Real-world effects of your stories

[Bramblethorn]

Some years before I came to Literotica, I shared some of my smutty stories with a single friend.

She said that reading those stories got her itching for the real thing, so she signed up at a dating site. There she met Mr. Right, and a couple of years later she got married. So my little story led to a huge change in somebody else's real life.

I suspect many of the other long-term authors here could tell a similar tale about how their erotica has affected somebody else's life. Care to share?

 

[sr71plt]

On a regular basis I get e-mails claiming that my stories have emboldened someone to do this or that or given them comfort about this or that. That may or may not be real, of course.

 

[loquere]

All my stories are true, word for word.

 

[Serafina1210]

A couple of times--once via a comment and once via a pretty extensive email exchange--I've heard from readers of my BDSM stories that I've inspired them to take the plunge into that world.

I have, for reasons I hope are obvious, mixed feelings about this. It's a big responsibility, influencing someone to adopt a lifestyle that's both physically and psychologically risky. I comfort myself with the thought that these people were already curious and had, as I understood, experimented at least a little before encountering my stories. Still, it haunts me.

I also write slut tales and extremely squicky fetish stuff, but no one has reacted the same way to those tales. Adultery stories too, but as far as I know I've never influenced anyone to commit adultery.

 

[Zeb_Carter]

No one reads mine but me, so...no I haven't changed anyone's life, not even myself.

 

[LIVINRFANTASIES]

Den and My Stories

Ours are simple true stories. We've been telling them from the first times we did these things.
We have seen and been told that we have encouraged others to try nudity, being an exhibitionist, and simple tit flashing in public.

This is the only reason we hope to share our little stories here.

 

[lovecraft68]

I'll give both the good and the bad.

On the bad side. I get a few disturbing e-mails around my incest stories. Things like how can I make my mom want me?

I respond, "You can't, leave her alone, this is fantasy."

I also received one that still bothers me from time to time on a dad/daughter story that involved bondage-but was fully consensual. "Reminded me of my first time with my daughter, she fought it the first few times then she came around" Hopefully they were blowing smoke.

But I get a lot of ones that at times make me wonder if I shoudl write this stuff, then default to if I stopped, they will move on to the tens of thousands of others here.

On the positive. I had a person here who has become a very good writer over the years tell me one of my stories inspired him to try to write himself. I've had two others claim similar since then.

The best was on my nude day story last year which was a true story. I got so many e-mails from people who were in similar situations, some worked out well s mine did some not so much, but even those said my story hot home and hit hard and made them emotional, but they loved the message.

Three people asked why I waste my time writing porn after that.

Because...I like it.

 

[NOIRTRASH]

I wrote legal and psychological papers before writing fiction. Legal and psychological writing affect people profoundly because the writing aimed at unleashing significant consequences. That is, for twenty years I wrote the stuff lawyers use to prevail at trial.

 

[NotWise]

Of course we all hope that wasn't fiction.

 

[sr71plt]

Of course we all hope that wasn't fiction.

It must have been. The question he was responding to was how his erotica had affected the lives of others.

 

[MagicaPractica]

A couple times I received messages that an essay I posted here kept someone from committing suicide. I have carried that with me ever since and used it to console myself in my own dark times. I hope their lives took a turn for the better.

 

[NotWise]

A couple times I received messages that an essay I posted here kept someone from committing suicide. I have carried that with me ever since and used it to console myself in my own dark times. I hope their lives took a turn for the better.

I haven't read the essay, but it sounds like you should keep a copy of it handy for others, and maybe as a reminder for yourself.

As far as my fiction goes, i would hope that <mumble, mumble> stuff never gets quoted as an effect on someone's life. It probably wouldn't be good.

 

[JKendallDane]

I tend to write gay romances more than anything else. Over the years, I've had numerous comments and emails how one of my stories has helped ease the pain of a breakup or given someone hope for finding their Mr. Right.

This comment posted earlier this month to my long-running Pizza Boy series and totally blew me away...

Don't want to invade anyone's space, but just in case any readers are still closeted and with women - figured I'd share that this story alone got me into the whole idea of gay sex. Now if I hadn't come across it myself, it might be different (don't know how I'd react if a partner sent it to me) but it'd be interesting to see if you can find a way for your girl to come across it 'accidentally.' Being as passionate as I am for a certain someone - I would definitely let him do anything he wanted with another male - and do my part too.

Sometimes our words are far more powerful than we realize.

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[AMoveableBeast]

Since I began writing on this site, insomnia has dropped by .02 percent in English-speaking countries. Coincidence? I think not.

They call me The Tryptophan Kid around these parts. *blows on pen*

 

[HandsInTheDark]

I suspect many of the other long-term authors here could tell a similar tale about how their erotica has affected somebody else's life. Care to share?

I don't think I've gotten anyone married, but I've gotten handfuls of "How did you know? You're writing my inner thoughts." A number have changed how they approach relationships.

My worry is that since I tend to write D/s with HEA endings, someone may and probably has tried it in real life and picked the wrong partner. My solace is that while my stories end HEA, I go out of my way to show the bumps and mistakes that can happen along the way. But people read what they want to read and disregard the rest. I've probably caused a divorce somewhere.

The real question any of us should be asking is how many births we've generated. Read, get horny, screw, and nine months later, there you go. I doubt we'd ever hear about such events, but it's a statistical certainty it's happened. For affecting someone's life - and society as a whole - nothing beats a baby.

 

[ElectricBlue]

A couple of therapists from spinal injury units told me that my Rope and Veil story would make a great resource for folk recovering their sexual lives after suffering catastrophic spinal damage.

That's a humbling thought, that erotica can actually be useful, rather than just self-indulgent.

