. This one is a two-way street because as much as she feeds Me, I feed her.
It feels like how you might imagine that instant when the first person discovered music for the first time in the history of humanity.
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LusciousLoralie
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More please? I love hearing about this
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it feels special, but besides the arousal, it's also a great responsibility. As long as your partner relies totally on you, you have to take care of her pleasure as well.
From my point of view, a bdsm relationship requires devotion from both sides. The dom belongs to his sub as much as the sub belongs to her dom. I don't know if you can understand what I'm saying, but it's very hard to describe how a dominant feels. Someone could say that the submissive holds the real power as she has someone who takes care of everything for her and worries 24/7 about her well-being.
From my point of view, a bdsm relationship requires devotion from both sides. The dom belongs to his sub as much as the sub belongs to her dom. I don't know if you can understand what I'm saying, but it's very hard to describe how a dominant feels. Someone could say that the submissive holds the real power as she has someone who takes care of everything for her and worries 24/7 about her well-being.
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Your description of a D/s relationship is not universal. In some relationships the sub does more taking care of the dom. Or both take care of eachother.
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It is the ultimate rush. To see someone's will handed over to you; to watch their need to please you overwhelm every other sense, including that of self-preservation, so that you become responsible for them; to see their eyes melting with a desire profounder than lust...it is intoxicating.
And yes, it has been far too long.
Oh, damn, now I'm turned on...
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in 24/7 lifestyle or sexually dominating? In both cases it's the control. I'm not into 24/7 because I'm attracted to dominate men in life. I don't want a slave. Sexually I like the control. Do the act of turning that over to me. The simple act of looking in a man's eyes and have him say "please" is heady.
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I find this thread a little fascinating. I've never even thought to ask what it's like to dominate someone.
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Is it more the taking control or the receiving power that you enjoy? Or are those things so closely linked that they can't be separated?
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For me, it's more the excitement and beauty of knowing that anything I wish can happen, and then realizing it. That feels delicious..
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For me, it's more the excitement and beauty of knowing that anything I wish can happen, and then realizing it. That feels delicious..
Do you think you could get the same 'high' in another way or activity?
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It's actually the same kind of high I get when I do my job really well, though they are not exactly the same. So.. kind of
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It's actually the same kind of high I get when I do my job really well, though they are not exactly the same. So.. kind of
Thank you for answering. I have yet to find anything to replicate the high of submission. I could be in the wrong line of work!
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For me, it taps into somthing more primal, I have very quiet unassuming manor, till be hind closed doors, the. This other side of me pops out. It is almost a Jekkle and Hyde, type thing. Knowing this person trust you, to do what ever you want to them, and helping take them to a place of bliss. I had one little, who could not sleep with out being in some form of Bondange, the absolute highest thrill was seeing her sleep, and get rest, then waking her up, to take my well deserved reward.
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Says a friend:
"There’s an adrenaline rush that comes from fully dominating a beautiful, submissive woman. You feel right with the world; like you can do anything and could give a damn what the world thinks about it."
"There’s an adrenaline rush that comes from fully dominating a beautiful, submissive woman. You feel right with the world; like you can do anything and could give a damn what the world thinks about it."
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It's actually the same kind of high I get when I do my job really well, though they are not exactly the same. So.. kind of
This is something I can relate very well to.
It's a kind of on top of the world flow thing.
It's very rarely something I look for in sexual situations but in social interactions, even flirting etc and like you said, when things go my way at work.
