Dating Sites: How Should Men Message Women?

[Sinny]

LRLL!

RLRR. Oh, yeah.

 

[Saint Peter]

All this seems like a lot of work for a blowie.

Raise your price.

 

[Wings]

I can take a joke. Just try to actually be funny.

I'm told I have a dry sense of humor. I probably do.

Jesus.

You're right, to hell with you.

 

[NOIRTRASH]

What works with WINGS is 'WHAT WUD YOU DO FOR A KLONDIKE BAR?"

 

[Porkwarrior]

All this seems like a lot of work for a blowie.

Right?

Guys, here's an easy tip:

If she laughs at Mr.Winkles, she's worth a first date.

http://i1276.photobucket.com/albums/y477/porkwarrior1/MrWinkle2_zps1783be15.jpg

If she forwards your IP to PETA while using all caps calling you a ANIMAL ABUSING BASTARD, HAVEN'T YOU WATCHED BLACKFISH, OMFG ANIMALS AREN'T ON GAIA FOR HUMAN AMUSEMENT....

Pass. Not only will your sheets smell like hummus & pit hair forever, but her BJ's will at best be mediocre.

 

[LJ_Reloaded]

As far as I'm concerned, men have lost the right to approach a woman for a date in any context whatsoever. And when my son is of dating age, he will be taught exactly that - only approach a woman who has expressed interest already. Sorry, but too many men - read: damn near all of them - have abused that right by sending dick pics, committing crimes against women, catcalling, being pick-up artists and players, the list goes on and on.

"But Randy, not all men--"

Yes. All men. Deal with it.

"But Randy, why should we take away a man's rights?"

Let's make men the scared sex for once. Men only figure out inequality when they're on the short end of it - case in point, the uprising of fathers' rights groups. Never mind that fathers deserve the short end in domestic court, but if you want men to give a shit, put them at a disadvantage.

"But Randy, they're already at a disadvantage! They have to pay for every date and buy an engagement ring and--"

OK, fuck you. Fuck you straight in your stupid, ignorant MRA ear. Be a man. Buy her stuff.

Seriously, men, the hell with all of you, including myself. Yeah, it is personal. When I look like a dipshit because of your actions, it is personal.

Never buy a woman stuff unless she has a habit of buying it for you.

Men do not owe women anything.

And if I ever met MrRandyWatson's son I'd make sure to tell him that.

 

[LJ_Reloaded]

Randy doesn't have to message women because he talks to himself.


Be like Randy.

Now that stings.

 

[LJ_Reloaded]

Wait. You never have been on a dating site, yet you know that things go well when a woman messages you? You sure you never have been on a dating site?

It went well for me when that happened. I married her and we got 4 kids. God willing we'll die married and quite elderly.

A woman who messages a man first is a woman using her neo cortex and not her animal brain. First sign of a good woman is one whose neo cortex has launched a successful coup against her lizard brain.

 

[LadyFunkenstein]

Women who message men first are undesirables, usually fat and ugly.

 

[DudeA]

Not true, this person was super hot...

 

[LJ_Reloaded]

Women who message men first are undesirables, usually fat and ugly.

Oh come on now, LadyFunk, you're usually smarter and more nuanced than that. This is silly and inaccurate generalizing.

Furthermore, ugly is in the eye of the beholder. And if a man rejects a woman because she's fat or ugly, he's not mature enough for an actual relationship.

 

[Lancecastor]

Potshots from the peanut gallery aside....Randy did touch on a truism, as did Sinny.

Online, as in real life, the best women tend to find ways to let you know they are interested without the guy having to chase them.

What's that old expression....?...."He chased her until she let him catch her."

 

[DudeA]

When a woman is interested in you, she's usually really interested in you... While if a guy hits on you, then he's pretty much hitting on every women that he can see...

 

[LadyFunkenstein]

Oh come on now, LadyFunk, you're usually smarter and more nuanced than that. This is silly and inaccurate generalizing.

Furthermore, ugly is in the eye of the beholder. And if a man rejects a woman because she's fat or ugly, he's not mature enough for an actual relationship.

Undesirable can mean something other than fat or ugly. They could for instance be a single mom with 2-3 different baby daddies. But yes they are Undesirable, otherwise they'd just sift through their in box.