 

[lovecraft68]

Looking at the above post and pretty much saying have we gotten people horny, gotten them off has our stories led to hot sex?

I'm sure it has for all of us here, maybe to varying degrees, but if you're writing erotica-even with 'depth' and deeper meanings you're still writing sex with the intent to arouse.

I enjoy knowing that many woman have sat there wet while reading my stories. That afterwards-or during-they've read one handed or slipped the toy of choice in or gone and woke up their partner and took it out on them.

Although I have no interest in men I still like hearing some guy comment I was hard all the way through.

My wife is a motivational speaker and I joke I am equally motivational with words

And what I find amusing is the 'real men' I know in real life, you know them, the 40 year old frat boys that are married and chasing any woman that walks by, the ones that think they are studs, the ones that make fun of us guys loyal to their wives and they think they are all that.

Then I think how many women have gotten hot over my work, how many nasty dirty e-mails I have gotten from them, how many pictures of them(okay supposedly them) I've been sent

Skype requests, meet up offers, I've gotten loads of them and I am sure many here have and its all harmless, I'm getting women turned on and am safely within my marriage and my wife gets turned on knowing other women think my work is sexy its win win.

So when mister sleaze is bragging about how studly he is, I always think, but can you make 500 people come with just your words?

 

[Desiremakesmeweak]

Since I began writing on this site, insomnia has dropped by .02 percent in English-speaking countries. Coincidence? I think not.

They call me The Tryptophan Kid around these parts. *blows on pen*

Funny bastard. : )

 

[NOIRTRASH]

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A couple of therapists from spinal injury units told me that my Rope and Veil story would make a great resource for folk recovering their sexual lives after suffering catastrophic spinal damage.

That's a humbling thought, that erotica can actually be useful, rather than just self-indulgent.

My grad school stats and research perfesser published a few romance/erotica for cripples. His name is William Emener

http://www.amazon.com/My-Sweetpea-S...58736383&sr=1-16&refinements=p_82:B001HD2084

One of his books for cripples.

 

[HandsInTheDark]

Then I think how many women have gotten hot over my work, how many nasty dirty e-mails I have gotten from them, how many pictures of them(okay supposedly them) I've been sent

First thing I do is drop the picture into Google Image Search. (After all, they probably found it through Google). When it turns up with someone else's name, that's my cue to not write back.

Getting pictures has gotten very rare, probably because more people realise that image search is a thing.

 

[Serafina1210]

Since I began writing on this site, insomnia has dropped by .02 percent in English-speaking countries. Coincidence? I think not.

They call me The Tryptophan Kid around these parts. *blows on pen*

Two thumbs up.

 

[FantasyXY]

I started actually writing down the stories and fantasies that were bouncing around in my head just a few months before I joined Literotica.

I had a profile up on an adult dating site and mentioned that I had lots of sexual fantasies in my self description. A few weeks after I had decided that the site was little more than a sausage fest, a woman contacted me. Her message was very clear. She never wanted to meet, but she did want someone to swap some dirty emails with.

At first we were just sending bits and pieces of our dirty little fantasies to each other, then it turned into full blown story telling. She would send me a story with her wants and desires in it, and I would insert the parts a man would like to read. She did the same for my stories by inserting a woman's touch.

At the time I was really into the primal side of sex so most of my stories and the things I wrote to her were all about raw sensuality. Her stories all seemed to contain elements of having an affair. At one point she started telling me about the new things she was trying with her husband from my stories and how it had reignited their sex life. One other time shortly after I emailed a story to her she send me a message back congratulating me on providing her with her first at work orgasm.

Of course all this time I was thinking she might actually be a some dude jerking my chain instead of a woman, but a few days after the orgasm at work incident, she asked if we could meet for lunch. When I got to the restaurant I was relieved to see that she was indeed a woman, and pleasantly surprised at how pretty she was. After we ate we sat close together in the booth and she pulled an erotic photo book from her purse, and opened it to a page she had marked. The photo on that page was a black and white side view of a women pinned against a wall with a man's hand between her legs.

I'm not generally good at taking hints, but I did get that one. I looked around the restaurant to make sure no one was watching, and slipped my hand up her skirt. Sure enough, she wasn't wearing any underwear and was already really wet. I played for a bit as we looked each other in the eyes and she discreetly rolled her hips side to side and quietly panted. Then the waitress interrupted with the check. Apparently she had been standing there watching for some time.

We left the restaurant totally embarrassed and nothing else happened. She also stopped sending messages after that, except for the one I received on my birthday. It was a message with long detailed description of what it was like sucking her husband's cock while she imagined it was mine. At the end of the message she thanked me for saving their marriage with the acts of raw primal passion she was trying out from my stories.

I'll never be able to think of Olive Garden in the same way again.

 

[Hypoxia]

I get the *very* occasional comment that one of my pieces is the best thing they've ever read, or wondering when I'll expand it into a novel they can buy. I can discern no other IRL effects. At least nobody seems to have seriously tried to track me down for whatever.

 

[sr71plt]

I get the *very* occasional comment that one of my pieces is the best thing they've ever read, or wondering when I'll expand it into a novel they can buy. I can discern no other IRL effects. At least nobody seems to have seriously tried to track me down for whatever.

Well, in that vein, I've had two people try to connect with me in person from writing sites--one from Literotica the other from a mainstream site--and I headed both of them off at the pass, but not without them coming to my town and reporting they walked by my house. Hooked up with another one in cyberspace in connection with erotica, one who reached out to me on another Web site and pulled me into this one; became my editor, cowriter, and one of my publishers; and with whom I hook up at least once a day from across the world.