Fedup with vote bombers and stupid comments

[AMoveableBeast]

OK, you can play too. Back it up with examples of what you thought worked.

The funny bone is NOT connected to the penis or the clit.

I wasn't really arguing that sex and humor are hard to do in combination. I was more agreeing that the best place to do funny isn't in H&S. I just think the readers there are all jaded comedians or something. It's like Showtime At the Apollo mixed with an adult theater. It's a rough fucking crowd.

If I were to debate this issue, however, I'd say that people vary greatly in what arouses them. The fetish category is proof of that. I don't like sex and giggles, but a lot of people seem to.

Romantic comedies are popular for a reason.

 

[SamScribble]

I don't like sex and giggles, but a lot of people seem to.

That said, I don't think I've ever had a woman say: 'You're not taking this seriously enough.'

Hello, Beast.

 

[AMoveableBeast]

That said, I don't think I've ever had a woman say: 'You're not taking this seriously enough.'

Hello, Beast.

Hiya.

I may have heard that myself a couple times actually.

 

[MSTarot]

As the title says.

Recent votes on my work - which I do understand might polarise the readership - and stupid comments on the same, makes me just want to not post anymore stories.

Why don't the readers understand that negative feedback isn't constructive, it just drives authors away?

Think of it as a learning experience, these comments and scores. A toughening-up of your hide, as it were. Learn to take the hits and keep coming back for more.

I promise you, I have been called everything under the sun. There is no comment out there that can stop me from writing. Hell, I'll write the next one to spite that commenter.

Gene Simmons was talking about the early days of KISS, he mentioned that their first three albums did terribly. They were seen as a joke by radio stations and music magazines. They were playing to empty bars for pennies, often not even making the money they spent on gas to get there.

"Oh, you don't like this album, well here's another one. You don't like that one either? Well, here's another."

Literotica is many things to many people. If you're wanting popular acclaim you can get it here, writing to and for the horny masses. Find a story idea/category you can stomach and write it over and over. Story after story. Knock out a few hundred and you will be there.

Or ... stay with me here, try to walk the roads less traveled. Take on subjects you wouldn't. Push yourself, and yeah take the hits when they come in. See Literotica not as simply a place to post stories but as your school. Use this marvelous tool to learn to be the best writer you can be.

And remember, you can't make everyone happy.

MST

 

[geronimo_appleby]

As the title says.

Recent votes on my work - which I do understand might polarise the readership - and stupid comments on the same, makes me just want to not post anymore stories.

Why don't the readers understand that negative feedback isn't constructive, it just drives authors away?

stop crying and post in Loving Wives.

 

[AMoveableBeast]

stop crying and post in Loving Wives.

Love the bomb!

 

[Altissimus]

But that being said we're dealing with a readership that complains about stories about adultery on a porn site.

Yes, I had a reader complain about a character being "mistreated" because they were spanked in a non-consent/reluctance story.

Wtf, seriously?

I personally spoke to the character in question and they didn't feel they'd been mistreated at all (on the contrary actually).

 

[Handley_Page]

As the title says.

Recent votes on my work - which I do understand might polarise the readership - and stupid comments on the same, makes me just want to not post anymore stories.

Why don't the readers understand that negative feedback isn't constructive, it just drives authors away?

I get the impression that you think the 'readership' has both the competence and confidence to be able to make a reasoned judgement on your writing.
Sorry to tell you, but a lot just ain't got either.
And that doesn't include the idiot who behaves like a troll, just because he (or she) can.
Yes, there are those readers with the necessary knowledge to make a reasoned assessment of your work. You may find them in the "Editors" thread.

My advice is "bite the bullet, get a grip and try again".

 

[meddlesome]

The moment you move into (what you think is) humor, you evaporate sensuality.

I do agree that knee-slapping pure comedy (badumbump) would distract from arousal, but if it's dark comedy directly related to and consequential to the goings on, it can be humourous and erotic at the same time.