 

[LJ_Reloaded]

Undesirable can mean something other than fat or ugly. They could for instance be a single mom with 2-3 different baby daddies. But yes they are Undesirable, otherwise they'd just sift through their in box.

Maybe the men in their inbox aren't desirable?

No woman ever has an empty meta inbox. All women have some man pining for them. All. A woman's dilemma is always whether the men pining for her are alpha enough for her tastes.

It takes a truly piteous woman that no man wants. I don't think it's even possible for a woman to sink that low. Not the fattest and objectively (let us assume for a second that physical ugliness can be objective) ugliest woman with four kids by six (haaha) baby daddies gets that close to rock bottom.

There is no such thing as undesirable when it comes to a woman. For a woman, there is only ever 'undesirable to alpha males'.

I promise you, even Susan Boyle can get genuinely hit on by a man within an hour. He probably won't be someone that satisfies her hypergamic urges, though.

 

[LadyFunkenstein]

Maybe the men in their inbox aren't desirable?

No woman ever has an empty meta inbox. All women have some man pining for them. All. A woman's dilemma is always whether the men pining for her are alpha enough for her tastes.

It takes a truly piteous woman that no man wants. I don't think it's even possible for a woman to sink that low. Not the fattest and objectively (let us assume for a second that physical ugliness can be objective) ugliest woman with four kids by six (haaha) baby daddies gets that close to rock bottom.

There is no such thing as undesirable when it comes to a woman. For a woman, there is only ever 'undesirable to alpha males'.

I promise you, even Susan Boyle can get genuinely hit on by a man within an hour. He probably won't be someone that satisfies her hypergamic urges, though.

Exactly. Most women have a full in box with men spanning from desirable to not.. Which is why having to search and message men first means that women is bottom of the barrel.

 

[Pashenry]

Prospecting.

Sure. Nothing easier than selling what someone wants. Have what they want.

I was not for sale..... the first step is seek to understand .... Then be understoood. It s not about what you got its about what they need. Then you can tap into them.

A good sales rep uses the principle of attraction rather than promotion. That would work in dating.

 

[DudeA]

Exactly. Most women have a full in box with men spanning from desirable to not.. Which is why having to search and message men first means that women is bottom of the barrel.

It doesn't mean that the woman "had to search for men" because she had none... It might mean that the woman got tired of the bullshit and simply started to look for someone that she actually liked.

 

[Lancecastor]

Undesirable can mean something other than fat or ugly. They could for instance be a single mom with 2-3 different baby daddies. But yes they are Undesirable, otherwise they'd just sift through their in box.

There is no silver bullet that explains everything.

Some of the best looking women online never post a photo with their profile, for example.

 

[Pashenry]

There is no silver bullet that explains everything.

Some of the best looking women online never post a photo with their profile, for example.

Never stopped me from meeting someone on a dating site. They all looked fine to me. Plus I had proposed meeting for coffee not lets fuck now. So no biggie.

 

[Lancecastor]

They all looked fine to me.

For people with low standards, online dating is a cornucopia, I would think.

 

[Riles]

Wading through the swamp water that is an inbox on a dating site never appealed to me. I rather liked making my own selections in men, not waiting around, hoping a decent one would pop up. But I suppose it comes down to available time and confidence.

 

[NOIRTRASH]

I was not for sale..... the first step is seek to understand .... Then be understoood. It s not about what you got its about what they need. Then you can tap into them.

A good sales rep uses the principle of attraction rather than promotion. That would work in dating.

Naaah. It they want it, its sold. Hit the books.

 

[Lancecastor]

When I have shopped online, I usually specify that I won't be writing...you have to write me.

I've felt good about the results, so maybe one answer for the OP is : don't bother writing them at all.

 

[NOIRTRASH]

Back in high school I dated a gal who couldn't get a date because she was so smart. I like smart women and liked the hell outta her.

For all intents and purposes I was ideal. Cute, healthy, worked, and took her to the best places and events. But she got the idea she could do better, and dumped me to go out with my good friend, who I knew to be the biggest cheapskate on Earth. She went out with him once, then spent the whole summer dateless. She wasn't all that smart.