 

[sr71plt]

I do agree that knee-slapping pure comedy (badumbump) would distract from arousal, but if it's dark comedy directly related to and consequential to the goings on, it can be humourous and erotic at the same time.

I think a good approach would be for funny things to happen during a sex scene that were pointed to by the narrator but that the couple themselves be in the steamy sensual zone in spite of everything happening.

 

[HandsInTheDark]

Two different ideas in this thread.

Women like guys with a sense of humor. Seems generally true. And not much of a surprise - humor is associated with intelligence and social confidence. Your upwardly mobile male has a sense of humor.

But I agree that if you want eroticism - that dark sense of losing yourself in need and desire - humor is a distraction at best. (If you want affection - two people deeply in love cuddling in bed and cracking wise before making love, it's fine. A lot of flirting and foreplay involves playful comedy.) But arousal is supposed to be a deeply emotional thing, not an intellectual thing. If I was coaxing a woman's desires, I'd find her being funny ("ohh, baby, that reminds me of the joke about the guy in a bar who...") as offputting and buzzkillish as her starting to solve math problems for work. ("Yeah, that feels nice, but I just don't see why I'm supposed to be using sine to model population density over time.")

I find it interesting that I like girls with a sense of humor but don't remember ever finding it sexy. Maybe I don't want them stealing my limelight.

 

[NotWise]

But I agree that if you want eroticism - that dark sense of losing yourself in need and desire - humor is a distraction at best.

That is a very narrow definition of eroticism.

 

[SamScribble]

... I agree that if you want eroticism - that dark sense of losing yourself in need and desire ...

Damn! That's where I've been going wrong for the past 60 years or so.

 

[Handley_Page]

I think a good approach would be for funny things to happen during a sex scene that were pointed to by the narrator but that the couple themselves be in the steamy sensual zone in spite of everything happening.

An excellent point, Pilot

 

[HandsInTheDark]

That is a very narrow definition of eroticism.

It is, but narrower definitions are useful for making points. If I define an erotic moment as something driven by need- in other words, squeeze it until all the affection drains out and what's left is hindbrain desire - it's easy to see why sex and humor don't mix. The hindbrain isn't laughing when it's penetrating or penetrated. It's busy screaming YES!

Widen it to include affection, handholding and cuddling, and humor fits in again. But affection, handholding and cuddling aren't sex. They are maybe sometimes precursors.

I think of it this way - if I try to imagine someone laughing while mounting and penetrating a female, I either come up completely blank, or get an image of a creepy, predatory laughter, which for me at least is much too bleak to consider erotic.

 

[twistedsickmind]

Meet Gary

https://www.literotica.com/s/the-one-bomber

If I might humbly add my own contribution in response to the original comment.

 

[HandsInTheDark]

https://www.literotica.com/s/the-one-bomber

If I might humbly add my own contribution in response to the original comment.

Too funny. And too true.

 

[Carnal_Flower]

Why twstedsickmind, fancy seeing you here

 

[NotWise]

It is, but narrower definitions are useful for making points.

Or it makes your point irrelevant.

I think of it this way - if I try to imagine someone laughing while mounting and penetrating a female, I either come up completely blank, or get an image of a creepy, predatory laughter, which for me at least is much too bleak to consider erotic.

I shall pity you.

 

[sixpe]

I find the same. I have seen (and received) several comments complaining about 'cuckold' stories even though they are tagged as such. If readers don't like it, why are they reading it? Don't they understand the difference between real and fantasy?

 

[lovecraft68]

I find the same. I have seen (and received) several comments complaining about 'cuckold' stories even though they are tagged as such. If readers don't like it, why are they reading it? Don't they understand the difference between real and fantasy?

Same types who troll the incest/non con and gay male section telling the authors how sick they, but yet they are there.

I think those types have the kink, it turns them on then they go into self loathing mode, but blame the author.

 

[Handley_Page]

I find the same.
.
Don't they understand the difference between real and fantasy?

Only when there's an R in the month.